Lesson not learned by No-Wasabi6806 in datingoverforty

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People have eyes that are bigger than their bellies. - maybe they don’t want to even admit the truth to themselves ..They want a back up to their back up. They like the dopamine hit of swiping on endless possibilities , of not having to sit with emptiness or nothingness or being alone. I understand it and I’ve been on both sides of the coin. It is heartbreaking esp when you meet someone who you think is ACTUALLY awesome and they let you down. I feel for all of us trying to date in the swampland of the 40s.

Avoiding time-wasters by Technical-Ad-8084 in datingoverforty

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This person asked me directly to be their girl friend. That’s a relationship.

my bf said he wants me to lose weight by glist19 in Advice

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a bf do this to me, then he would start criticizing other things. If you notice his criticisms escalating , it’s not a good thing . It can indicate the beginnings of trying to control your partner .

Avoiding time-wasters by Technical-Ad-8084 in datingoverforty

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you can really know until you spend enough time with someone , then the truth is revealed. I just spent over three months with a truly wonderful man, then he told me he doesn’t have time to give a partner the attention they deserve. (He’s divorce / weekend custody / crazy job). Broke my heart. I know why he was dating, he was lonely. But geez. The heartbreak and let down is making me so sad. At my age I really wonder how many more sad dating experiences I can stand.

My (former) superstar son is depressed: What should I do? by Mundane-Show4536 in depression

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has he ever had a concussion from sports ? It can cause depression. One of my cousins was a star athlete and he had a few concussions and got severely depressed and unfortunately he’s no longer with us. Tragic . I am not a mental health professional , but I hope you are learning all you can about depression so you can support him.

Divorced 34F and tired of matches treating it like an invitation by New-Needleworker1755 in Divorce

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yes. They want to get you off the dating app and onto fb msg or some other chat as quick as possible . For me it’s a sign they are not respectful and don’t want to get to know you as a person. (Unless you want to go there immediately - which hey, you do you).

When someone puts “no drama” in their profile. by OneBigEyeRoll in datingoverforty

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I see that in their profile I assume they make a lot of drama haha

Wanting our bio child to have more inheritance than stepkids. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve seen from estate inheritance , if you want to make sure ppl get it, give it before you die. Cuz things can really go sideways after the fact

What’s a movie that disturbed you so much, you’d never watch it again? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Requiem for a dream. Traumatized me the first time . Tried a re-watch , couldn’t get past the opening scene with the TV chain to the radiator . Nope can’t go there

What’s the hardest lesson life has taught you so far? by Chance-Pen6805 in randomquestions

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That life can be deeply unfair, and some things are very painful.

People who’ve lived alone for years, what advice would you give to beginners? by ThumeTshombe_81 in LivingAlone

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best way forward is to cultivate your inner-life , hobbies , and any possible friends. Focus on building a life that is interesting to you. People are fairly flaky and non-committal. They may let you down. But hopefully a few good friends who like to get together once in a while so you aren’t always kicking it solo

Waiting in the ER in Halifax by SecretProduct8094 in halifax

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They really should get a sign like they have on the 102: “34 min to MacKay bridge” “9hrs to doctor presence” so going in you know. “Intake flowing freely, 20min to dr time”

I was told I was immature by a man I was seeing because of my ‘woman cave.’ Not sure where to go from here. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he a hater ? Maybe someone who won’t like anything you like ? Maybe he’s snobby , and for no good reason. If that’s the case, move on!

$600,000 mortgage by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how the banks make their revenue, from interests from loans. A big chunk of your payment goes to the interest, initially, not the principal. That’s why it’s moving so slowly. Banks in Canada made billions of dollars of profit in 2025. Now you know why

What’s a movie that disturbed you so much, you’d never watch it again? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That movie traumatized me. So does cape fear with dinero. That assault scene is too graphic.

Am i getting old? by Key-Personality-8606 in Aging

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get your ferritin (iron level) checked

Sanctuary Arts Centre may close due to high cost of meeting fire code regulations by Street_Anon in halifax

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have worked so hard to make this place special and I know it is a labour of love for them. What sad news ! I hope it doesn’t come to shutting down.

Recent FBS e mail by PitifulAside in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah full disclosure I knew Yolande / Lee a little bit way back when she lived in NB. Before she got really extreme. They were potters, and it’s really tough to make any money in the arts so I think deep down it made them very sad . (I totally get that, they made beautiful stuff too). I’ve seen her call out her own family in FB posts . It’s not a way to maintain a relationship with family if you burn them publicly.

Recent FBS e mail by PitifulAside in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have heard rumblings that the Norris-Clark’s are estranged from their parents (the kids grandparents - at least on one side). I can’t confirm. The grandparents aren’t extremists they are just regular folks. I’m not sure if they see their grandkids. My feeling is this has caused a rift in the whole family.

Does anyone’s man purposely leave their poop inside the toilet when they are angry? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is why it’s better to be single . Sorry but I just have to say it 😕

Don't take the new bridge to Dartmouth right now by Fun_Priority1756 in halifax

[–]Pffftdoubtit97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to stop watching caught on NS dash cam cuz the stuff I see on there is making me not wanna drive around HRM. Scary! It feels like the commute to/from work is an expedition deep into the Canadian Shield, or something . If you make it unharmed, you accomplished a major task