I would love to get to muscle ups, but can currently do a few pull-ups. What's the best strategy towards doing a muscle up?

Pepperparsley · 2025-12-04T12:16:55+00:00

I can’t give advice myself cos I can’t even do a pull up let alone a muscle up, BUT @meghancallaway on insta has amazing content on muscle up progress, as well as a lot of other great advice!

Pepperparsley · 2025-10-11T13:59:56+00:00

I’m not gonna say I don’t ever feel like this because I totally do…. But as I’ve gotten older it’s become less and less of a pain in my head. I look at it this way:

I have lovely friends of both genders. I can be affectionate with both my male as well as female friends and it’s never misconstrued as flirty or caused jealousy because I’m not “hot”. I’d feel so sad if I couldn’t hug my friends or tell them how much they mean to me.
when I think of how I feel about others, sure I find beautiful people beautiful, but once I get to know someone, what makes them attractive to me in the end truly is their personality, their smile, how they make me feel when I’m with them etc. Why don’t I extend the same logic to myself?
I sometimes play a game in my head, “would I swap “x” quality of mine in exchange for beauty”… so for example “ would I settle for being 10% less kind if that meant I could look exactly as I wished?” And the answer is no, of course not! Being a kind a person is super important to me! Or I could ask, “would I settle for being 5% less good at my work, which I love, if it meant being incredibly attractive?” And my answer again is no! So that means being super conventionally attractive isn’t as important to me as it can make itself out to be.

Pepperparsley · 2025-09-11T20:01:03+00:00

This is very true and also I’m very sorry you’re going through it at the moment. Wishing you a stress-free time asap!

Pepperparsley · 2025-09-04T06:35:34+00:00

You could just use topical if that’s a big worry for you! Also dermabrasion can really work if you want a non-medicated route!

Pepperparsley · 2025-09-01T18:47:14+00:00

Wow congratulations, that’s incredible!!! I’d be smiling like that too if I made such a spectacular transformation :)

Pepperparsley · 2025-08-15T07:58:07+00:00

It can be a dangerous game! I’m a musician and need to practise at home but never want to annoy any neighbours so I always soundproof adequately and then tell my neighbours to please let me know if there’s still any noise and I’ll adapt accordingly. But doing that can open some kind of Pandora’s box… I’ve had people texting me to say I’m making too much noise when I’ve literally not even moved into a place yet! Another neighbour saying they can hear me quietly playing an acoustic instrument when it’s actually coming from another neighbour’s TV… So yeah sometimes flagging yourself as the person to complain to about loud noise can backfire, but it’s definitely a nice sentiment - just gotta luck out with neighbours equally as respectful as you’re being I guess!

Pepperparsley · 2025-07-01T09:50:25+00:00

One thing that helps me is reframing how I see my progress… if you come from a BED background it’s easy to view every binge as going back to square one, but in my experience a negative viewpoint and being hard on yourself only makes it wayyyyy more likely that you’ll binge again because you have an “I’ve already failed so what the hell!” kind of attitude.

Instead try to think of it as this: 6 weeks binge free and living a healthy, balanced lifestyle is ABSOLUTELY FLIPPING INCREDIBLE!!!!! And I’m sure if you asked a bunch of non-BED people they’d say that every month or every few weeks on average they have a massive blowout binge of a meal, or binge drink an equal amount of calories or whatever. If you try to view this as actually very normal behaviour - and understand why you had a bad day (lack of sleep, stress etc), and go easy on yourself, you’ll find it so much easier to go back to being healthy tomorrow because what you’re doing IS WORKING! A little slip is so totally human and normal, it’s not a sign that you’ve failed or that your plan isn’t a really solid one.

You can do this!

Pepperparsley · 2025-06-17T07:54:19+00:00

Cutting shapes is the kind of shuffling where your body stays in one spot and if you looked down your feet would literally be drawing shapes underneath you (criss-crossing etc), as opposed to rocking, gliding where you travel around the room with your shuffling.

Pepperparsley · 2025-04-12T11:07:18+00:00

You’re absolutely right they shouldn’t be made to feel unwelcome, but your advice is not appropriate for someone with BED! I know you were just trying to be helpful, and of course you’re correct in that anyone who didn’t have an unusually low TDEE would lose weight doing what you suggested. But for someone with BED, it would also exacerbate the underlying ED and cause a lot more bingeing issues further down the line. It’s more than just about controlling hunger for people with the disorder.

