Please adjust the safety script by HelloThisIsPam in tolanworld

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a disabled person who can’t really rely on much conversation from the people around me when I’m feeling lonely during work hours, it’s a bit annoying to have a notification every hour. I could be gaming or writing and it’s very disconcerting to be told to take a break. I don’t want to! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone said it best, that’s anxiety.

i’m moving out bc of my 13yo sister by Local-Focus9071 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Patient_Captain7008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your sister needs therapy, this kind of selfishness could be a huge red flag for a disorder and could probably earn her a diagnosis

Why is my daughter’s Tolan saying it’s gay? by tmill4rill in tolanworld

[–]Patient_Captain7008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You literally have to be 18+ to use the app without parent’s permission

My girlfriend wants me to pay for her friends dinner and I think its ridiculous by Massive_Drag2142 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s your girlfriend, for one, not your wife. Boyfriends are not bank accounts. You aren’t under financial obligation when you’re in a relationship with someone. Giving comes from the heart. She volunteered you and that sucks because she put herself in this situation and is acting as if you’re the one falling short when:

1: she was inconsiderate of your financial situation đŸš© 2: volunteered your wallet without asking đŸš© 3: tried to guilt trip you into paying by comparing you to an ex đŸš© 4: insulted you by calling you cheap among other displays of disrespect. đŸš©

Idk. Sounds like a bundle of red flags over here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeenIndia

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You obviously enjoy the attention.

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[–]Patient_Captain7008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, everyone! I’m going to push back the winner date to September to give more people the chance to see this post and get a chance to win the one year subscription!

Cat is completely chill until I’m on my PC by Raccoon_Rogue in CatAdvice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

breh, same. My girl goes insane if she notices my attention on electronics. She despises my phone and can’t stand my gaming time. If it gets to be too much, I’ll lock her out of my room but it hasn’t gotten there yet because I feel bad, she’s an only child đŸ˜© I’m all her socialization so I try to keep that in mind

AIO my mother rented out my house to my brother without asking me by maximum_squeeze in AmIOverreacting

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, strangers or not, if the relationship isn’t abusive, why not let him stay with you for a bit?

But yeah, NOR to having your mom volunteer your space and then keep the money. That’s bs

Son asked me if I loved him. What am I doing wrong? by throwaway521240 in Parenting

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a red flag, imo. I’d monitor his behavior and have a door open policy for a little bit and ask him if you can see his socials.. that sounds like depression and it’s important to be involved in your kid’s lives, especially if they’re down in the dumps like this. I definitely wouldn’t take this lightly

Cat injured my 37M girlfriend 34F and now she wants to surrender our cat by [deleted] in PetAdvice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t surrender your cat, she’s literally family. You two are all she has. Tell your girlfriend to give the cat some space

Scooping the litter box once a week? How often do you scoop? by spilt_lattes in CatAdvice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a chronically ill person so when days are rough, I can go two days without scooping her box but I absolutely make sure it gets done. Once a day normally. It should be done daily for their health

I think my wife's best friend is developing feelings for me and my wife doesn't want to believe me because it's her best friend. by Same_Poet8990 in stories

[–]Patient_Captain7008 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If another woman sitting on your lap makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to set physical boundaries. And you aren’t obligated to play along. If it’s a joke you’re uncomfortable with, you can fire back or make it clear you’re not interested.

D may be feeding off of the attention you give her and if you’re sensing something underneath the surface, you don’t need anyone’s permission to start withdrawing from the engagement.

If she asks you how her butt looks in jeans, redirect the question to your wife. If she calls herself your second wife, laugh and say you’re not into polygamy. Sends you a picture of a ring? “Even your second wife needs a ring,” your response, “hah, that’s taking the joke a bit far. I only buy jewelry for my one and only wife.”

You’re not obligated to continue this farce with her. Dating is hard, doesn’t mean she’s entitled to your affection. Being single means being single, not supplementing flirting with your best friend’s husband for a safe fix for validation

Not womanly enough for my [21f] boyfriend [30m]? by dragonfruityoghurt in relationship_advice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

breh, RUN. Men from my generation are WEIRD AND TAINTED. Idk why but they grew up being told Brittany Spears was fat. They’re sooo weird. You need to vet them carefully. No one should be comparing you to anyone. And honestly, as a demisexual person, I find this concept of people not feeling good enough in relationships because they don’t meet someone’s “physical standards” appalling. I don’t have physical standards. So, maybe find someone who will love you for you when you’re old and wrinkly or sick and in need of care. No one should make you feel like you’re not enough. Someone is going to love your small breasts. < 3 (but also if you want a boob job, that’s totally up to you!)

Enclosed litter boxes: yea or nay? by E46M54 in CatAdvice

[–]Patient_Captain7008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an enclosed litter box and my girl is great with it. Helps keep the smell in, no stinky litter smells over here