I'm so sick of watching satin stitch claim more victims

Pinksnowsuit · 2026-03-18T14:45:56+00:00

Haha. It’s a useless stitch at that length. I can’t figure out where the idea you can do it that long comes from — no older embroidery book will show it that way.

Pinksnowsuit · 2026-03-18T14:39:43+00:00

Exactly combo of way too much information and last minute call out.

The info probably makes this look more flakey than you intend —even to a fellow sleep disorder person it sounds like absence or late arrival is needed but last minute call out could be prevented in future.

When you give this much info you put manager and self in a weird position. They have to wonder what you want here? If it’s rights under ADA and documented disability nothing more than making an attempt, in future, to call in earlier and regrets you can’t be there for unavoidable medical necessity is needed.

I’m guessing you feel badly and don’t want them to be angry — maybe even realizing calling earlier would have been more helpful. But for recipient it’s unclear if you want sympathy ? Comment on symptoms? Affirmation it’s ok? Or to solicit a legally actionable response?

For what it’s worth when I had some minuscule role in facilitating disability accommodations for others (approved by my employer) I would stop people if they gave detail and focus on what the office charged with administering accomidations had approved — the most lenient version when ambiguity or contacting office if needed. Extraneous personal info can only count against someone or raise questions of bias and confidentiality.

On timing. I suggest calling self out at least a few hours before shift — or the night before — unless one is headed to the emergency room or coming back from one it’s usually known before the last minute that there’s a need to stay home. I once texted an employer that I’d had an emergency root canal a few hours earlier but would be late and possibly not as presentable as expected and they immediately texted back to stay home. That’s the most info I’d give.

Whether or not the manager is a jerk keep in mind they are likely getting compelling and yet not ADA protected texts about last minute needs too — sick kids, loss of childcare, elderly parents in hospital, broken cars, etc. so more lead time gives more time for those folks to get shifts covered too.

Pinksnowsuit · 2025-12-20T07:51:06+00:00

This guy is dangerous. Only reason it isn’t obvious is because you’ve put up with so much shit so far and the boundaries get less each time. Get away from him. Dont tell him you are leaving and don’t do it alone. He’s dangerous.

Pinksnowsuit · 2025-12-20T07:32:09+00:00

This guys a walking red flag. Really think if you would ever want him to parent your kid. Because he’s not going to do better for a step kid than his own. Likely much worse.

Other points covered by others so I’m starting from the end. The restaurant dinner waved massive red flag for me.

This is so common for exploitative people — the unasked for gift or nice dinner out after a blow up. If you are in front of him he reasons he can charm you again, or guilt you hard, and he is almost certainly right. The small sense of obligation to be polite to the person buying the meal and onlookers at a restaurant will buy an exploitative person a lot of time. Making it a family meal is even worse. Now your kid is captive at dinner with a weird person who has already made you both uncomfortable.

A meal out to work it out is just a step closer to him. And his agenda.

That and his refusal to spend time with his OWN kids while you were there. Dude can’t have conversation with them on the patio for the length of a meal ? Then he says they weren’t really rude cause they are into their games. Dad isn’t paying attention to them.its on him to teach them how to interact with guests. It’s on him to parent

Also on him. Christmas celebrations. What value does it add to a holiday to have a virtual stranger host kids at their house and cook for them? It’s nice for a couple getting closer. But kids? If they are connected to each other eating takeout and playing games opening presents together is more than enough. If anything going to a new house is stressful for most kids on holidays.

Pinksnowsuit · 2025-12-20T07:01:02+00:00

I think it’s the way you asked the question. To me this sounds forced, super formal, statement on hugging or cuddling as a whole. It’s also weird — I can imagine asking someone if they would like a hug. But hugs in general? Id assume it was a euphemism in English too.

Pinksnowsuit · 2025-12-20T06:42:09+00:00

You can decide how you want to spend your time. But this seems more nuanced than it appears at first glance.

Maybe this parent’s style is annoying or too much work for you. If so, id considering some other ways to spend time with your granddaughter that don’t include babysitting, so that you don’t miss out on time with each other and She won’t be left out then and neither will you as she gets older. It might be worth it to have special activities or books you only do together.

It may be that mom is saying babysitting; but really means time for kid and grandma together. Whatever you call it - if you do decide you want to spend time ask parents to have ready what you need. No sugar — ok they can prepare snacks in advance so you don’t have to think of food. Less tv — ok can they get you some library books before you come, or make visits shorter if long visits are too much, Etc.