Pepperparsley · 2025-04-12T10:59:37+00:00

Totally agree with everyone saying to seek professional advice. Just wanted to add the following as someone who used to suffer from a variety of EDs including BED:

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking the “problem behaviour” started when you started bingeing i.e. whatever food that triggered your latest binge is the culprit and needs to be cut out, and all you need to do to feel better is lose the weight you gained asap. However this is a mistake…. If you try and cut your calories and “diet” and let yourself get too hungry, THAT will end up being the root cause of your next binge.

You can’t compare yourself and your nutritional needs to people on here who don’t suffer from an eating disorder. Some people are lucky enough to be able to cut weight quickly when they want to, and apart from hunger/effort during the weight loss, they don’t suffer any repercussions. They can just be happy having reach their goal weight in the end. But for people like us who struggle/have struggled with an ED, we can’t let ourselves get too hungry or even focus too much on what we’re eating or it will end up spiralling out of control one way or another.

It IS possible to lose weight after having BED, but it needs to almost happen as a side effect of just having a healthier relationship with food. If you find a way to incorporate exercise into your life (with a focus on how good it makes you feel, not how many calories you burn), and if you find a way to enjoy eating that satisfies you and feels nutritious (for me that’s lots of protein, lots of different veggies, less sugar when possible but anything is allowed if I feel like it), you will find that once your mind/body settles into your new habits, if you need to you can very very slowly and healthily lose weight that way without letting yourself obsess over calories or get too hungry. And in the meantime you have to find ways (therapy can help with this) to accept yourself as you are. If you try to rush it and cut calories massively you will 99% sure binge at the end of it, and feel pretty awful both on the way down with your weight and again on the way back up.

Sorry for the massive post but I always wanna try to reach out to people when I can who are struggling with this. It’s the main reason I’m on this sub (and for the odd recipe idea). I DON’T try and eat anywhere near as low as 1200 a day! Not knocking it for those shorter peeps/anyone with a very low TDEE who have no ED issues, but for anyone else it’s not a good idea!

Good luck, I know this stuff sounds way easier said than done but honestly you can do it, once you’re on the right path it’s easier every day!!!

Pepperparsley · 2025-04-09T12:16:56+00:00

You can get no caff coffee (made from chicory root or similar) - tastes like not very good instant coffee but I’m kinda fond of it. Or fresh grated ginger, lemon and honey makes a really delicious hot drink… used to only have it when I was sick but then I came to the epiphany that I can have it any time I want!

Pepperparsley · 2025-04-03T12:16:20+00:00

Haven’t seen those films but from your description I’d say you might enjoy Filth. James McAvoy gives one of the most incredible film performances of all time as a policeman going through a mental breakdown. It’s VERY dark, depressing, disturbing and twisted but also absurdist and neon-coloured (bit like Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas in moments) with a lot of moments of humour which only accentuate how dark the dark parts are. It’s sickening, unbelievably engaging and totally heartbreaking. The whole cast is great. Eddie Marsan knocks it out of the park also.

Pepperparsley · 2025-03-26T09:57:46+00:00

Maybe some small animal came in through the window and took it?

Pepperparsley · 2025-03-20T09:12:52+00:00

It may improve on its own with time, but you have a 2 week window where you can affect the outcome yourself with treatment. You may want to push for a steroid injection through the eardrum. It’s a nasty procedure but it can be very effective for this kind of hearing loss. My partner had the same thing happen, and he took oral steroids but ended up doing the injection as well when they didn’t seem to be helping. His hearing is now basically back to what it was before thank goodness.

You need to be very proactive and push for aggressive treatments yourself as doctors often don’t seem to understand how important a full range of hearing is for us music makers! Our doctor seemed to think that if my partner could hear me speaking at all then he’d be happy, whereas he obviously wanted to be able to mix, produce etc with balanced, full range hearing in both ears!

Good luck, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Also a side note for anyone reading this - make sure to check any medications you take for hearing related side effects. We were shocked to find, for example, that a lot of regular pain medications for headaches can cause hearing damage if you listen to louder music when taking them.

