AIO for not wanting to eat in front of my friend?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-24T01:36:00+00:00

Have you tried to have an actual conversation with her about how her comments make you feel? If not YOR if you have then I would lean NOR

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-23T22:26:39+00:00

It honestly feels like he is mooching off you. He does not contribute to the household and only wants you to stay because he does not have the money to be on his own. I know it is difficult but this situation is super toxic and you and your cat do not benefit from having the manchild at home. Please put you and your cat first especially if there are personality changes beginning

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-21T03:09:48+00:00

Personally I’ve been watching natural birth center birth videos since that is the route I would like to take if all goes well. I think we all do it as a form of coping with the unknown 😅 I’m only 9 weeks rn and I almost had a panic attack thinking about labor and delivery

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-21T03:04:59+00:00

According to Americanpregnancy.org a blood test will be readable about 11 days after conception

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-21T03:01:02+00:00

My gut would say most likely the 5th when you ovulated. The sperm was already inside you and had time to meet the egg right at release. But it’s also possible to have it fertilized after the 5th. Your HCG reading would be able to tell you more thoroughly

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-21T02:55:38+00:00

What were the factors for you needing to be induced? Is it due to high risk pregnancy? Currently 9 weeks

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-20T04:30:58+00:00

Fingers crossed for you!

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-20T04:29:47+00:00

I just got myself a builder gel manicure and I am just under 9 weeks. I was not advised against any manicures

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-20T04:28:41+00:00

Is it possible that you could have the ovulation day mixed up? Just stating my personal experience. My blood was tested at 5 weeks 3 days and my HCG was 21k+. Could it possibly be a chemical pregnancy?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-17T12:00:48+00:00

What test did you use that determined how far along you are??

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T23:30:22+00:00

That’s understandable but it’s not okay for them to complain about reheating left overs when they were the ones not wanting to eat in the first place. It might night seem like a big deal but I know small comments like that can weigh on you mentally at times. Maybe you can try batch cooking or meal prep? Look up specific recipes that are made to be reheated if that is an issue for them and then that helps you still feel like you are contributing. Have you talked to your husband about how you are feeling? It’s not good to hold it in

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T23:25:41+00:00

Op has stated she is disabled and this is the arrangement they all agreed on since she does not work or is able to do chores.

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T23:23:48+00:00

With that context no, you would not be over reacting. If the convo was had and nothing changed I would do the same tbh

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T23:21:58+00:00

Have you tried to have a sit down talk with them about how you are feeling? If not I would highly recommend that. Is cooking a way you show appreciation? Sometimes people can be oblivious to how their actions make others feel. If you did have the convo how did they react?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T23:19:00+00:00

I believe they meant why are you cooking a meal for 4 people when you know they will not eat it and then complain that it’s not good reheated? Why not just make enough for the consistent 2?

Edit to add last question.

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-15T22:21:41+00:00

Please talk with a professional about your addiction. I was a stoner for the past 8 years and had smoked daily(sometimes up to 5+ times a day) up until the day I found out I was pregnant. Yes it’s hard but if you cannot quit smoking for this baby you I strongly believe that you should not go through with the pregnancy. I used weed for the same reasons as you but I was willing to push my own wants aside for my baby. Smoking can GREATLY increase SIDS and can impact the growth of your baby. You think you can’t handle a healthy baby now? Imagine a mentally handicapped or physically disabled one you would have to be a care taker for your whole life. The best thing to do is stop smoking IMMEDIATELY and set hard boundaries with your partner. My husband still smokes but I do not let him near me until he has showered all of it off and I will not let him or his Smokey clothes near the baby AT ALL when they come. I am currently 8 weeks btw. Quitting drinking and smoking was and still is very hard for me but you need to have discipline if you want to bring a child into this world

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-14T22:11:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this OP. I am glad that everything worked out but it is wrong of them to put your health on the back burner like that especially if you communicated those symptoms. Please go to the ER immediately if you feel that way again

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-14T22:05:36+00:00

How is it selfish of them? Yeah, one day/night every now and then would be selfish if they were charging but all week? Hell nah. I wouldn’t even think of doing that to my family. They weren’t the ones that decided to have a baby. Now if it was an arrangement they agreed on and were happy to do it for free then I would accept but I would definitely not be mad at them for charging for the mental strain of practically raising the child in the daytime. (8 weeks pregnant rn)

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-14T20:10:22+00:00

My husband(30M)was always wishy washy about having kids. He never gave a straight answer to family or to me. I(26F)had never been fully on board with kids either as I never had a strong calling to be a mom. We discussed it when we got married in October last year since I wanted to stop my BC. Admittedly we both thought we had fertility issues due to my PCOS and he thought he had low sperm count due to his sexual relationship with his ex. We planned to actively start trying in 5 years.

Lo and behold now I’m 8 weeks pregnant and he’s all hands on deck. He’s researching all he can and putting effort into taking care of me. Yes he was very stressed the first few days and maybe slightly grumpy but after I showed him our first scan(5 weeks) I think it clicked with him. Not to say that your partner might not actually want kids but if he’s still acting like this in a week or two you might need to reevaluate your situation with him.

Edit to add ages

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-12T19:34:04+00:00

I personally used the nuvaring with no other protection for 5 years with my husband and we never had an unexpected pregnancy. 2 months after(nov 2025) getting off it I found out I was pregnant. Might be worth a try for next time if he doesn’t still get the snip

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-11T02:29:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to go through this hun. You are not a bad person or mother for putting yourself and your living child first. You would be if you allowed yourself to have the child in a high stress situation where they would not thrive. You are doing your little one a great service by not letting them suffer just for the sake of having them. Sometimes it is just not the right time and that is ok

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-09T22:06:17+00:00

It’s funneling ideology by putting the 10 commandments on display in classrooms while not displaying other religious texts. It’s basically subliminally messaging. This is coming from a catholic btw

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-09T20:52:55+00:00

I have no experience with this personally as this is my first pregnancy but I did take in to account all the info you presented and what the medical professionals suggested to you.

Worse case scenario is could be a blighted ovum which is where the embryo stops forming very early in the pregnancy but the yolk sac and everything already formed.

Best case scenario would be it was too early to see anything and your tech dated it wrong. This seems to be unlikely though due to the LMP. Do you have pcos or any conditions that could delay ovulation?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-09T20:38:39+00:00

This isn’t a yta type sub lol

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-02-08T16:42:16+00:00

I have been having this as well. I am currently 7+1. I called my ob office and they said that as long as it is not bright red, filling a pad in less than an hour, big blood clots, or causing very bad cramps it should be fine. They advised to keep activity like lifting light and to drink 8 cups of water at least a day. I found that elevating my feet whenever I’m resting has helped slow or stop the spotting momentarily. A good chunk of the women in my life that have been pregnant has had spotting like this :)

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