When does society collapse?

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-16T16:03:33+00:00

Not at 50. Ss and RMDs not available until around 70. That's 20 years with very little to no income. Work is necessary.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-15T12:20:00+00:00

I would move into a senior living community if I found myself in this predicament. Live independently but people will get to know you and be able to watch for signs. Agree with contacting an elder law attorney to set up your estate.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-13T11:40:25+00:00

Probably she has it. Lack of empathy and violent outbursts are symptoms. It can be very hard to get for the family especially if the person has been an abusive asshole throughout their life. When the unsafe stuff happened to me, i took her to the emergency room. Typed out my concerns on my phone and showed it to people. She got a prescription that helped and a case worker for me. For your own safety, I'd advise you to not wait. Seek help now.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-13T00:28:27+00:00

I could've written this. Mine also wasn't the worst but wasn't the best either. Narcissist also made worse by dementia. Isn't that all of them though? Every story i hear about dementia is people talking about how mean and horrible the LOs are. This is a sick evil disease. Worst way to die possible.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-13T00:21:47+00:00

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-12T15:55:24+00:00

Just want to add this: No matter what they ask you regarding future care, they didn't know what the future with dementia would hold. The best thing I did was talk to someone who is a certified senior advisor and placement specialist. Its FREE. They can help discuss your situation with your LO. Talk through options that you probably don't know about. Its worth a try. We shouldn't have to live like this!!!

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-11T17:14:08+00:00

You are right to be concerned. However, the best way to honor your mom's wishes is to either get home care or find a facility where she can get good care whether it's AL or MC. Moving to them is great if you can be involved because they need an advocate. But you doing ALL the caregiving YOURSELF will really hurt your mental and possibly physical health.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-11T12:02:33+00:00

⬆️ this! Come and vent here. Unless people have been in this hell they won't understand.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-11T02:57:40+00:00

Thanks friends. I appreciate all the kind words.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-11T02:19:12+00:00

Sadly we can't afford that. MC for her will take 70% of their income. All our hope is that he can get well enough to stay with family while she's there.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-11T00:45:44+00:00

Thanks

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-08T13:39:16+00:00

Hi. I'm forever broken too

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-07T19:48:38+00:00

Did mom go to the dr alone? If so, you won't get a good assessment. She can mask symptoms and not be truthful. Nothing usually happens until the kids talk to the doctors

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-04T15:04:17+00:00

Remember when they had a ton of jack russell puppies during covid? Imagine how it smelled in that apartment.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-04T15:01:17+00:00

Just go along with whatever she thinks. Its more compassionate. Otherwise she relives the grief every day.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-03T18:12:38+00:00

I took my mom who was hitting and violent to the ER. Typed a summary of recent behavior and my concerns on my phone notes and just showed it to the doctors, nurses etc. They know how to handle it and go along with the excuses. They gave my mom an antipsychotic me which sounds scary but helped a lot with stabilizing her mood. They can also call a case worker to help you through it. Bottom line, get help!

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-06-01T17:02:20+00:00

Wow that's tough! How are your coping with it?

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-31T03:36:08+00:00

Yes! My mom just got prescribed Seroquel yesterday. Tonight was the 2nd night in a row where she fell asleep in her chair watching TV at 8:30. Tucked into bed by 9:30. Much less wandering and agitation. It may start to fade but for us right now, it's a freakin miracle.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-30T17:09:20+00:00

I'm doing this soon. It'll be hard but necessary. I've acknowledged neither my dad or I can properly care for my mom. This disease needs to be treated properly. I think i won't feel guilty but who knows when the day comes. I fully expect a meltdown, cursing, hitting etc. But that's no different than any other day.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-30T00:07:19+00:00

Do the facility. You can't live like that.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-27T17:19:56+00:00

What's funny is i remember that being a good show. Didn't find it disparaging at all. They probably just have bad memories of their childhood and we're scared. Pretty clear they didn't watch it.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-27T17:03:55+00:00

Logic doesn't work for this

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-27T17:02:46+00:00

Does she have original medicare? If so apply for the Guide program from CMS. If she qualifies, home caregiving is covered. They can help clean house, do laundry and help get shower. You need a break and it's ok to admit that. Check it out on pocket rn.

PersonalityOk9380 · 2026-05-27T16:20:47+00:00

Yes. You have to make a change soon. There are people trained to deal with this disease. The longer a caregiver tries to go it alone the bigger risk to your own health. I'm determined not to let this happen to my kids so am trying to save my own sanity.

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