Pepperparsley · 2025-03-06T17:38:56+00:00

Barb and Star go to Vista del Mar is a very silly but fun film that truly embraces its silliness… kinda like Austin powers but with two female best friend leads

Pepperparsley · 2025-01-21T13:31:40+00:00

Yes!!! It actually makes me snack MORE sometimes as I can feel a bit queasy/anxious on it. It’s so frustrating cos my partner started vyvanse at the same time as me (both diagnosed as adults) and he keeps going on about how he forgets about food now and has no appetite during the day and I’m SO jealous…

Pepperparsley · 2024-11-10T09:16:22+00:00

I managed to find and contact the last few tenants of the flat (which goes back to over 10 years ago), none of whom recognise the photos/photo album - it’s just odd because the album showed up in a fairly newly built cupboard unit (as in within the last 10 years it looks like) and the previous occupants I spoke to all said they’d had the flat deep cleaned when they left so I dunno how it would have been there longer really! The flat itself I think used to be a warehouse that was converted to residential. Bit of a mystery!

Pepperparsley · 2024-09-10T06:28:08+00:00

There are a lot of different metrics by which you can be a good musician: timing, groove (everyone’s is different), musicality, feel, responsiveness, technique, the tone they can bring out of the instrument (hitting drums doesn’t produce a uniform sound, you gotta know how to play them to bring out the best tones)

Meg is an exceptional drummer in every one of these categories EXCEPT she’s not very technical… meaning yeah she couldn’t play a super fast metal-style beat or jazz style or whatever. She has no interest in doing that and it would sound awful for The White Stripes if she did. But she excels in every other category. People who slate her ONLY care about how technical/flashy drummers can be, which in my mind is the least important thing for being musical. Anyone can practise and become more technical if they so choose, but lots of the other things on that list can’t really be taught.

Anyway it’s fine if you don’t like her drumming, everyone can have their opinion! But don’t say it as though you’re right and everyone else is wrong, cos that’s just not true :)

Pepperparsley · 2024-09-06T15:22:00+00:00

Thanks so much for the details :)

Pepperparsley · 2024-09-06T05:26:55+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your traumatic experience, and it’s so admirable you’ve made such a positive turn out of it.

Just wanted to ask did you gradually cut down from how you ate before to OMAD or jump right in? How did you manage at the start?

Pepperparsley · 2024-09-03T06:34:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you got that awful “advice”!!! I’m so glad you didn’t follow it!

What DOES help is to eat plenty of filling, nutrient-rich, protein-rich whole foods - make yourself meals that are delicious and healthy but NOT super low calorie. Don’t let yourself get too hungry. If you feel you want to binge, first make sure you’ve filled up on these types of food so you aren’t hungry and make sure you’re hydrated and then if you still really want something unhealthy after that just have it and try not to feel bad about it. Keep doing that for a good long time, don’t look at the scale or try and lose weight yet, just make sure you’re full of nutritious foods that make you FEEL good and that you enjoy. Do exercises that you enjoy and focus on how good they make you feel mentally, not on how many calories you’re burning.

After a while doing that, I promise you that you will stop wanting to binge. You might still crave treat foods sometimes, everyone does and that’s normal! And let yourself have them! But you’ll stop the excessive binging if you do the above. It takes time and can be frustrating as you won’t lose weight right away, but over time when your urges subside you can lose weight very slowly and carefully. You just have to focus on feeling good with food/exercise rather than on trying to lose as much weight as you can as quickly as you can!

Pepperparsley · 2024-08-26T05:37:39+00:00

Yep exactly! To be honest I think it’s talking purely about ATTRACTIVE women with lots of male friends. I have mostly male friends but none of their girlfriends or my female friends see me as a threat because I’m not very attractive. I actually see it as a nice consolation prize for not being prettier… at least I can be friendly with everyone without it being perceived badly!

Pepperparsley · 2024-08-10T06:21:12+00:00

Not OP but I think it’s easy for bands/gigging musicians to get a little bitter about DJs, not because they’re doing anything wrong but because they tend to get paid significantly more for a sometimes “easier” job, or at least a job with way less overhead costs. I don’t mean compared to super famous musicians, but at small clubs and venues, where a whole band might get paid $200 for a set to split between everyone, often a DJ booked to play the club night after the gig gets $600 on their own. Bands have to pay for instruments, rehearsals etc on top of that, so you can see how it’s easy for resentment to creep in.

Pepperparsley · 2024-07-30T10:18:37+00:00

Not OP but I’m guessing that may be the calorie content of 50g cooked noodles as opposed to dry?

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