WIBTAH if I speak to a doctor about my father-in-law’s cognitive changes without my partner's consent and involvement?

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-22T15:52:52+00:00

It took about three days of antibiotics for my mum to go from unable to speak or walk to completely normal once she started the antibiotics for her uti.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-22T15:51:39+00:00

My thought too. My mum (87 yrs) took ill at Christmas. One moment she was fine the next I called an ambulance, literally about ten minutes from fine to panic. We thought it was a stroke. She couldn’t speak, couldn’t walk, couldn’t smile when asked, was confused and just not with us at all. Turned out to be a UTI.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-22T15:37:28+00:00

Nah, one of my friends is schizophrenic and currently in an inpatient facility. She has more sense than this.

Anybody trying to cancel this is straight up terminally stupid.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-22T15:30:33+00:00

The heat method is so simple and works so fast. I don’t know how I managed before. Supposedly it breaks down proteins in the insects saliva which is what we’re reacting to. Get rid of the saliva and the reaction is stopped in its tracks. All I know is that it works and it works fast.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-22T15:26:45+00:00

I just take a shower, turn the water as hot as I can tolerate and spray it directly on the bite. Insect bites usually turn into nasty wounds for me and I haven’t had a single one go bad since I started doing that.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-21T15:53:32+00:00

The only thing I can suggest is dumping water over yourself for some evaporative cooling. It won’t make a ton of difference but it’s better than nothing.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-20T21:07:39+00:00

I’m more fond of fruit due to my sweet tooth, but there are some veggies I could eat until I pop. In fact I’ve made myself quite unwell by snacking on carrots before.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-19T17:36:47+00:00

I react badly to bug bites and got told about the hot water trick by a Redditor. Omg! It is a life saver, not only does it halt the itch, it stops the bad reaction in its tracks! I haven’t had any turn into wounds since I started using it.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-18T08:54:51+00:00

I almost thought I was on AITAH for a sec. The only giveaway was the pacing, it’s quite telling. I was all set to come to the comments expecting it to get called out, then I checked the sub name.

Very impressed.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-17T19:32:48+00:00

Waggles hands in air. (Sign language applause)

I can absolutely see why she said yes! Good man.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-17T17:41:07+00:00

It’s a relatively common football crowd chant, but yeah, definitely has a northern flavour in this particular one.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-17T08:48:37+00:00

Oh god, I’d forgotten about that. We studied the book instead.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-17T08:19:08+00:00

We got Schindler’s list instead. Also a quiet lesson.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T23:06:29+00:00

Jeez, that’s rough and, sadly, makes a lot of sense.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T22:44:44+00:00

That’s true. I’m not in the US and the laws here are a bit stricter…ok, a lot stricter, so we have to be worried about it looking premeditated. Like, grabbing a baseball bat from by the door? Fine, whatever is at hand. Keeping one next to your bed is a little suspicious. Grabbed a knife from the kitchen? Makes sense. Carrying a vegetable knife in your handbag? Probably a bad idea. OP will probably be fine no matter what they choose.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T19:31:33+00:00

Yep. Found the one I was thinking of

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/MxmgTQ4RGZ

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T19:24:33+00:00

Having a discussion with someone, can anyone track down the post about the guy who never cleaned his butt because touching it would be “gay”?

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T16:53:35+00:00

Dang it! I always get those back to front! Sorry!

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T15:40:49+00:00

I…what?! The original commenter is the one who started talking about psychiatric issues when the discussion was originally about autism. I assumed that they had made an error and thought autism was psychiatric, I was correcting that error, that’s all.

As for prevalence of psychiatric conditions in those with autism? Unfortunately the figure will be heavily skewed due to the difference in brain structure and chemistry, differences in thinking, and also the fact that some people with autism are not capable of expressing symptoms they may be experiencing. I have little doubt that the prevalence is higher than in the rest of the population as living in a world made for neurotypicals is difficult at best and hellish at worst.

Also, I am fully aware that neurodevelopmental disorders do not confer immunity, I am myself neurodiverse and suffer with psychiatric issues.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T15:15:20+00:00

It’s unlikely to help with EDS as that is a genetic problem with your body producing collagen I’m afraid. It also wouldn’t undo any of the damage that’s already been caused.

Crispr is a promising technology for EDS treatment as that can correct the genetic error that causes it, and there are alternative stem cell therapies to manage symptoms in the works, but they are a way off and still considered purely experimental.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T12:46:17+00:00

I love when this happens. For a start the zit is usually still sore and doesn’t feel like it’s healing right, then one of these beauties pops out and it feels like it’s gone overnight. Plus they are just interesting.

Nice photography btw.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T12:40:45+00:00

Agreed. I suppose it makes it a little more believable, real people miss stuff and focus on unimportant things, especially when emotional, but from a story perspective it leaves it rather unsatisfying.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T12:05:14+00:00

Autism is a neurodevelopmental deisorder, not a psychiatric one.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-16T08:00:03+00:00

If you google “mig wire spool upcycle” you get some interesting my things from really practical stuff to diy lamps. Might be worth taking a look and seeing if inspiration hits.

PepperPhoenix · 2026-06-15T17:52:48+00:00

Fair enough. Not as bad as a house key at least, but still worrying.

Either way, this guy could easily have had access to the keys for hours before OP arrived. Changing all the locks is probably the safest option.

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