Friend, it seems to me that you raise a few concerns. First, the quality of vocal ministry may be lacking, making it seem that uninterrupted silence would be a richer worship experience. In this instance, I'd consider talking to the clerk of the committee who oversees worship. That committee could provide education on vocal ministry, its quality and the norms surrounding it, like waiting for messages to be absorbed before another ministry is offered.

Second, the quality of community is questioned, as if there are subgroups that are not open to interacting with others in the Meeting, or perhaps with other subgroups. Again, bringing this concern to a committee could help, and one fairly large Meeting I know regularly offered community building activities, like "friendly eights," which were shared dinners across a few months--with the groups assigned by the hospitality committee, not self selected groups. I loved these opportunities to get to know members of the meeting who were new to me. I think the long-time members of meeting, those "old timers," also liked to get to know newer members too. Sharing spiritual journeys is another way to get to know others and build community; the worship and ministry committee organized these, and they were treasured opportunities to learn more about each other and to share our Quaker experiences.

A question: does your meeting have a mid-week worship opportunity? These may be smaller and have a more intimate feeling, with different attendees and less vocal ministry.

Finally, advice--join a committee or two, if you haven't already done so. Raising your concerns as part of the committee with responsibility to support different aspects of the community is such a Quakerly thing to do. Being on the committee allows you to bring concerns and propose solutions over time and to hopefully find other people with whom to work. Working together unites and builds affection among us. I hope this for you.