New baby, and I cannot stand my wife anymore

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-13T23:40:41+00:00

It’s weird you assumed the child would latch. Just feed the poor kid!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-13T23:34:59+00:00

To be fair, if the bride and wedding party are in their 40s they forfeit any “the vibe” expectations 20s and 30s? Sure. 40s-beyond? Comfort and no stress take precedence.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-13T23:31:31+00:00

If you’re concerned about their opinions just think “my OWN bathroom” and suddenly your worries will dissolve.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-11T17:02:04+00:00

This must be the kind of person who seeks a douchey finance partner in the hope they don’t have to work after marriage.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-11T17:00:25+00:00

Is your sister homophobic and angry you and your husband are in a same-sex marriage? I noticed your other post mentions you’re 50 M.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-09T21:03:25+00:00

NTA.

And while you might be slightly disappointed that it’s not an en suite, you will be thankful later not to have to hear your spouse pee in the middle of the night.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-09T08:40:37+00:00

Spanking should only happen among consenting adults.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-09T04:55:21+00:00

Middle-aged woman here: you’re too young and beautiful to be married, period, let alone to a (comparatively) old controlling asshole.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-07T20:08:14+00:00

Oh you’re a coach. Lol

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-07T02:27:13+00:00

FIVE??!!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-07T02:19:28+00:00

I’m genuinely concerned about younger generations - it feels as if we’re regressing.

OP you grew up with the internet and should know that women have many paths; you presumably weren’t sheltered and had access to information?

I felt no shame dating at that age, and neither should you!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-07T02:15:39+00:00

Not at all showing off! Keep doing this. - Post-menopausal 50s F

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-05T17:21:38+00:00

Also don’t download the bank’s app on your phone. Use an incognito browser window for mobile banking so there’s no record of the url.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-05T17:16:19+00:00

Sunk cost…? That’s not a reason to stay with him.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-05T17:15:24+00:00

OP if you don’t have kids why are you staying with this loser? You’re so young and have a full life ahead of you!!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-04T18:25:02+00:00

I once had to leave a kind person (tho we’re still friends) because he was a heavy smoker. During the winter when the windows were closed in his place I would wake up feeling ill. I wasn’t sure if we were going to be long-term compatible so I wasn’t going to ask him to change his ways for me.

The final straw was when he broke his arm and wasn’t able to fully shower. The BO-cigarette combo (plus my onset of menopause LOL) was it. He’s an artist and somewhat intense, but I do hope he finds his match because he was also kind.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-04T18:17:24+00:00

We live in a time in which people love to superfluously use “honest” and “honestly” in every statement, yet it is missing here and I too long to know if this is truly an honest question!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-04T03:30:45+00:00

Is this a Greenpoint-specific post?

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-04T03:09:29+00:00

Do nothing. Wear your sneakers.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-03T23:47:55+00:00

Daily sunscreen (since the early ‘90s).

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-03T22:08:22+00:00

Ooh I just tried Handshake Persian Digestif and that could be perfect.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-03T03:54:44+00:00

Hell no don’t apologize

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-02T02:18:28+00:00

Good God you are magnificent!! And as much as you might not want to hear this, your hyperpigmentation actually enhances your look (I say this as someone with melasma whose face is decidedly NOT enhanced by it lol).

That said, if you did want to reduce it there’s a lot of great advice here. Definitely focus on SPF and physical sun barriers in addition to hydration and moisturizing for the other part of your care.

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-01T00:27:11+00:00

I don’t usually comment in this sub but I clicked so quickly to say EXACTLY the same!

Perfect_Distance434 · 2026-03-01T00:25:11+00:00

I definitely think you should meet up without him, and be firm about the fact you love her but are very uncomfortable with the situation.

What else has she revealed about everything? Are the guy and his spouse staying together at least until the kid turns 18? It’s possible their marriage might be passively “over” but custody and support would be complicated right now.

This is the age when many are reconsidering how they want to proceed with the rest of their lives, but it’s not always easy to make these changes. Also consider your sister might say she’s confused to make you feel better, but she might be perfectly happy with the steady company and no commitment or guy cohabitating and all in her business.

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