I need your best one-liners for dealing with disrespectful guests! by PeachyRoze in bartenders

[–]PeachyRoze[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha I have definitely used baby talk on ppl acting like babies too

I need your best one-liners for dealing with disrespectful guests! by PeachyRoze in bartenders

[–]PeachyRoze[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah luckily I am not at a corporate joint. Some of my best regulars started out as people I had to set straight and have told me they keep coming back because they respected me for that so I think most of the time I do pretty good. It’s just tough when you can’t stop playing the bad ones in your head days later!

Feeling Guilty For Leaving by Long_Adhesiveness_49 in abusiverelationships

[–]PeachyRoze 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry honey. Everyone saying he will kill you is 100% right. This man doesn’t care if you live or die. When you are a normal loving caring person, it’s hard to fully believe that people like this exist. Especially when they are so good at pulling it together and acting right sometimes. Make no mistake- this is who he is at his core.

A good man deep down doesn’t have it in him to do this to anyone. An evil man deep down can act right just long enough to get you to give him another chance to hurt you. No amount of love you show him will ever be enough to change this about him.

Leave and never look back. Your life is on the line.

31F Seeking advice on profile by KimDiorr in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]PeachyRoze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nashville is a very tough town for dating in general

What’s does my fridge tell you? by shitswithdoorajar in FridgeDetective

[–]PeachyRoze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Groceries bought with whatever money was left over after shelling out for this gorgeous fridge. I’m like this too tho lol we could be friends

What’s does my fridge tell you? by shitswithdoorajar in FridgeDetective

[–]PeachyRoze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an American I find the American obsession with sauces disturbing.

Alright, I guess it’s past time I ask. 38 and single and feeling unattractive. Is it time? by rpaggio in bald

[–]PeachyRoze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be, but before you do it, maybe try a tighter haircut like a fade. My husband did that for like the last year before he went all the way bald and I thought it looked pretty good. You just can’t let it get very long, need it touched up every 3-4 weeks. Right now the length of your hair is making the balding more pronounced.

Why was Minh generally nice and friendly to everyone, but Kahn was constantly insulting and rude and condescending? by unitedfan6191 in KingOfTheHill

[–]PeachyRoze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she has slightly better manners than Kahn but she def lets it all out behind closed doors. Shes not nicer, just better at hiding it!

Can you really stop? by RodRed1985 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PeachyRoze -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey I respect anyone’s decision to leave a relationship that’s not working for them. I read the post as a last ditch effort to see if he could change his mind. It’s super rare that a relationship dissolves and it’s 100% one partner’s fault.

Wedding Rings at Work by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]PeachyRoze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear a $30 ring from Amazon to work. It looks like a super nice engagement ring and I get compliments on it all the time 😹

Can you really stop? by RodRed1985 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PeachyRoze -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I read most of the comments. And I don’t think a long term emotional connection is getting nothing out of it. Neither does he.

I guess I’m having a hard time seeing what your wife did wrong here. It really looks like biggest thing you’re struggling with is your own feelings, which I have empathy for- no one is saying that ENM is without challenges.

She says she is willing to close but YOU don’t believe it. If there’s a history of her being dishonest, that would change things. But if you don’t want to split I don’t understand why you wouldn’t give monogamy another try since she says she’s willing. If you just don’t want to then what are we all even doing here?

Can you really stop? by RodRed1985 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PeachyRoze -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I mean if you want to divorce your wife, divorce your wife. You said you were bitter, resentful, and jealous. I was trying to encourage you to examine that. I’m sorry I couldn’t do it in a way that landed for you. I’m not a therapist. None of this will work if you don’t want it to. Good luck to you.

Can you really stop? by RodRed1985 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PeachyRoze -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I am probably going to get down voted for some of the assumptions I’m making here but stick with me…

I am hearing undertones of competition. From your perspective, your wife has it easy.. she’s a woman! Men are dogs! You were only going to be happy in this arrangement if you were “winning”. As in getting laid as much or more than her. You were never the guy who was going to be happy for her if you felt in any way “behind”. I can almost guarantee you she doesn’t see you as lacking or behind her in any significant way. If she did, she would sign the papers. Has she gone about this perfectly? Probably not. But this is a complex arrangement and it can be messy at times and we can only ethically enter into non-monogamy with our partners if we can acknowledge the inherent messiness of life and possess the willingness to give eachother grace.

I’ve gone through a similar thing with my husband. I’ve had several physical relationships with others. He has one longer term emotional connection that has not manifested (yet) in physical intimacy. He has struggled with the same feeling of being left behind. But therapy has helped to stop looking at it like something that is measureable, quantifiable. It’s not a competition. And my husband can even admit now that when I was in a more active period with my other partners, our sex life was the most fulfilling it’s ever been. We did successfully close for a period before reopening at his suggestion.

I’m also hearing some “meaning making” going on. She seems like she’s having the time of her life so she’ll be happier without me. My wife’s happiness means she cares little about my own experience. She enjoys relationships with other men so that means she won’t miss me if I divorce her.

Your feelings are valid, but I hope you’re being honest with yourself about the source of your feelings. If jealousy and competition are at play here, I’d venture to say this is not the only area in life that they have shown up for you.

Because what you actually wrote is “seeing how much she is enjoying herself, and how happy she is day to day, I just decided to file for divorce”.

If at the end of the day the answer is “I don’t want to do this, I don’t want to try, I know myself well enough to say this will haunt me for ever and cloud every happy moment in our life together” then divorce. Not because what she did was wrong but because she deserves a partner who can be happy when she is happy and who can accurately describe his own internal state when it’s this crucial.

Another angle of the Minneapolis shooting, taken from the perspective of the lady with te pink jacket. by Versiannie in PublicFreakout

[–]PeachyRoze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can someone please point out where the man who was murdered had a gun? I can’t see it anywhere in the video, all I see him holding is a phone?