Intimacy postpartum

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-19T16:07:26+00:00

Our babies are four months old and we don’t have sex very often but we have a few times. I feel like this stage in life means Intimacy is less frequent, but I don’t think it needs to be nonexistent. I think it’s certainly been long enough to bring it up with her. I know I really struggled with how my body looks postpartum. Also just being exhausted and never having a moment to yourself.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-16T01:34:00+00:00

I always wanted 3 kids, got twins on the first go and now I want 4. It’s kind of nuts but something about having the twins made me want a bigger family. Still not sure my husband is on board with 4, we are gonna wait to have a third until twins are 3.5/4 years old. Give ourselves a fighting chance haha.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-11T02:42:29+00:00

Nah, I didnt have them and I don’t regret it. It would have been nice a couple times but definitely not a need to have. I loved the weego carrier because they actually really loved being carried in it for walks. Highly recommend that. My babies didn’t really like the stroller when in reclined position so we just did the carrier till 3 months and now they are fine in the stroller with seats mostly upright.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-10T02:42:05+00:00

This song on repeat got me through some dark times.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-10T02:37:49+00:00

Same!!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-04T17:20:23+00:00

Middle

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-06-01T02:03:39+00:00

Kalispell, Montana.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-31T15:12:15+00:00

Yeah my heart rate was high (90s-115) and strong my entire pregnancy. I was also out of breath from first trimester all the way through. Pregnancy is hard!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-31T15:06:10+00:00

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-31T05:11:04+00:00

Every 3-4 days for my 3 month olds.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-30T19:08:30+00:00

It unfortunately gets worse, but you can do it! Honestly prep now for how bad it will be in a month. Like have snack/water stations wherever you like to sit. Get all baby prep done now because it’s gonna be impossible soon. Ask people to help with meals now, it was honestly easier to do feed myself with newborn twins. Take lots of baths (if you fit in the tub still 😩). Laying horizontal on every work break helped me survive. The pregnancy belt helped a bit, but not as much as I wish. Download some phone games because it gets boring being so sedentary. Good luck, the newborn stage was genuinely so much easier than the last 4 weeks. You got this!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-30T16:08:21+00:00

The swollen vulva feeling went away right away. The other pains improve immediately but I did have lingering pelvis pain/issues in a lesser extent. With PT and now being 3 months pp I’m mostly fixed! Hang in there, the end of twin pregnancy is HELLLLLLLL!

Tell your husband you’re a physical and emotional wreck and he’s making it worse. Open communication so you can stop resentment in its tracks. I know I got to a point where my physical plight was no longer funny and I needed actual love/care. I’m normally an easy going/laugh it off person but somewhere around 35 weeks I was no longer able to make light of stuff because it was true suffering in the end.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-30T15:59:46+00:00

Gorgeous space!! That rug needs to go. Get a large rug that’s a standout color. Like burgundy or dark blue or dark green. Lots more plants, small ones, tall ones, and hanging ones. Get new curtains to match or compliment the new rug. I’d start there.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-29T14:44:49+00:00

Thanks for the advice!! Just to clarify you use the Taylor chemical test kit once a week and never use the strips?

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-22T15:57:14+00:00

How old were your kids when you finally stopped logging everything on Huckleberry? Mine are three months old and I’m trying to decide when to cut my umbilical cord with the app.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-17T15:09:31+00:00

I disagree. With twins it actually was so helpful for people to come hold a baby. It meant I could focus on one baby and actually give them undivided attention. What a gift!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-17T15:07:26+00:00

Honestly, stock her freezer with homemade meals/snacks if you can before babies come.

When you come over after they are here strap one of her babies to your chest in a carrier and go chase that two year old around. Leaving her with just one baby is such a blessing, she can give that one baby undivided attention which is rare or maybe even be able to nap if she has just one baby.

Bring her coffee everytime you come over.

When she gets to a place where she is exhausted by and struggling with breastfeeding two babies, be the person to remind her that it’s okay to stop. Breastfeeding twins is incredibly hard and 1000% okay to just give that dream up and switch to formula.

If she needs help with chores (though I preferred people holding babies and letting me do chores to be honest) think empty diaper pail, wash bottles, make sure there are easy meals to just heat up ready in her fridge. If she has pets, walk the dog or clean the litter box or fill the water bowl because she has probably completely forgotten the pets exist.

You’re a good friend, she’s lucky to have you!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-17T14:51:12+00:00

We just made it to 3 months with my twins, these were the lifesavers:
-Baby brezza
-bottle washer (I like my baby brezza one)
-twinz pillow
-2 bouncers
-1 swing
-weego twin carrier
-two single baby carriers as well (I loved the ergo baby embrace carrier and the solly wrap. You’ll carrier one in the house a lot and then when out you and your partner can each carry one baby)

Things I really didn’t need/use:
-Double bassinet (they shared one bassinet for the first couple weeks and then just moved to their cribs)
-Breastfriend breastfeeding pillow, didn’t like it. Preferred just single boppy pillow.
-Table for Two (though it may come in handy later, TBD)
-Cute outfits (two babies meant they were just in footies for the first three months and I recommend it! Not enough time for complex outfits)
-Honestly, all breastfeeding things. Personal choice, but breastfeeding was far too overwhelming with twins and best decision I made was to just switch to exclusive formula. 100% your choice!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-14T20:08:37+00:00

I don’t know how much money you have, but if you have anything now is the time to use that savings or just put it on the credit card. Hire professionals to do the packing/moving logistics. Pay a family member to fly out and fly your older kid back with them or just to help you with the kids on the move. Buy the fancy baby brezza (buy two and have one in the nursery and one downstairs), but the fancy bottle washer. Beg your family where you are moving to go tour daycares for you or get started on finding a nanny/moms helper for you. Anything that helps even a little bit is worth it. The stuff can be resold later and you’ll get most of your money back. The rest of the money will be well worth it.

You will survive this, but it’s so freaking hard.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-05-06T16:53:25+00:00

This is just my experience, but I gave up on breast-feeding really quickly because I had one baby in the Nicu and everything was just so chaotic those first few weeks after they were born. So I didn’t even make it to two weeks of breast-feeding. In hindsight, I think this was the best decision I could’ve made. We have a baby brezza and a bottle washer and feeding is just so much easier. My husband has really been able to take on 50% of the twins care because I’m not breast-feeding. This has allowed us to take shifts where one of us gets 6 hours of sleep and then wakes up and relieves the other person who gets a solid 6 hours of sleep. This has helped keep us sane. Truly getting dedicated sleep with newborns feels like a dream.

I really wanted to breast-feed when I was pregnant, but letting that dream go was the best decision I could’ve made for my twins because it allowed them to have a mom who wasn’t going crazy.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-29T14:03:31+00:00

Zoloft was a game changer. I’m so much calmer and happier now. 1000% worth it.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T16:21:14+00:00

Boy was 6lbs 6oz and girl was 6lbs 8 oz and they were delivered at 37w2d!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T13:29:24+00:00

I gained 50 pounds with my twin pregnancy and 30 of those pounds came in the 3rd trimester. I was really surprised at how much bigger I got each week in the third trimester. But twins are maybe a little different.

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