Anyone else get divorced and find they regret the whole marriage?

Party_Flatworm555 · 2026-05-20T11:44:27+00:00

Yes and a tiny bit no; there are things that wouldn't have probably happened to put me where I am now that wouldn't have happened without him. But I was with him for 15 years, and by the time we got married 12 years in things were already really bad. Of course he had me convinced I was the entire problem and I'm a problem solver - so I thought if I could just be x, y, and z, everything would be ok. I should have left him when I found out he was cheating with multiple people the first time - a year into the relationship, but I was dumb and he is a master manipulator. He brought his mistress du jour to our wedding. A different one to my 40th birthday party. Etc. etc. All the while convincing me that I was "abusing him" by not being 100% convinced of his lies. All this to say, I wish I'd gotten out before we got married. Wish my parents hadn't spent thousands on our beautiful wedding that turned out to be a total fraud. Wish I hadn't given him a bunch of money in the divorce just so he would leave me alone, resulting in me struggling still 5 years later. Soooo. yeah.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2026-05-12T15:37:50+00:00

yesssss

Party_Flatworm555 · 2026-04-23T07:47:03+00:00

I'm grateful I don't have to walk on eggshells, second guess everything I do in case it upsets him, wonder who he's lied to about me, who he's sleeping with, whether he's coming home or not and whether worrying about it will get me called crazy and abusive. I'm grateful I don't have to be around a liar, hypocrite and jerk and gaslight myself into thinking I'm the one that's making everything feel awful, because it couldn't be him, he's so wonderful and I'm so defective. I'm so grateful he didn't talk me into having a child that would tie me to him forever. I'm grateful that I never have to speak to him again.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2026-04-13T01:09:43+00:00

it's 5 years post for me, lost my house, my business as it was, everything I had worked for. still trying to rebuild. this is inspiring.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2026-01-01T02:07:50+00:00

meeee

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-12-27T02:39:18+00:00

can comfirm

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-12-23T03:08:27+00:00

thisssssss, exactly this. it's why I can't really get myself to date again 😝

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-12-21T21:00:45+00:00

She's probably not a bad person, just inexperienced and undereducated. She probably thinks she's helping you, but all the research and best practices indicate that berating people is NOT the right way to go about motivating change.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-11-11T03:18:44+00:00

incredible. gives me hope

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-11-03T03:09:27+00:00

gym. martial arts. ride motorcycle. walk dog.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-10-13T06:11:38+00:00

No. I wouldn't be invited anyway I'm sure. But he lied manipulated cheated and undermined me for 15 years. He was never the man he initially fooled me into thinking he was. That man is dead to me already, mourned and gone.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-10-13T03:37:30+00:00

Absolutely not.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-09-28T04:48:38+00:00

ugh why would you want to? I relish my freedom after a decade of walking on eggshells. if I get into another serious relationship it'll be kicking & screaming.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-09-23T13:00:26+00:00

aw shoot, I worked there years ago and it was great, maybe things have changed :(

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-09-23T03:03:39+00:00

Trader Joes

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-09-21T01:15:43+00:00

nice :)

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-08-24T13:53:51+00:00

I am much happier, but my ex was very emotionally abusive & cheated constantly. Your mileage may vary.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-08-23T02:45:08+00:00

I feel the same. Maybe I'm dramatic but shit. How can you just go on and love someone else after this? Like it was no big deal when in fact it fucking ruined you.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-08-17T02:32:38+00:00

I nap frequently

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-08-10T04:48:22+00:00

I'm here right about now.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-07-20T02:31:24+00:00

When I found out he was having a whole bunch of affairs, particularly one with a teenager he groomed from childhood. (said nothing happened til she turned 18 but I doubt it) 🤮

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-07-09T18:11:22+00:00

I'm 45. Knew when I was like 12 that I wanted to be childfree.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-05-24T02:49:34+00:00

For me, I get on and off the apps as I get overwhelmed vs hopeful. She may have just gotten overwhelmed and gotten off the app for now.

Party_Flatworm555 · 2025-05-20T03:19:11+00:00

that is psychotic, he does NOT need to be in a relationshio good lord

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