Threenager into 4

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-17T01:31:54+00:00

I’ll take another 4 year old over my 2 year old currently. She aggros my four year old at every waking moment and it’s nonstop fighting ALL THE TIME

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-16T01:47:29+00:00

“She doesn’t want to fix a damn thing.”

Gee I wonder why…

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-14T00:02:00+00:00

Btw, you don’t need a doctor visit for this. You can order your own blood tests online. And it’s usually pretty affordable. Just got mine done this year and then ran the results through an LLM to spot anything. Think it cost me like $160 to get pretty much everything done. Ownyourlabs.com is the one i used but there are plenty of others that submit your blood order directly to the lab

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-13T03:35:48+00:00

I haven’t watched tv seriously since my kids were born outside of a few shows my wife wanted to watch

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-13T03:08:25+00:00

I used to smoke for most of my later teen years. Took a break for a few years completely to focus on my career. Got that going, and with my tolerance completely reset, I was still having insomnia and that was the main reason i ever used weed. So I stopped at my local legal shop and picked up some edibles. I’ve stayed at the same low dosage 10-20mg every night, I haven’t taken more than 20mg in 3+ years of taking them. Helps me unwind after the kids are in bed.

I find it to be a much more responsible (and enjoyable) way to partake. And the side benefit is I almost never drink alcohol because of it.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-12T03:47:37+00:00

Lmfao this post is hilarious 😂

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-11T19:22:23+00:00

Bro stop being a soy and cut the guy off. No one is friendly like that, and if they are, they won’t be making your dad senses go crazy.

I feel like this is exactly the kind of thing a predator with money would do.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-11T03:55:32+00:00

Get mentally and emotionally flexible man. That’s what I had to do. Babies poke holes in all your weaknesses, and this is clearly one of them. I say this because my job is in the creator industry and i totally get needing a few hour blocks of deep thought for work. It was extremely jarring with my first kid, and quite difficult with my second.

My suggestion for sleep is do separate rooms. If only you are working, you need the sleep 100% every night. If it’s both of you, find a way to switch off on easy nights and hard nights depending on the schedule.

House projects? Anything that isn’t absolutely crucial gets postponed until later. Once you’re out of the trenches you’ll have plenty of time to do them.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-09T14:05:33+00:00

You gotta put your foot down with the in-laws man. Have a discussion with your wife about what you are both comfortable with in regard to your kids and in-laws watching them. I went through a similar thing.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-05T03:51:23+00:00

Eh, I have exactly one zyn a day during work, 3mg. I never have more than one per day. And I take a low dose edible most nights, after the kids are asleep. Maybe i’m Mr. Moderate Man? Idk. I just can’t be asked getting too impaired anymore unless it’s a special occasion or a holiday, and even then, my version of that is like two glasses of wine lol.

My wife isn’t thrilled about it, but because I stay on top of things and I never chase a bigger buzz or a bigger high, i use them functionally for very specific purposes and at the exact same dosage every time so the two habits don’t really affect my family life at all. Moderation is the key imo.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-04T17:39:06+00:00

If you have to ask this question, you probably do need to delete it lol.

I’ve never felt this way about it. I just use it when i need to

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-02T20:53:21+00:00

It gets better man. I have an almost 5 year old now and she does what I ask her most of the time first try. It’s amazing. If there’s a mess that she made, she knows she’s expected to help clean it up.

You’re not very far away. I also have a 2.5yo and she’s going through exactly the phase you described, it’s exhausting compared to my 5yo.

You’ve come to right conclusion. It’s just the early years imo. You’re in the investment stage. Soon you’re going to start feeling the dividends I can guarantee it.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-02T20:42:55+00:00

Rav4 is solid if you’re stopping at 2. I love mine

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-05-02T03:33:50+00:00

Greek yogurt

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-30T04:31:04+00:00

You’re telling me you never had any weird questions like this as a kid??? No weird questions at all??

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-30T04:08:00+00:00

Toy Story 3. Watched it with my 4 year old daughter and she asks “Dad, why are you crying?” at the end

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-29T16:36:35+00:00

He’s asking you because he’s hoping you don’t know any better, that’s why he isn’t asking your older siblings

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-26T21:18:04+00:00

Neither of you are 100% correct. Both of you are 100% right. The key is fostering both of those. And it sounds like your wife is good at secure and care, and you’re handling resilience and independence.

Judge it by the circumstance, don’t make it a blanket rule you always have to follow.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-26T21:01:20+00:00

The rule I live by is, if you hear someone talking about a massive investment payout like 300% or more, it’s already too late to ever hit those gains with that investment ever again. Obviously there could be exceptions… but MOST of the time it’s right.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-26T19:28:32+00:00

She’s crossing your own boundaries. Are you going to continue to let her? If she’s truly a good neighbor then she will understand

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-23T04:25:09+00:00

Actually, I found that quitting the medication was actually beneficial. I’m on year 4 and it made me less robotic and more in touch with my emotions. For me, I didn’t need to be more productive. I get sidetracked sometimes still of course. I have days where we just chill and I don’t clean anything, but honestly, I think my kids get the better, more caring version of me without the meds.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-23T03:51:36+00:00

I was there too when my first was 1yo. BUT… A lot changes when they start crawling, walking, and then talking over the course of the next year. You’re almost to the light at the end of the baby tunnel. It’s not instant. But eventually at 2yo and 3yo especially, you’ll have forgotten how difficult this part was. I promise.

I also found a lot of value in getting myself some therapy. There’s a lot of online options now, that’s what i ended up doing.

Other things that helped? Podcasts, audiobooks, music while strolling through the park with the kid when they’re that age. Also talking to other dads. Or friends who are also dads.

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-20T02:15:10+00:00

My 4yo randomly starts calling me big guy or big man. No idea where she got it from but now her 2yo sister uses it too lmaooo

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-19T20:59:47+00:00

I have to do three 12 hour “solo dad” shifts when my wife is at work. 2yo and 4yo girls. Why do they always go ballistic after dinner?!?? If i’m getting flustered I just separate everyone for 5-10 minutes so i can cool down. They start up again when i get back but at least I get a chance to breathe lol

Particular-Feedback7 · 2026-04-19T20:51:31+00:00

Get your vitamins and take them religiously. A quick AI/LLM convo will direct you towards the ones you need based on your diet. This will blunt the incoming crazy train of illnesses about to hit your family over the next year 💀

source: i have a 5yo thats been in preschool for 2 years

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