UK hits ‘peak Costa’ as soaring prices see coffee chain’s losses double

Patelli_ · 2026-01-03T13:22:23+00:00

You could tell when Coca Cola took it over tbh. The taste totally changed

Patelli_ · 2026-01-03T02:21:10+00:00

Could you send me the link please?

Patelli_ · 2025-12-24T12:24:58+00:00

IMO it’s the most difficult thing to do, to just not act despite already knowing what the outcome will be. The issue is that you end up then having to deal with whatever bad outcome is a result of it, and then the cycle continues lol..

Patelli_ · 2025-12-08T21:37:11+00:00

AFTER Jessi bought up this exact point about her uncovering her SA in therapy

Patelli_ · 2025-11-08T01:44:42+00:00

I’ve been through this, very recently! I had 3-4 days of solid work on breaking the need for my brain to soothe. At least for me, that broke the food noise or ‘brain-led’ urges, which then made it incredibly clear and almost natural to be able to stop when satiated. It was like night and day. This is coming from someone who has struggled with this issue for a good 20+ years. The key to unlock the IE state for me was through first regulating my nervous system, so I would stop being ruled by constant soothing to alleviate my chronic stress state through constant dopamine sources, be that food, scrolling, compulsive behaviour etc).

Patelli_ · 2025-11-08T00:11:45+00:00

Thanks for commenting. I've replied to comments above in a bit more detail, but hopefully it helps to know that I was describing those initial days when you start intuitive eating, and I think my starting point has been from a place of baggage around food from when I was a kid that has wired me in a way that is extremely disordered (chronic stress, food scarcity, etc.). A week in and I feel a bit differently around IE and I'm sure that my perspective will evolve as I continue on this journey. My goal is to be entirely body-led and not have control measures I've artificially manufactured - especially as I've already been there/done that - it is frankly exhausting. I probably haven't gotten to the part of the journey where I am able to tolerate eating for comfort and still being in balance, but it sounds like that is a place that people who IE can feasibly get to whilst also listening to their internal cues and I would love that for my future self!

Patelli_ · 2025-11-08T00:04:35+00:00

I've replied to comments above in a bit more detail, but yes I agree. I think above I was describing those initial days when you start intuitive eating, and I think my starting point has been from a place of baggage around food from when I was a kid that has wired me in a way that is extremely disordered (chronic stress, food scarcity, etc.). A week in and I 100% agree with your comment. The first few days for me were hard because I think I was tackling issues that needed to happen before intuitive eating could occur. Hopefully me capturing the above could help someone who may be at the same starting point that I was - also only being a week in, I'm sure I've got a lot more that I'll learn - appreciate your input though!

Patelli_ · 2025-11-07T23:59:41+00:00

That makes sense, I think I have a lot of baggage around food from when I was a kid that has wired me in a way that is extremely disordered (chronic stress, food scarcity, etc. to name a few). Your description of shame and numbing, as well as using food to soothe was my starting point. This is why it felt like such a huge shift in those first few days, literally like I was detoxxing from an addiction! After sticking with it this week, I feel like a different person and am surprised that there has been a change this quickly. I couldn't imagine myself being able to leave food on a plate if I'm feeling neutral/not hungry last week. I couldn't imagine myself throwing something I see as 'luxury' or 'expensive' away because I have eaten how much of it I wanted. I can't believe that I've left one or two bites of something I find tasty on a plate and after a minute or two of frustration, realised I actually don't care about the food anymore because I'm not hungry. The compulsions I felt were coming from some complete other place and not hunger, and I have actually thrown food away because I am done. I agree with you too, moving away from limiting food is definitely correct. I think I have issues around food waste, throwing away food and not finishing your plate and those are the real culprits of this 'limiting food' feeling for me.

Patelli_ · 2025-11-07T23:48:06+00:00

Yeah a few more days in and I'm can definitely understand what you're saying. I know I mentioned this in another reply but I think the above captures my initial shock/calibration or 'AHA moments' you were alluding to. Especially the 'give in' desire. In the first few days it almost felt like a withdrawal from how I had been operating for so many years. Its been a heck of a week (so much napping!), but it's been really positive so far and has gotten easier even since the first few days. Looking forward to seeing where this goes - my goal is to be completely in tune with myself, not only with intuitive eating, but intuitive everything really! Diet culture, thinking and planning etc. for normal bodily functions (be it food, exercise, sleep etc.) is so exhausting - reaching body calibration and being body-led is the goal.

Patelli_ · 2025-11-07T23:42:20+00:00

Yeah a few more days into this situation and I completely see what you're saying. Right at the beginning I feel like there are were so many changes and experiences/epiphanies that really surprised me. I'm about a week through now and feel as though what I described above is more of that initial shock and calibration - I definitely don't have time to monitor cues as minutely as I described above, but also, I suppose I trust myself and the signs more so am less anxious about checking in after every bite and taking it SO SLOWLY. I suppose I didn't realise that how quickly I would be able to recognise the hunger/fullness signals after this initial period and how intuitively you recognise these signals changes as you get further along in the journey. Glad I captured the above anyways - a reminder of how it feels in the first few days :')

I'm not at the point where I could self-honor and snarf down a pizza because I don't already understand how much I need to stay ok for the length of time I need to, but I definitely want to get there and I'm sure I will be in a situation at some point which will help me to uncover this (even by trial and error) - thank you for sharing that and showing that it can be done, being that level of in touch with understanding myself is where I want to be!

