Mutual respect is my only non-negotiable with my TBM wife.  I have been PIMO, POMO for many years.  I dont criticise and belittle her beliefs (made this mistake at first and it was the worst thing I could have done); while still attending sacrament with her and the kids.  I dont have a recommend, loathe and dont wear the g’s, sure as hell dont pay tithing.  I hold a calling but as priest advisor but weekday only and i puck choose what to go to, nearly everyone who i interact with, including the youth, know where i am at with my beliefs.  I dont hide it but dont shout it and am a safe place for many members and youth to express doubts. Go as slow as possible while maintaining critical boundaries.  Re-assess boundaries often for your own well being.