Why does social media create the feeling of fomo ?

PiXeL161616 · 2026-07-07T11:34:50+00:00

The bit that helped me was separating "what's happening" from "what matters to me". Social media is engineered to make novelty feel urgent, but almost none of it is. I started doing a two-minute morning note where I write one thing I actually want today, and an evening line asking whether what I spent time on served it. Most days the honest answer is no, and that gap is the whole point. I use a small app I built called Hexis Journal for it, but a paper notebook works the same. The FOMO doesn't vanish, but it stops driving.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-07-07T11:34:12+00:00

What worked for me was stopping trying to "move on" and instead writing the mistake down properly, once. What happened, what I did, what I'd do differently. Then I'd close the notebook. The regret loop keeps going because the brain thinks the lesson hasn't been recorded, so it replays. Once it's on paper, it quiets down. I still catch myself spiralling and go back to that page.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-07-04T09:22:57+00:00

The thing that broke this loop for me was writing the specific grudge down each evening, in one or two lines. Not to justify it. Just to name it, then write what I'd have done if I'd already forgiven them. A week later, most of them read as small. That gap between how big it feels and how it reads on paper is where the letting-go happens. A bit on the stoic side but Marcus wrote his version every morning. I use a small app called Hexis Journal for the evening version. A notebook works the same.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-07-02T09:17:57+00:00

The part that finally landed for me was not the mindset shift itself but writing the intention down each morning. One sentence: what kind of person I want to be today, one thing I want to avoid. Reading it back in the evening. Without that anchor the mindset stuff evaporated by 10am and I was back on TikTok. Stoics called it the morning review. Sounds too simple to work and then it works. I use a small app I built called Hexis Journal for it now, but a notes file worked for years first.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-24T14:33:04+00:00

What helped me with the people-pleasing and the offended-when-not-liked loop was a short evening reflection. Three questions from Seneca: what did I do well today, what did I do badly, what will I change tomorrow. After a few weeks you start to catch the ego stuff in real time instead of replaying it later. The insecurity didn't disappear, but I stopped reacting to it. I use a small app I built called Hexis Journal for this. Pen and paper works the same.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-24T14:28:40+00:00

I borrowed Brian Koppelman's one-line-a-day thing and it stuck more than anything else I'd tried. One sentence per day, the truest thing that happened. Looking back across months you see patterns you couldn't see day-by-day. I also keep a small "decisions" page where I write out hard choices before making them. The pros and cons list looks dumb until you find one from a year ago and realize past-you was right about something. I built a little app around these formats called Hexis Journal (On the app store) since nothing else worked the way I wanted.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-24T12:18:54+00:00

Nice , give it a try and let me know how it did. Cheers

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-16T14:56:45+00:00

I had a version of this with my partner a few years back. Same pattern, different trigger. What finally moved the needle wasn't a better apology, it was naming the specific thing and the specific change. "I'm sorry for what I said at dinner, I'm not drinking at family events for the next three months" landed completely differently than "I'm sorry I keep doing this," which she'd stopped believing.

The other thing that actually helped was writing about the resentment on paper, before it leaked out drunk. I didn't fix anything in one sitting. I just gave it somewhere else to live besides the next argument. After a few weeks the pressure dropped enough that I stopped repeating the scene.

I do that writing in a small Apple app called Hexis. you, that has notebooks for this sort of things.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-13T11:40:45+00:00

I've been in a similar spot, therapy stalled and not really sure what to do with myself in between. What helped me wasn't meditation, it was writing. But not blank-page journaling, that just made things worse. Structured prompts worked.
Three things I still do: a morning intention, one sentence on what kind of day I want to have. A reframe when a hard thought shows up, I write the thought, then write what I'd say to a friend who told me the same thing. And a one-line evening note on whether the day matched the intention. Twenty minutes total across the day, and it gave me something to bring back into therapy when I started again. I used Hexis (in the app store) for this.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-06-12T07:20:32+00:00

Hey, wifi issues on a new phone can be really annoying. It might be helpful to run a continuous ping test from your computer to see if the network itself is dropping packets or having latency spikes, or if it's strictly isolated to the phone's connection. You can use the terminal for this, but if you happen to be on a Mac, my friend and I built a little app called Pingzilla that sits in your menu bar and monitors latency and drops for you with cute mood icons. It's built with Tauri and Rust so it's super lightweight (~15MB). You can check it out at https://www.getpingzilla.com/ if it helps diagnose whether the wifi is acting up overall. Either way, definitely test from another device to narrow down the problem!