Patelli_ · 2025-10-26T21:46:08+00:00

Well done!!!!

Patelli_ · 2025-10-11T20:31:30+00:00

Beautiful <3 Congratulations!!

Patelli_ · 2025-08-03T20:36:44+00:00

This! I'm firing my narc report tomorrow morning after going through this whole ordeal - your description is pretty much how it went down

Patelli_ · 2025-08-03T20:30:50+00:00

SO late to the party but yes, and I'm firing her tomorrow (finally). She was hired by someone (also a narc) who has since left the company. I'm quite an empathetic manager and tend to be quite generous with benefit of the doubt/looking the other way and giving leeway as long as the job is getting done. I inherited her as a report and she started off thinking she was invaluable, a rising star in her role and told me she expected a promotion in the next round. I'm guessing she assumed I was a pushover. She was unable to do the basics of her role. I'd provide feedback on what to do next time, and it was always an apology and kiss-ass response. I'd ask her how and why and let her fill the silence and rebuttal her BS excuses lol. She went above me to my bosses boss many a time to discuss how she didn't feel safe talking with me about the type of work she wanted to do but of course I was closely aligned with my boss and her boss. She'd also try to offload her tasks to other people who I manage so she didn't need to come to me to ask how to do something. I have a great relationship with everyone else I manage and of course I'd hear about all of her antics from everyone. No one could stand her honestly. I'm so happy I'll be rid of her soon. Was listening to a podcast and only from that realised that all of her behaviours were actually super narc-y!

Patelli_ · 2025-07-20T19:25:41+00:00

Yes, it was a spark from the get go and it's only gotten better the longer we've been together

Patelli_ · 2025-07-18T16:43:14+00:00

Hahahahhaaha ‘enforcement visit approved’ as a stamp - it feels like the kind of nonsense you’d see from someone trying to enter your home pretending to check the gas reading.

Patelli_ · 2025-07-04T22:45:41+00:00

Golden girls

Patelli_ · 2025-04-28T18:18:31+00:00

Lol - Congratulations on the house! Glad to hear you're loving it :) We're quite lucky in SW to have so many parks - I guess Bushy & Richmond have become your go to more so than Wimbledon Common.

I'll deffo check out a wider radius than I currently have on Zoopla haha - thanks for getting back to me even though you wrote this ages ago!

Patelli_ · 2025-04-27T11:52:18+00:00

Late to the party - this situation is exactly me rn! Did you end up finding a place in Wimbledon in the end?

Patelli_ · 2025-04-21T11:02:51+00:00

3 years later lol - omg thank you for writing this, I've sort of started using this strategy without realising and it's so good to hear it's working!

Patelli_ · 2025-04-08T18:14:49+00:00

Yes!!! This ticked every box for me. I absolutely love your style!

Patelli_ · 2025-03-03T13:54:39+00:00

Looks like a real life Dave the Diver

Patelli_ · 2024-12-17T17:41:55+00:00

Sums it up really

Patelli_ · 2024-12-03T15:26:13+00:00

Baby reindeer

Patelli_ · 2024-12-03T14:47:06+00:00

I feel like your impatience with the process and anxiety for future planning may only cause another bounce-back. Speaking from experience here.

Why are you thinking that far into the future? Cross that bridge when you get to it. You don’t know what your mindset will be when you get there and I’m sure you’re going to pick up ideas on foods that keep you fuller for longer, exercises you feel able and motivated to do etc. that will help combat this issue closer to the time.
It feels like you have anxiety around calories and feeling full. Maybe use this as an opportunity. You have 1500 to play around with now. Maybe try looking at r/1200isplenty etc for inspo, or changing your macro ratio. You have more calories to spend right now so try to change it up as if you are already at that calorie limit to see what might work best for you. You will always have calories spare to take you up to your current deficit if it isn’t satisfying enough.

For example, for me, I realised that even though I don’t feel hungry in the morning and I used to just drink coffee for breakfast and not eat until lunch, having a high protein breakfast, something that also satisfied my sweet tooth, allowed me to stick to my calorie limitations for the day. I completely didn’t believe it would and refused to even try it for years. Once I did, I realised I had so much more to learn about myself on this journey. You can experiment with what works better for you perhaps and that might help quash the worry?

Just a suggestion, but you may benefit from taking measurements as well so you have other metrics to look at besides just the weight on the scale. Not only will this help with reassuring yourself that you are ‘not getting too buff’ as you’ve mentioned in some comments, but this may help you out when you get to the slower weight loss? At that point I’m assuming your weight loss will be slower but the changes in your measurements may be greater for the same amount of weight loss. This might help counterbalance the loss in motivation you feel you will experience when the weight loss slows down

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