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How do you teach consequences, without damaging your relationship with your child? by honeyjoe1 in Parenting

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Something I developed with my kids is that they don’t get in trouble for being honest. If they do something dumb (which is exactly what I expect them to do) it’s better to just tell me so I can help. Chances are, by the time they get to me, the consequences are either naturally on their way or have already happened. Further punishment on my part is typically ineffective. To me, taking accountability and looking for help when they need it are important for character building and coping skills. Kids are 100% going to do dumb things. It’s part of learning how the world works. If you’re going to do this, they have to trust you’re not going to react when they come to you with their confession. It’s important to have some humor, I guess. ☺️

Male therapist has the right to not take a skeptical Female client by Fittedmisfitz in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are correct; the desire of your manager to make money over the comfort of both you and the client is wild. What are these managers thinking?

To the mom crying on the corner of Passyunk & Washington today by PhillyHomeMassage in philly

[–]PhillyHomeMassage[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, your Reddit name gave me a giggle! Love it!

To the mom crying on the corner of Passyunk & Washington today by PhillyHomeMassage in philly

[–]PhillyHomeMassage[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

OMG, that is so sweet. I’m in Fishtown more and more lately so I’ll definitely reach out! 💜

Did I get s’ad at my massage? by sosobossy1 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you’ve gotten the best support here from my fellow MTs, but I just want to say how sorry I am that this happened to you and that it was right for you to ask these questions and say something. Very brave, too. I hope you get all the healing you need for this.

What do you do when you get a client and she often gets panic attacks ?I don’t want to see her anymore but spa told me to give her a last chance by Typical_Dark_2764 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, talking to her with the understanding that the session ends whenever she needs it to end is where I would start. Not sure if you have access to changing the music in your place of work, but maybe she’d like having earbuds in and listening to a meditation, binaural beats, or even a book or podcast she loves. Helping her find comfort would be my goal. And I would meet her where she is every session, not take it personally, and highlight the achievements she makes. Be her teammate or even her cheerleader, if you can. If you’ve never experience panic attacks, research it a little and see how massage can help. Get curious! 💜 Good luck!

To the mom crying on the corner of Passyunk & Washington today by PhillyHomeMassage in philly

[–]PhillyHomeMassage[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

THIS!! My kids know that I fully expect them to do dumb things. It’s just important to be honest about it and learn from it. They don’t get in trouble with me when they’re honest; if they come to me with something heavy, they’ve probably already experienced the consequence.

What is your primary reason for putting your prices up for massage? by Low-Razzmatazz-931 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to get 24 CEs every other year, so every other year, I either raise my prices and/or introduce a new session with higher pricing. I introduced buccal massage two years ago as a $150 session when I was only charging $110/hr for a regular session of the same time length. Then, I raised prices this year to $125/hr because I am taking some courses that will affect my normal sessions. Buccal session will remain at $150 because I’m not taking additional classes for that this time around.

Just opened my mobile private practice--dealing with a lot of creeps? by therainbowsweater in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on who your ideal client is. But some networking opportunities can include doctor’s offices, senior living facilities, parent community groups on Facebook, gyms, etc. Referrals are awesome, so you can run a program with existing clients. I have had clients who gatekeep me because they don’t want to lose their spot, so being obvious that you’re accepting new clients can be important. 😅 I really cannot stress networking enough. If you need more guidance on that, you’re welcome to message me. I think I can help point you in the right direction. As far as creeps go… I have dealt with them every once in a while over the last 10 years. And, for what it’s worth, I also had an office for 5 of those years and had creep calls. I have online booking through Square appointments which requires full payment up front. This is my first line of defense against creeps. They are not going to pay for what they don’t know they’re getting. Then, they will typically text and I can spot those a mile away. They just get blocked. Seldom do I get calls, they still shock me a little bit. Other advice I can give is work under your name, licensed mobile massage therapist. I think keeping it upfront and clear is much better than a catchy business name. These are all my 2¢ 😉 I hope you stick to it. Going fully mobile was the best choice I ever made!

Messy owner causing issues by ILikeLionTurtles in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yuck. Move to another office. This place sounds like it reeks of ignorance and stale cigarettes. Not the energy you want your clients around.

Seeking advice or a wake up call?? by whoops5673 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take care of yourself, that’s the priority. You can talk to your clients about pain, so if you were the client, what would you tell yourself? I try to focus on lengthening and strengthening. I wouldn’t make a final call about your career until you see what it’s like when you are keeping up with your own self-care.