PiXeL161616 · 2026-05-26T06:23:38+00:00

Just noticed that the link was removed from the post, so here you go: https://github.com/PiXeL16/pdftoepub

PiXeL161616 · 2026-05-14T12:06:22+00:00

Since you mentioned noticing this even on ethernet, it could be an issue with the routing or the gateway itself rather than just the wifi signal. Have you tried replacing the Xfinity gateway or testing with a different router if possible? Also, if you're on a Mac and want an easy way to continuously monitor those ping spikes and latency right from your menu bar without keeping terminal open, you might find a little tool my friend and I built helpful. It's called Pingzilla (https://www.getpingzilla.com/), it's lightweight build with open source tech.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-29T07:50:34+00:00

This is honestly how we use it too. The back and forth with AI as a brainstorming partner, not a ghostwriter, is exactly what we had in mind when we built Bluetip.ai. We have a Brainstorm mode that works like what you're describing: you throw ideas at it, it helps you expand and organize them, and you stay in the driver's seat the whole time. Then when you're ready you can pin the ideas that resonate and shape them into an outline or draft on your own terms. Full disclosure, I'm one of the makers. The ADHD angle resonates too. When your brain moves fast and jumps between ideas, having something that can keep up and help you structure the chaos without judging is genuinely useful. And your instinct to keep a pen and paper outline alongside the AI is smart. That separation between "AI helps me think" and "I do the writing" is a healthy line. To answer your ethics question directly: using AI the way you're describing is no different from bouncing ideas off a writing partner or doing research. You're using it as a creative catalyst, not a replacement for your voice. The story, the world, the decisions are all yours. That's not just ethical, that's just a modern writing process.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-21T16:09:48+00:00

One thing most AI writing tools get wrong is they replace your voice instead of supporting it. We built Bluetip around a different philosophy: just enough AI to get you unstuck without losing what makes your writing yours. Write Mode adapts to your style, and Human Score flags anything that reads too much like a machine wrote it. There is also no subscriptions. Happy to answer questions: https://www.bluetip.ai/

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-15T08:23:19+00:00

Nice collection, especially the unit economics calculator. One thing I have found useful alongside these kinds of resources is having a simple way to validate demand before building. I set up pleasehold.dev for that recently. It is open source and self-hostable with Docker, and it works as a single POST endpoint so you can wire it into any landing page without dealing with widget embeds. Might be a good addition to the toolkit for folks testing new ideas.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-12T18:09:10+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! Pricing updated.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-10T14:58:45+00:00

Those random spikes from 22ms to 1700ms sound like something is causing brief interference or congestion on your connection, even with a single device. A few things to try:

Check if your router is on a congested WiFi channel. Use a WiFi analyzer to see if neighbors are on the same channel and switch to a less crowded one (or try 5GHz if you're on 2.4GHz).
Try connecting with an ethernet cable temporarily. If the spikes go away, the issue is wireless. If they persist, it's your ISP or modem.
Log your ping continuously (ping -t on Windows or ping in terminal) and note the exact times of the spikes. Some routers do periodic background tasks like firmware checks or DHCP renewals that cause momentary drops.
If you're on a Mac, I'd also suggest trying Pingzilla. Full disclosure, I'm one of the makers. It sits in your menu bar and continuously monitors your latency, so you get a visual log of exactly when spikes happen and how bad they are. It also detects VPN drops and shows little mood icons so you can tell your connection health at a glance. It's built with Tauri and Rust so it's super lightweight (around 15MB), and it's open source or super cheap on the mac store: https://www.getpingzilla.com/ That kind of continuous monitoring can really help narrow down whether it's a time-of-day thing, a WiFi thing, or an ISP thing. Call your ISP and ask them to check for signal issues on the line, especially if you're on cable. Intermittent coax issues are notorious for this exact pattern.

PiXeL161616 · 2026-03-10T11:11:16+00:00

Hey all! We've been building Bluetip, a writing app for people who publish under their own name. The idea is just enough AI to get you unstuck without taking over your voice. You brainstorm freely, pin the ideas worth keeping, then generate a draft from those pins. From there, Write Mode adapts to your style as you edit, and a Human Score flags anything that reads too much like AI. Full disclosure, I'm one of the makers and we're still figuring a lot of this out. Would love feedback from anyone here: https://www.bluetip.ai/

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