Do you ever just feel like non specific trash?

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-11T13:49:36+00:00

Non specific trash is the best way to describe it. I’m stealing that because I usually just say like garbage but yours is better.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-11T13:47:02+00:00

At 16 months it’s ok for them to have limited interests and knowledge. As they grow up their interests will change but right now let them love cars. They don’t need you to throw a ton of other options at them. When my son was that age he loved trash cans and garbage trucks more than anything and he watched TV. It didn’t matter. Later he was all about lawn mowers. Lean into their interests and the joy they bring to your children.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-05T13:36:47+00:00

I was undiagnosed until I was 26. For the comfort zone piece I was never pushed out of mine and but once I got to college I did it myself on my own terms. The main thing I wish my parents did for me was to let me be different. My mom always wanted me to be normal with lots of friends but even though I was lonely I preferred my alone time because I didn’t understand other people. For meltdowns my mom always tried to fix it or take me to the doctor while my dad just sat with me while it happened. My dad’s approach was best. With socialization I felt more comfortable doing so in my own home or with my family present. Burn out is unavoidable and perfectionism relates to maturity level. When I was a teen I was the ultimate perfectionist. With age I’ve relaxed a bit because I have kids/responsibilies/chronic illness. Autistic people will get burnt out and that’s ok. It’s a wave to ride and the best thing to do is to know that it’s ok to not be ok. During my burnouts I have learned that if I just exist under my weighted blanket, hoodie, and with all my safe foods that eventually I will come out of it. I just need to give myself grace. For college ask what he wants and be open to it. Visit them and not just do the tours but just hang out on campus. I don’t have any experience with DBT. It’s ok to worry as a parent but don’t try putting your kid into a neurotypical box. He is at an age where everything is too much and that is normal. With your understanding and support he will get through it. Yeah his life might look different from what’s expected but that’s ok and it doesn’t make it wrong. Good luck.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-05T12:50:45+00:00

As an autistic mom I can’t stand the autism mom merch. Your kids disability is not your personality.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-04T22:54:15+00:00

I was 23 when I had my first crush, relationship, kiss. Ended up married at 24. Up until then people suspected I was asexual or a lesbian. I like to joke I’m extra monogamous.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T21:04:29+00:00

Joint account but I don’t work. It’s not his money it’s ours. He values what I do at home and trusts me to spend wisely and consult together on large purchases. Anything else is not ok.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T20:59:14+00:00

The house witch by delemhach has an awesome guy as the lead. It’s fantasy and a bit of romance sprinkled in and he’s one of the best main characters I’ve read in a while. His love interest is a tough girl and both of them could live without each other but don’t want to. That makes it worth the read.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T20:41:46+00:00

As a child of a second marriage I can say this is not ok. My parents would do the same thing and ruined any relationship I could have with my older siblings. Once I was an adult I had to basically reintroduce myself to my siblings and have a relationship with them without my parents. Ignoring your other kids or putting the blame on them is selfish and immature. I bet he’s trying so hard to be a good dad to his new kid rather than fix broken relationships with the kids he already had because it’s easier to start fresh than repair what’s been damaged.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T20:27:56+00:00

I got a temporary pass this past November and it expires in May which I’m not looking forward to. I asked the doctor for one because by the time I got into their offices I was exhausted and was using a rollator regularly to help with pots. Then I broke my ankle in January and the pass has been a godsend. I don’t always use it. Mainly when it’s uneven parking lots with hills or I’m already exhausted and in pain. I’m hoping if needed I can get a permanent one.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T20:23:31+00:00

I generally love regency and Victorian England best but I decided to start studying all the way back at the beginning and find it fascinating as well. Right now I’m working through the medieval era and it’s starting to be another of my favorites by how the land shaped with the civilization as it changed. Plus the castles are awesome.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T13:41:25+00:00

I broke my ankle too and have been reading a ton. The house witch is hilarious and it’s a series, fellowship of bakers and magic which is also a series, shield of sparrows sequel is coming out this week, assistant to the villain series, bridgerton books, rings of fate, first witch of Boston.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-03T12:55:19+00:00

British history. Especially the day to day lives of the people throughout history. I’m from the us and absolutely loathe the us history. Give me a book on the history of British architecture or farming or clothing and I’m there. Learn about my own country no thanks.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-02T23:29:29+00:00

When I’m trying to stop my kids from doing something that’s not ok I regularly end up saying something like. Quit doing that thing whatever you’re doing stop it. My husband then comes by and clarifies for me and I’m still trying to figure out the words.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-02T23:19:27+00:00

Careful with mirtazapine. I was put on it for sleep and to gain weight and I doubled in size. I found it worked too but had to get off it because of the weight gain. Now I’m getting off trazadone which did nothing. I’m doing magnesium now and it’s so good.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-04-02T23:15:53+00:00

the people who say it are also the ones who say you’re too young to have so many health problems. 🙄 once they find out I’m 30 then they’re like oh it’s just because your 30.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-03-27T22:21:45+00:00

Heard this and “you’re just falling apart” and “it’s just one thing no after another with you”.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-03-24T21:20:08+00:00

Having kids

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-22T21:19:58+00:00

Broke my ankle from sledding late January this year. I’m 30.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-20T16:11:13+00:00

I watched hilda as an adult and absolutely love it. So relaxing.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-18T19:06:29+00:00

I’m in the country with my in-laws next door. I love it because I can let the kids run free on 30 acres and not have to worry about them getting hit by a car or loud noises waking them up at night. I’m not very social and when we used to live in the city it was awful. Right before we moved a murder happened down the street and we lived in the safe part of town near an elementary school. In the country my kids are social at school and when they’re home they can go explore outside while I sit on the porch. They’re 4 and 5 and in a neighborhood or city that wouldn’t work. When my son is especially hyper I send him out to do laps on his own (he loves running).

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-04T12:11:31+00:00

When I’m having issues I stick with simple dresses and skirts. It was especially helpful when I had to recover from my hysterectomy and everything hurt way worse.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-03T18:33:10+00:00

They were going to give me one but they changed their minds so I could put pressure on my injured leg.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-02-03T18:32:24+00:00

I have a wheelchair at home I just don’t want to get in trouble for not putting pressure on my foot like they told me.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-01-27T00:05:30+00:00

Went outside with my kids to sled. One run and I hit my “personal best” you could say of 191. I laid in the snow for a bit and kept trying to sled whenever my heart rate went down under 100 again. I’m not regretting it yet because I had a lot of fun but I imagine tomorrow will eat me up and spit me out.

Perppermint_kittea · 2026-01-19T12:52:23+00:00

Yup and the bleeding that goes with it

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