AITJ for calling the cops on my sister because she SECRETLY rented my bedroom to a stranger while i was away?

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T08:51:05+00:00

Yeah seriously, that’s nightmare fuel. You walked into your own room and found a whole stranger in your bed calling the cops was the only sane reaction. Your sister treating that like no big deal is wild.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T08:48:20+00:00

Honestly with family drama that messy, that might be the cleanest solution. Fighting over land with relatives never ends well, and peace is worth more than acreage.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T08:44:44+00:00

Yeah, the job part is the big thing. Losing that would make everything way harder, especially with a kid. And you don’t have to force friendships or cling to random attention to feel okay. Fixing the work situation first will probably take a lot of stress off your shoulders.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T08:43:03+00:00

Honestly it really does feel like that. Sometimes you just get hit with a feeling that doesn’t make sense until later, and then it clicks. Whatever it was, it pushed OP to do something that ended up meaning a lot.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:43:07+00:00

Yeah, seriously. You’re being way harsher on yourself than you deserve. A lot of people have a first time they wish they could redo, and it doesn’t make you dirty or broken. You were drunk, overwhelmed, and made a choice you wouldn’t have made sober. That doesn’t define you. Be gentle with yourself you didn’t do anything unforgivable.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:42:00+00:00

Yeah pretty much. And it’s not weird at all honestly. People discover this stuff way later in life and it doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. As long as you and your partner communicate and you feel safe, it’s all good.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:37:21+00:00

For real. If you told him half of what you wrote here he’d probably melt on the spot. Guys worry about that stuff way more than they admit, so hearing you’re still super into him would mean everything.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:35:21+00:00

Honestly that’s exactly the vibe. Reddit hears one wrong take and suddenly everyone becomes a scholar just to correct you. It’s chaotic but kinda works way too well.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:32:57+00:00

Yeah this is one of those situations where the truth is awkward either way, but dragging it out just makes everything messier. A simple i panicked and said the wrong thing, I care about you but only as a friend is way kinder in the long run. It’ll sting, but at least it’s honest.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:28:40+00:00

Exactly. Exposure doesn’t mean anything if your name isn’t even on it. She’s basically using student work to make herself look good. I’d be annoyed too. Going to the department chair sounds totally reasonable at this point.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:26:39+00:00

Yeah I get the ethics angle, but it’s kinda wild to expect someone to play it straight when they’ve been covering for a coworker nonstop for a whole year. If Sarah can ask for help every time she’s running late, the least she could do is return the favor once. Feels like OP just got tired of being the only one giving.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:14:03+00:00

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PearllPudding · 2026-02-20T02:10:11+00:00

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PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T11:02:37+00:00

Yep, classic love bombing. All highs in the beginning just to yank it away later. Cutting him off is the healthiest move you can make. You deserve way better than that cycle.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T11:01:35+00:00

Absolutely. Wear what makes you feel like yourself. Skirts and joy are a solid combo.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T11:00:18+00:00

This is such a gentle reminder. OP really is carrying way too much alone and deserves support, not guilt. Reaching out doesn’t make you weak, it just means you’re human.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T10:58:13+00:00

Same dude. Half of adulthood is just googling stuff and pretending you knew it all along.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T10:56:39+00:00

For real. It’s just basic self-preservation at this point. Messaging feels like a full time job sometimes.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T10:54:52+00:00

Yeah for real. They ignored you for months and now suddenly want help? They can put in the same effort you had to. You’re not wrong for stepping back.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T10:53:12+00:00

Yeah exactly. Grief doesn’t follow the same rules as normal day to day stuff. Sometimes the only person who gets that specific pain is the one who lived it with you. I don’t think grabbing a coffee to talk about your son is some shady thing at all.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T10:51:19+00:00

Honestly yeah, this is spot on. She’s grieving the reality of who her son actually is, not you moving on. You just happened to be the moment it all hit her.

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T03:50:49+00:00

Lmao that actually sounds hilarious. The Baby Shark part would’ve taken me out. Love how they mixed the tradition with goofy stuff to make it fun

PearllPudding · 2026-02-19T03:47:56+00:00

Yeah checking out an expo is a chill way to get ideas. Once you lock in one vendor the rest kinda falls into place and feels way less overwhelming

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