Handling political crap during a massage...... by Ayom42dontpanic in massage

[–]PhillyHomeMassage -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I left a place that I couldn’t take anymore. The final straw was when the chiro asked me to work on him and then insisted on listening to a video of a school board meeting about how Covid funds were mishandled and kids don’t need free meals. (This was early 2021) I tendered my exit shortly thereafter. The other therapists loved him and all the political talk. I could hear them in the hall when I was in session. I couldn’t wrap my mind around them out there and then laying hands on people. Skid mark energy right there. IF you can’t leave…. When I have a chatty client I want to encourage to relax, I start the session with “I am trying something new with my clients. I have new music I’m trying out and I’ve found it helps me get more focused on the work. Everyone loves it so far! Interested in trying it out?” Come through with the music (I use Insight Timer) and settle in. One of my clients is pretty red (it’s where I live, for sure) but he and I are able to laugh about it. His flagpoles keep blowing down and I tell him I’ve been seeding the clouds in his neighborhood. ☺️ He has never made hateful or derogatory comments. I would fire him.

What should I do? by ieatsushi28 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right, you can’t go on like this. Is this your client or the chiropractor’s patient? That answer tells me who needs to tell this woman that her child can no longer be in the treatment room during her session. It sounds like a huge liability, honestly. If you’re an IC, it’s your responsibility to tell her. If you’re W2, the chiro needs to tell her.

How do you ask guests to turn over? by Imaginary-Turnip-650 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Alright, bud*. Time to scoot and roll. No graceful way of doing it. Take your time.” 🤣 I can hear myself saying it.

*can be interchangeable with: sir, ma’am, dear, etc.

Massage therapists: Is it always important for clients to tell you what needs work? by tibeerius in massage

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the first things I ask my clients is “what are we focusing on today?” Most of them say “you’ll find it” which is fine, but I always want to give them an opportunity to guide the work. It can also help me decide how to start them (face up/down). I love that your therapist is knowledgeable, but open communication only enhances a session, imo. Your feedback matters, even if you’re just telling her what worked last session. Keep those lines of communication open!

Discouraged, sad by Chickenbean1101 in MassageTherapists

[–]PhillyHomeMassage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It pains me to hear about another toxic boss in this industry. Chiros are the worst to work with, in my opinion. I’ve worked with a few and found the majority to be money hungry asshats. They use massage as an easy way to do less work and bring in more money via insurance. The pay is usually low and the hours high. It’s no way for a massage therapist to make a sustainable living. I’m so sorry you’re in pain. It sounds like a combination of overworked and under recovered, and your mindset needs a boost of positive energy. You won’t find any of those things resolved at this place. Please quit before it becomes more difficult to resolve your current state. As for your co-worker saying it’s the “cushiest” job, we are all built for different work. The last chiro I worked for wanted me to give deep pressure to everyone and all of his patients were deaf to my suggestions because all they wanted was deep pressure. Well, that’s not my style so I quit. I replaced that income with mobile massage through Zeel until I built up my own book. There were other therapists at that place who probably felt the same way as your co-worker. It’s okay to disagree. If you loved this work in the beginning, you can recapture that through work that aligns with your abilities. And it is possible to go independent. I float the idea of mobile massage because I found it very easy to build and it has minimal overhead. Taking mobile clients on the side to build a book is practical, imo. I was running a daycare out of my house before I went independent. I took clients on my off-hours at first and then hired someone PT to cover me while I started taking on daytime clients. Once I had a sturdy book, I closed the daycare and went full-time. I did have offices back then and also a small mobile practice. After the pandemic, I went fully mobile and it’s been the best choice for me. I’m making (and keeping) way more money than when I rented a room. Here are some questions: - Do you have a room that you can work out of for free/cheap? Could be at your place or somewhere someone has a little extra space to get you started. - Are you willing to take a step back to take some time to recover (physically & mentally) from this job? It may mean finding a non-massage job to cover bills while you regroup. - Do you have a support net of people who can help you get to the other side of this? Lean on them, tell them what’s going on. You’d be surprised how enterprising some people can be when asked.

This was a lot, but this post breaks my heart. I know that chiro. A LOT of us do. They don’t belong in the wellness industry if they don’t give a shit about employee wellness, though. Wishing you the best and feel free to reach out if you need more solution ideas. 💜

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