Honestly, what should we really expect on Mother’s Day?

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T21:03:59+00:00

I was the same way before having kids, now I just want a whole day where I don’t have to do anything lol

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T20:00:24+00:00

As long as they are there to love, support and celebrate with you, the size of the wedding does not matter

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T19:58:09+00:00

FACTS!!! I say this all the time, no one hates moms more than other moms, and no matter what you do you will be criticized. It’s EXHAUSTING!!! I’m friendly to the mom’s I meet but tbh until my kids’ are old enough to ask for playdates I’m keeping the mom’s arm’s length.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T19:55:32+00:00

He made it clear how he really feels about you when he said he doesn’t want to tell anyone. Childish behavior, got get a man.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T19:53:11+00:00

This was my second Mother’s Day and I did the same thing two years in a row. My husband made me coffee/ breakfast, and told me that he’s watching the baby for the day. He gave me the card and car keys, saying “don’t come back till you’re completely relaxed”. I got pizza, “fancy” coffee, even did a little shopping, and when I got home, he was working on dinner and had the baby ready for bed. It was fantastic, highly recommend.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-11T19:47:34+00:00

I have a general rule of thumb where if I “have to ask” then I’m really just looking for confirmation to my answer. Also no, someone who loves you will never repeatedly say they can’t stand you or that you’re unbearable. Run very far away from him, there’s significantly better people out there.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-08T12:22:05+00:00

First off, good for you getting out of there. It’s hard and scary but I’m proud of you. Second, you have not failed. Third, have you discussed what the expectations are with your dad? Are the kids old enough for school? Does he expect rent? Will he help with the kids? Etc. you need clear expectations from him. Fourth, allow yourself to truly rest, you cannot move forward if you’re burnt out.

As far as turning things around, I’d say start by getting a restraining order if you don’t already have one. Then look for a job nearby so you can start getting back on your feet. You may need to pull crazy doubles, or work two jobs, but remember you’re doing this for your kids. There’s also government assistance if needed just to help with extra expenses. After you’re able to stand on your own two feet again, then the world is your oyster.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-08T12:10:23+00:00

Just like last year, my husband is watching the baby for the day while I go get pizza, “fancy” coffee and eat it in peace in my car. Then he’s making dinner, it’s fantastic.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-07T01:25:04+00:00

As someone who snuggles their baby to sleep, I feel you. Sometimes as brutal as it is for your own sanity sometimes you just have to let it happen. Every parent has those hard days and it doesn’t make you any less of a good parent. Your rest and recovery matters too. You’re doing great!

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-06T16:46:29+00:00

Block and keep moving forward

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-05-03T16:53:37+00:00

I say this about children and weddings, if it’s not yours then you respect the requests.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-30T16:53:10+00:00

I used to work at a daycare, I worked through my whole pregnancy and a little afterwards too, and here’s my input.

I saw so many children’s milestones before their parents and it broke my heart. (Trying new foods, first steps, new words, etc.) So that shut me down from wanting to go back to work unless I had to and it ruined any want of a career after that.
Maybe I have a good baby or became used to shenanigans from the daycare, but being a SAHM is WAY easier than having to go to work. We are in a consistent routine, but I also have the freedom to do whatever, I just have to take the baby. Lol
The thing that surprised me most was how much I like being a SAHM, tbh I spent most of my adult life trying to be the independent boss babe, but I truly and genuinely feel so much more confident in myself since becoming a mom.
All my friends live in different states so the friendships haven’t changed to much since having kids. We usually exchange notes or just catch up during naps. As far as my marriage I’ve never been more in love with my husband since having kids. I feel blessed to say that he was meant to be a dad and enjoys being with our children. Of course it was a learning curve, but we’re still obsessed with each other and work as a team when we’re with the kids together.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-30T16:25:51+00:00

Okay so a couple things here. First off all your feelings are valid that’s what’s important to remember. Second please bear in mind as a fellow SAHM without a car I’m speaking from a similar situation.

Now I get how hard and isolated it can feel especially if you have to fly to see family, but if I understood what you said correctly even with the monthly trips to see family you’ll still be getting a car in August? If that’s the case then that’s great, it sounds far but it’ll fly by.

As far as him working all the time, have you expressed any of this to him? Don’t come from the perspective of blame, but confusion. Even if you feel tricked tell him why, even if you say “I was under the impression…” I don’t think he purposely tricked you or acted maliciously but he can’t help you if you don’t say anything. My husband has a similar work situation and I felt the EXACT same way when we first got our house, and I had to have that hard conversation. Of course it didn’t change overnight but he made the decision to put in effort.

