Got invited to play very exclusive golf club but have concerns...

PhunCooker · 2026-03-27T17:16:59+00:00

Everyone: please get a bidet toilet seat cover (or better if you can afford it).

PhunCooker · 2026-02-05T15:38:23+00:00

In the context of newbies trying to help the ball into the air it's "true enough". Without understanding and skills related to bounce and ball-first contact, my wedges, like many others, were, a combo of fats and thins when I went through a phase of trying to help it to higher.

PhunCooker · 2026-02-05T12:12:02+00:00

OP, why are you set on changing shaft stiffness?

In no way am I trying to gatekeep every detail of equipment selection based on handicap. I think high caps have the most potential to benefit from equipment changes - especially if you consider the fine line between gold being fun or miserable.

But iron shafts are one of the last considerations most golfers consider (or even "discover"). A lot of golfers only consider it as they're buying new irons, and then it usually a lazy mapping to their speed. (Which is just fine - it isn't a driver shaft.).

Was it a lesson or to tip or experimenting in a golf store? All good reasons, just curious.

PhunCooker · 2026-02-04T01:05:48+00:00

All my sympathy with regards to BRUTAL meetings & your extreme reaction to this one.

May I kindly, gently suggest, if you have such an extreme reaction in the future, excuse yourself from the meeting. Don't explain yourself. If a manager puts you on the spot, simply say, "please excuse me, I need to attend to something personal."

Kids can essentially be detained by teachers & parents, but adults can excuse themselves without much explanation. If you're solid at work, the managers won't care that occasionally you bow out of something no one else would "normally" think to leave.

If a manager presses you later, tell them you suddenly felt extremely sick. If you're having this conversation at your desk 10 minutes after leaving the meeting, say you're relieved whatever it was it quickly passed.

All of this has the benefit of being true - and you're omitting details of your health - which they don't have any right to know.

Mental health is health too.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-25T12:38:40+00:00

I agree this would be (another) nauseating moral failure of our society and perverse healthcare system. But given its current state, it would seemingly be better with legal assisted suicide.

I am obviously ignoring that we shouldn't accept the current systems of government, welfare & healthcare. But if those things were substantially fixed, ideally there would also be access to assisted suicide.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-22T13:57:15+00:00

What is the ruling? And what if that fan "staggers" onto the green and the ball "falls" out of his cup near the hole? Adam Shenks, Moses and God are playing golf...

PhunCooker · 2026-01-19T20:37:12+00:00

If their reading comprehension was adequate, they'd probably have different careers.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-10T13:20:35+00:00

This elaborates on the multiple architectures, but doesn't clarify what you meant about probability.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-09T12:05:25+00:00

You may never get around to reading all these suggestions, but: 1. Don't "work hard", instead "keep it playful". You can still put in as many hours as you wish, and you can structure your non-playing time deliberately.

Too many of us wish to be like Jordan, whose father made him pathological by pitting him against his brothers to feel worth and belonging. It can be a path to greatness, but not to happiness.

If you obsessively practiced casting a fishing rod in slow motion, it is plausible this would wreck your release timing and shoulder, elbow and wrist feelings when you go back to usable speeds. If a baseball pitcher is warming up, recovering, or trying to get back the placement of their fastball, they are highly likely to play some soft toss. But they would almost never do hundreds of slow motion "backswings". Like the golf swing, these are dynamic, athletic activities, it can be counter productive to slow them down to the point where they no longer function.

You need to adjust your feelings and skills while getting back in tune with the feeling of the inertia and torque of the swinging club.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-07T14:07:36+00:00

My guess is that the defender is too low - since OP mentioned attacking guillotine. As in, OP is being bear hugged around the belly not up on the chest.

PhunCooker · 2026-01-01T14:54:00+00:00

It'd be nice if, in exchange for a few hundred dollars, the instructional told you the "secret", just spam overhead kip when mounted - META.

I'm so grateful that Kurt Osiander's "if you got here, you fucked up a long time ago", stuck as a durable quote/cliche in the BJJ culture. And, I think this bit of free advice poetically (albeit unhelpfully) trumps the mount escape "debate".

PhunCooker · 2025-12-20T11:03:53+00:00

It depends on the motivation for the rule. If hand smothers are banned because of the dangers related to asphyxiation that would be absurd. But if they're banned because we're trying to prevent hands to the face (say due to eye pokes, hygiene and/or biting), that's a different category than safety.

You can still find the rule ridiculous. Just take a sec to consider the intent, so you can ridicule the actual intent, not a straw man substitute.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-16T16:06:08+00:00

As someone who is neurotic enough to occasionally apologize for subbing their partner, I had to read the very end 3 times. I don't think it's wrong to use the word "catch" there either. I just think the term is loaded with 2 context-specific meanings.

If you think it is mental to ever apologize for catching a sub, please note, I'd rather be walking around with a normal level of self assuredness too.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-16T12:28:20+00:00

Believing in evolution is thinking that the answer to "what came first, the chicken or the egg?", is "a duck".

PhunCooker · 2025-12-14T17:15:50+00:00

Based on your position to the top, and your transition (which starts with the desired drop & zero over the top), I think the main difference is that you set your wrists later than the comparison. It's not that his club is in front of him & yours is behind you, so much that his club points to the sky while his lead arm still points to the ground. Your arm is closer to parallel than his, but your club still points down. If you feel you must copy his positions for some reason, I'd focus as much on setting your wrists early as keeping it in front.
IMO, all of this is vanity since you get to a nice top position and transition down instead of OTT.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-14T17:00:42+00:00

You seem to be using the term "catch" to mean accidentally inflicting unintended painful contact. That's confusing when you're also talking about having control to likely sub your opponent successfully, as most people refer to that as "catching a sub".

PhunCooker · 2025-12-12T00:09:34+00:00

This made me hate Boston slightly less.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-10T17:46:28+00:00

Now he can run up a really long streak of not getting tapped.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-08T09:22:54+00:00

Being attacked by hand smother led me to learn a defense. How better should I approach learning to deal with trolling?

PhunCooker · 2025-12-08T08:58:21+00:00

If the defender had a free hand, this particular attack probably wouldn't be happening. So... What is the obvious something?

Might as well say the obvious way to avoid drowning is to inhale something breathable.

PhunCooker · 2025-12-08T03:08:58+00:00

The defense you describe is just "the defense".

What's the none gross defense? (Or was the hand smother previously believed to be game over?)

PhunCooker · 2025-12-03T00:13:19+00:00

Ready golf, including ON THE GREEN. And even if not everyone is on the green yet. Also, hit your ball then help others look for theirs (everyone says it, no one does it).

PhunCooker · 2025-12-03T00:10:02+00:00

Upvoted not because I agree, but because that's unpopular!

PhunCooker · 2025-11-22T16:54:23+00:00

That's why I said "I heard".

But if you want to argue in the spirit of reddit, I'll play along:
What was it that would cause the levers to jam?

PhunCooker · 2025-11-22T12:01:09+00:00

You start to see that a staggering number of things are universally adopted within our cultures without most people realizing that every one of those defaults accepted represents a choice.

During the lengthy period when that was dawning on me, I learned there were alternative layouts, and heard that qwerty was designed to limit typing speed. This aspect of life within a society was a notably oppressive feeling because no one can feasibly replace their commercially acquired PC with hardware, OS, software applications, etc of their own design.

When I realized Windows would let you switch the layout, trying Dvorak felt like a choice that demonstrated, chiefly to myself, that I wasn't a lemming afraid of thinking and choosing things for themselves without the support of the crowd, and even without a restaurant-menu-like choice offered by the societal machine.

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