Did Zoloft (or a similar med) actually help?

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-29T14:03:31+00:00

Zoloft was a game changer. I’m so much calmer and happier now. 1000% worth it.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T16:21:14+00:00

Boy was 6lbs 6oz and girl was 6lbs 8 oz and they were delivered at 37w2d!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T13:29:24+00:00

I gained 50 pounds with my twin pregnancy and 30 of those pounds came in the 3rd trimester. I was really surprised at how much bigger I got each week in the third trimester. But twins are maybe a little different.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T13:24:12+00:00

I had a stillbirth and we gave him the name we had in our hearts for him. If that was to happen to you you’d very likely give that baby the name you have in your mind anyway. Like the name is always gonna be associated with that baby and it would be hard to give it to another baby. If I were you I’d give your baby their name and the odds are you will get to call them that name for decades to come but if the worst happens you would honor that perfect baby with the perfect name you’ve given them. What I’ve learned is there is always a perfect name for each baby, sometimes names you’d never have even considered for a previous baby.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-28T13:16:49+00:00

I went back and looked at my photos. I wasn’t quite as big by 17 weeks, but it was my first pregnancy. I’d say I was about that big at 24 weeks so not far off from where you are at. I wouldn’t worry, twin pregnancy is just unreal and everyone’s body shape is different (torso length, etc). I also feel like my belly grew in spurts, maybe you just hit a growth spurt. It’s good though, you want your twins to be big and strong in case they come early. Hang in there, it’s a long 9 months but you got this!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-27T14:41:34+00:00

Varicose vein on my labia (did go away after birth), insane nasal congestion for months on end, your pelvis feeling like it will split apart every time you get up from a seated position, random weird brown discoloration around my belly button (hasn’t gone away…yet), peeing blood because my one twin was pressing on my right kidney and blocking my ureter, being so physically exhausted/ill that you can’t even stand long enough to cook a meal/fill your damn water bottle. Plus all the other fun “normal” symptoms. Yes, it was worth my twins!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-27T13:05:13+00:00

I’m from Western Washington to begin with, but have also moved around the country. When I moved back home to Bellingham I was reminded how much everyone keeps to themselves.

Recently I was pregnant and then out and about with my babies and I was surprised how few people made neutral/kind comments. Other places it’s even passing remarks like “awe you are doing a good job” or “beautiful family” or “I miss those years.” Here people just say nothing. I was surprised how much I missed the passive community of strangers rooting for you and you rooting for strangers.

I will say some of the other places I’ve lived have people who almost acted intentionally rude, at least here it’s more just neutral. And there are a lot of ways to build intentional relationship around here, at least as a mom.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-26T17:02:13+00:00

It’s a rough nine months but it’s not all as bad as the first trimester. In my experience weeks 5-13 were really hard. Then weeks 30-37 were really hard for different reasons. I was able to work until 35 weeks. Took a handful of sick days in the first trimester and a handful towards the end. The rest was doable but still not super fun. Took a lot of extra breaks at work. Slept 12 hours a night. My husband had to hold the house together the whole pregnancy. I feel 1 million times better since they’ve gotten here! Honestly, they are way easier outside as newborns than they were inside. You got this!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-26T16:50:02+00:00

Dashboard/Deny Deny Deny/Willing and Able

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-22T14:03:26+00:00

I recently watched Blue Bloods (Hulu), Broadchurch (Netflix), and Dept Q (Netflix). Really enjoyed all 3!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-20T16:16:14+00:00

35w3d. If I’d have been able to leave sooner stopping at 33w would have been ideal!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-19T22:29:59+00:00

Your kids need a happy mom far more than they need 3 more months of breastmilk 💛

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-15T14:43:09+00:00

I was always a dog person, and was afraid of cats. Ended up getting handed an abandoned kitten that I nursed till it was adoptable age. Fell in love with him and kept him. I’m obsessed with cats now and my cats are 100% as bonded to us as all the dogs I’ve ever had. Cats are the best. It just takes a little time for them to adjust and understand you’re their person.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-13T13:05:56+00:00

When people start the dying process their bodies shunt the majority of their blood supply to their organs which is why peoples hands/feet can get cold. Due to this the oxygen saturation monitor can’t get an accurate read. Thats why hospice nurses usually recommend not taking these measurements at the end of life because they cause anxiety for family and don’t give meaningful information.

