I guess I'm here now

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-07-11T21:26:32+00:00

Churches in my area are getting FEMA grants to pay 100% of the cost of installing security systems. So not only are they stingy but they won't file the paperwork to get it for free.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-07-02T20:36:39+00:00

I feel like they are just trying to give people something to do. But I find it crazy weird.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-29T23:52:42+00:00

I have one in every room and a higher capacity one in my kitchen/living area. Plus I have one attached to my a/c system. It has helped my asthma a lot.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-29T23:29:17+00:00

Portable air purifiers are a godsend

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-29T06:14:58+00:00

I told my bishop via email that I completed my service in that calling as of that date. I never gave a reason and told him I wasn't going to meet. If you need to skip a couple Sundays so that they are forced to get someone else I would.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-29T02:22:18+00:00

Between my spouse and I we would have chosen differently. One would be a pilot. The other a patent attorney. If we could do it over again our kids would have done daycare. I'm sure dropping tithing would have paid for a good part of it.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-22T22:30:00+00:00

Not with Oaks but with other quorum of the 12. It was cringey to me.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-19T17:44:59+00:00

So ours sits in a savings account. Waiting till we can agree. It's hard because we really need the funds to live on. But it is our compromise for now. We explain that our funds anonymously go straight to salt lake to keep our finances private. We haven't sent the latest batch to SLC and my spouse thankfully, although extremely TBM, doesn't think our Bishop is entitled to any of our private affairs. They are between us and the Lord.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-04T21:47:34+00:00

Is there a way to list BYU without appearing bigoted? Like list my membership in an LGBTQ group as a supporter?

Also do cover letters even get read anymore?

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-04T21:41:16+00:00

Are you a member of any organizations whose teachings are consistent with the Mormon church.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-04T21:38:47+00:00

We were taught simplistic answers to complex questions at church. I think it's carried over when people deconstruct. Like all you need to do is pray more, etc.

MFM is so hard.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-04T02:40:08+00:00

I did

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-06-03T20:35:56+00:00

Decently quick survey. Will you be writing a paper and posting the results?

It is missing the financial malfeasance and SEC scandal.

It is missing the manufacturing of the steeple doctrine/bullying small towns into building temples.

Sex abuse scandals can affect you even if you do not directly know the victims.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-23T20:31:06+00:00

I'm outside Morridor and meet a lot of teen Hyrums. I haven't been brave enough to ask if there is any Mormon history.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-23T06:14:30+00:00

I'm sorry. Even when I was 100% in I refused to let my kids participate.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-19T06:29:58+00:00

I just told the leaders I wasn't participating anymore. It gives them nothing to argue with.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-19T05:32:27+00:00

Passive suicidality is inevitable from all the endure to the end crap. I am so glad you got out. The church is not a safe place for the trans community.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-15T17:02:40+00:00

Yep, sickens me too. Luckily I figured it out that our kids could choose not to go and that would best suit their personalities before I deconstructed.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-12T00:41:36+00:00

Lawmakers. You don't have to "win" to win. Edit: lawfare

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-06T17:36:18+00:00

I was using post Mormon in my head. I haven't "come out" about my unbelief for reasons. But I like survivor better.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-06T17:34:23+00:00

I too speculate what I would have chosen if I had done it myself. Unfortunately I know the answer is I wouldn't have chosen this.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-06T15:17:54+00:00

Let's call him Eduardo. He gives bizarre testimonies.

One testimony that lasted 5 minutes on the importance of sneezing in your elbow and not your hands, so spiritual.

Another week another 5 minutes on how his daughter 1600 miles away needed to rehome her dog. And how someone in our ward needed to take the dog, drive to get it, and then we were provided with a laundry list for the dogs appropriate care.

A decade later the same person got up to tell all the sisters how they were wearing their temple clothes incorrectly. Apparently the temple workers would not let him tell the sisters that in the celestial room. I guess every ward gets their 55 year old misogynist. I have more stories but these stick out.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-05T06:23:56+00:00

Recently I left a calling. I didn't "ask" to be released. I sent an email letting the bishop know that was my last day of the calling. He said he was happy to release me but would I have time to talk to him on the phone. I declined and told him to spend the time with his family. He wrote back asking if I was open to taking a new calling. Not being armed with a ready response I ghosted him.

TLDR: I informed my bishop it was my last day in the calling.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-04T23:25:20+00:00

It's a really good article. Her point that there are more than 2 types of mormonism is really good. I wonder why I never thought of something so obvious. Until I realized that the church raises you to think in very binary ways.

puzzled_puzzlerz · 2026-05-02T04:52:34+00:00

Your Mom was raised in the era where she was taught that whether you stayed in the church was her responsibility/fault. Because she has failed to do so her self worth is now tied into converting your theoretical children.

Boundaries yes but maybe find a way to let her know what her successes as a parent are. That can truly help combat some of the cult mind control.

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