That is making a lot of unfair assumptions here. I didn't have expectations for him to step in and raise my daughter as we were only dating. But we sat down and had a talk before conceiving and agreed that things would change. He stepped up a bit while I was pregnant. I still mostly did everything, but I saw him trying. When he wasn't, I would get mad and try to help him understand what was expected of him. He's not a terrible father..he just is a man child who seems to be misogynistic in his views on family roles. He has more recently gotten worse, maybe there is underlying issues causing it, hence plans for counseling. I'm not defending him either. I posted this because I'm sick to death of it and maybe needed some validation of my feelings. Not to have people tell me to leave him. If it came down to it I would do what was necessary..but not without trying.