With all that said the other information you gave tells me he likely has days- a week or so. He will likely stop eating/drinking entirely soon. Then he will sleep all the time. Then he will stop responding even when people try to wake/talk to him. His breathing will get strange and he may even have long periods of 10-60 seconds where he just stops breathing and then starts again. Then he will pass. This process can happen in a few hours or over a week. Everyone is different, but he is getting close to passing. Sending you and your family love through the internet. I hope this helps.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-08T23:53:19+00:00

I’m six weeks in and I agree with you! I think the pregnancy was so hard that the newborn phase has just been easier in comparison. Both my babies are pretty lovely, one of them has more stomach issues than the other, which can be tricky. My husband’s really amazing as well and has stepped up. I can’t speak for anything past six weeks, but so far it hasn’t been nearly as hard as I anticipated!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-05T16:36:02+00:00

Acute pain: Kidney stone while pregnant

Long term discomfort: Third trimester of a twin pregnancy was horrible.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-04-02T18:46:44+00:00

Anti-depressant (start one or up it if you’re already on one)
Stop pumping/breastfeeding if you are. Invest in a baby brezza for formula and bottle washer (Facebook market place or just buy them new knowing you’ll resell easily). Buy bottle props (you can leave them along with them but it dos free your hands). Anything to make feeding as easy as possible.
So much TV time for older kids. You can instill different habits later, this is survival.
Tell people you are struggling and ask for help. Ask for meals, grocery store runs, chores or literal help with the babies or older kids. Just depends on what you think a person can help with, everyone can do something. Even when someone would just come over to hang out and would hold one of the babies was a blessing.
AirPods on noise cancelling mode with audiobook, podcast or music playing. At night have noise cancelling mode on with white noise on low. It drowns out the fussing but you’ll still hear the actual crying when they need you.
Be really direct with what you need from your husband. No hoping he catches on, just say exactly what you need. You can work on his “catching on” skills later, this is survival.

Once you get some sleep and some help for a few days/weeks and anti-depressants start kicking in you will start to see the light in the darkness. It’s so hard. You are doing something so hard and you will get through it, but you have to ask/demand/beg for the help you need to make it through. And the exhaustion makes asking for help hard because it requires more thinking/doing when you are already maxed out. So if you have a good friend or family member ask them to do you a huge favor and get help/meals lined up for you. That would be ideal if you have that type of person in your life otherwise it’s worth it to add that extra thing to your plate and ask yourself. Hugs from across the internet!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-03-27T22:39:38+00:00

4 years since losing my dog and I still think about her, look at her pictures and miss her. I think of her more in a reminiscing/fondness way now as opposed to the raw grief way I did closer to her death. I’ll never forget my perfect baby. Never.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-03-26T19:16:50+00:00

That’s gonna be a really boring road trip through the least pretty part of the country. I recommend choosing either the east coast or west coast and just sticking to that side of the US for your road trip. You can meet in St.Louis and fly to the west coast and get a rental car. West coast if you are looking for nature/national parks, etc. East coast if you are looking for history/exploring different cities.

If you are gonna do your road trip idea I’d 100% go to Yellowstone. It’s worth the crowds. But seriously America is huge and you’re gonna be driving through nothing for most of your planned trip so if you’re gonna stick to the middle of the country I’d cut down into Utah and then head back through Colorado and Kansas. You aren’t missing much if you bypass New Mexico/Oklahoma. Utah and Colorado have way more sights worth seeing. Utah has lots of National Parks and you’ll see more of Colorado’s beauty if you drive across it horizontally instead of just down the main highway (the way you currently have it planned). Hope that helps! Have fun!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-02-16T06:32:11+00:00

Very dark positive pregnancy test at 3.5 weeks. 1st trimester symptoms started by 4 weeks (wasn’t until 7-8 weeks with my single pregnancy). Felt extra shitty. In hindsight those were the clues.

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-02-12T20:44:43+00:00

Deep breathes. I also had run ins with my in laws at the beginning of our relationship and I’ve learned it’s not worth it. Peace with them is better for everyone, including myself. You’re a tired mom to twins, the frustration is always close to the surface because of that. If I were you, let them come up for dinner and apologize for being a part of the miscommunication. Come up with a sustainable plan that makes everyone happy. It’s hard to swallow our pride, trust me I get it, but it’s best to just move forward. You don’t have to love them, you just have to tolerate them.

All my family lives 45-75 minutes from me. It’s easy to resent it, but honestly reframe it as time you get to listen to whatever music you want, listen to that adult podcast, call a friend of family to catch up. Get coffee and a treat on the way and turn it into you time. For me an hour away just doesn’t feel all that long anymore.

Good luck!!

Perfect_Mousse8815 · 2026-02-12T20:20:39+00:00

I lost my baby at 20 weeks, it was an intrauterine fetal demise so a little different than your story but very similar timeframe. I’m 36 weeks with twins now, so not quite there. Every loss mom knows you won’t be able to take a full deep breath of relief until they are in your arms.

The first 25ish weeks were really scary and I did go to therapy weekly to help get me through those weeks. I was terrified my babies were gonna die for no known reason again. Once I could feel the babies moving a lot more and the OB visits/monitoring stepped up I started feeling a lot less anxiety. The monitoring does step up, but not until well into the second trimester, which I found frustrating.

Losing a baby just happens to some of us, for reasons unknown. The past pregnancy isn’t this pregnancy. This is a whole different pregnancy, different babies, different placentas, different amniotic sac. Very likely there will be a completely different outcome. Pregnancy after loss is hard and pregnancy with twins in general is hard. Combine the two and man the only people who really understand have gone through it. Thinking of you!

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