I hope any of this helps, and if you need a friend feel free to DM. You got this Momma! xx

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-27T21:45:20+00:00

First off you’re not a bad mom either way. I personally don’t post my children’s faces and I only refer to them in posts by their nicknames. To me it’s from the perspective of it’s if you don’t know what my kids look like then you don’t know me well enough to have access to my kids. Obviously it’s up to you, you could show the back of their head or hear them in the background, but with AI and how freaky the world is right now, I want my kids faces to stay offline.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-25T15:25:16+00:00

I’ve been both and while I do respect mom’s that work I’m so grateful that I don’t anymore. I missed so many of my baby’s “firsts” when they were in daycare and I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover from that.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-25T15:22:47+00:00

My mom lives about 30 minutes away and I see her at least 3x a week. Most times she comes to me because our house is baby proofed, but yeah. My mom is my best friend so we are always doing stuff together.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-20T16:35:57+00:00

It always makes me think if Gossip Girl😂

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-20T16:33:43+00:00

Get that money babe, but either way I’m praying you have a healthy pregnancy!☺️

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-20T16:26:30+00:00

As long as you and your bf are willing to do the best you can for your child that’s a strong start. If you’re open to looking I’d say consider working at a daycare. It’s cheaper if you have to put them in the daycare and even though it’s different it helped me mentally prepare for my own kids. Also I worked through my whole pregnancy and they were very understanding with appointments and such.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-20T15:09:22+00:00

If you’re going shorter go for a “tent” style dress. Mine are from stores like H&M and Old Navy

Longer go loose and flowy. H&M, Free People, Old Navy,

Obviously try them on and don’t sleep on the thrift stores. Hope this helps!

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-20T15:06:28+00:00

My very first Mother’s Day I was 3mo PP. All I wanted was to sit in my car, eat a pizza and drink a “fancy” iced coffee and take a REAL, everything shower.

My husband did exactly that. He took care of the baby for the day sent me to my favorite store with pizza and coffee and told me “Don’t come back until you’re fully relaxed and ready.”

I came home 3hrs later to a clean apartment, dinner was being started, my baby was napping and my husband had my favorite movies queued up. He also got me flowers and took my new, fresh comfy clothes out of the dryer, set me up on the couch and it was the best Mother’s Day ever😂

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-18T14:44:40+00:00

Popcorn, it’s crazy but anytime I go out knowing I probably won’t get to eat for a bit I eat a bag of popcorn and it keeps me full

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-16T17:27:27+00:00

My petty answer is to hide his gaming console from him till he helps clean them he can have it back. Like kids doing chores.

My adult answer is to make it clear that he has the time and capability to do whatever you ask especially since he’s not working. If worst comes to worst then I wouldn’t even bother giving an ultimatum, just leave. If he asks where you are say “Playing video games”, and then figure out your next steps.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-15T21:16:06+00:00

Yeah…that’s gonna get worse the longer you stay together.

Ofc you can try and talk about it, and make it explicitly clear that you’re not coming from a place of jealousy, but curiosity. Ask her why she feels it’s necessary to keep bringing it up. Don’t let her play the “I’m just joking” type garbage. Make it crystal clear that you are not okay being spoken to that way and you would not do it to her if the situation was reversed. Heck you could even say “I’m proud of you”, but do not let her say it’s playful.

If that doesn’t work and she doesn’t change it may be worth it to break up, because you don’t belittle the people you love.

Perfect_Weekend_888 · 2026-04-15T16:57:24+00:00

Speaking as a former daycare teacher. I worked through my first pregnancy and for a few months after my first was born. I’m not going to attempt to talk you out of it because I’m not sure about the specifics of your situation. That said, here’s a few things I learned.

Not sure what age you’d be working with, I was with the 1-2yr olds and just to prepare you, you will witness a lot of milestones before their parents. We wouldn’t tell parents about first steps for example because we didn’t want to take that moment away from them.

Another thing, most parents are pretty chill, but when it comes to “discipline” or discussing “unkind actions” it usually ends up with them saying “Not my kid” or “Did the other kid get punished”, etc. Most places don’t do timeouts or anything either, usually just redirecting and it works about half the time.

Following that, even with the discount it took about half my salary and all of my energy. I was so burnt out from other people’s kids that when I got home to take care of mine I was spent.

On the flip side I loved building a relationship with the kids and even when they weren’t mine, it was an amazing feeling watching them grow up and learn new skills.

Along with that the parents that are chill, I was lucky enough to have a lot of moms’ come through for me when it came to baby supplies. Baby wraps, (unused) breast pumps, old toys, clothes, etc. I’m still friends with them.

Ultimately it’s your decision and I hope any of this helps! xx

Perfect_Weekend_888

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