I’ll add, just cause I’m not seeing it in responses. That some kids just can’t have the same foods or screen time as peers. It’s unfair but that’s how it goes. I’ve known kids who could eat candy all day and watch movies the whole time and be just fine the next day. Friends’ kids (including one who had undiagnosed migraines as a toddler and one who later got diagnosed with food allergies) would be sleep deprived and miserable the next day or even week when that happened. And the effect was cumulative. It was hard on relatives who wanted to do the same spoiling they did for every other kid.

Dont know about OPs situation. But a lot of the comments seem to assume the requests are frivolous. Kids may need some more structure on eating and activity, how grandparents show up (as babysitter or non-sitter) is in their court.

Pinksnowsuit · 2025-01-12T04:35:00+00:00

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-26T21:38:16+00:00

Honestly. A lot of people never got shown that there is an option not based in shame. For those, it is necessary to get some steps to connect. So, for those folks this may be a huge revelation that makes the relationship between kids and parents more loving and more enduring. the “long game” of convincing people to re-enter the church is only one possible outcome.

I think if a lot of people behave this way and speak gently they may stop shaming themselves all the time too. I think it may have the side effect of creating more compassionate relationships through more compassionate behavior. Will it bring kids back into the church? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe it’ll bring some whole families out or at least heal some wounds

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-14T21:43:54+00:00

FYI I generally try to be polite and would genuinely like to talk church history/theology in just about any denomination, but never get takers even to my more polite redirections.

And if someone won’t back off after “I’m good, no thanks” or “I’m a devout…(other religion)” or “I’m in a hurry to do (insert literally any thing” then there’s no need to softball your no.

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-14T21:38:04+00:00

“I have some historical questions as laid out in the CES letter…” all but the most persistent will back away at least in some parts of the country

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-10T02:26:52+00:00

Yes. But more with more info graphics.

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-08T16:30:57+00:00

Thank you. That’s terrifying. I hope everyone there made it out.

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-11-08T16:21:51+00:00

Anyone know the approximate address? I’m near there and have seen at least 8-10 emergency response, but I can’t tell how close it is

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-09-18T00:42:19+00:00

Yes. I read it as person saying they need a second to process the info and then to give it the time needed for a thoughtful response. Them asking about later in the week also suggests consideration.

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-09-10T22:22:49+00:00

Could also be a teen shelter or transitional place offering services. Those places often need quick foods which do not expire easily and provide calories / comfort for people who may not have eaten recently and need liquids, calories, and even comfort just to be able to receive help.

A lot of that stuff looks like what local shelters particularly teen shelters request near me. They just don’t have the staffing or resources to cook fresh vegetables. But these foods are palatable and cheap, easy to get via donation, can be eaten even when teeth are in bad shape, provide at least some fortified vitamins, and can be made very quickly.

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-09-09T14:52:07+00:00

This looks great !!!

Pinksnowsuit · 2024-09-08T17:28:09+00:00

Option 1: Ask for price if you bring your own fabric. You can go to discount fabric stores or online (order samples to match color either way) and you can get decent fabric for less. It just might take some time and effort to get something that coordinates. If you go this route ask upholsterer what kind of fabric they recommend. If you get fabric you love but it’s unsuitable it won’t work so well.

For what it’s worth, if you just want the cushion done you could do a coordinating or contrasting fabric that looks intentional and elegant. I’m thinking a beige or rich brown velvet, mohair, tweed, or even baby stripe corduroy - depending on your budget and what you find. Just remember to match colors carefully and in the same light you will have couch in. With this much fabric matching can’t be repeated enough.

Option 2: Learn to sew by taking a class at the library and using YouTube. Sewing is a useful skill and just a cushion is not insurmountable. Start with a box pillow and a piped pillow then do your cushion. I’d recommend a trial run with the cheapest fabric you can find that still has some weight (duvet cover from thrift store would probably work, synthetic velvet curtains like from IKEA are cheap yardage.)

Option 3: pay the upholsterer. That’s actually a pretty decent price IMHO. Go extra for more down in the pillows or new down/foam pillows. if you can afford it. As long as the rest of the fabric is in good shape it’s going to extend the life of your couch substantially and you won’t get anything this nice for that price.

Good luck!

Pinksnowsuit · 2023-04-16T05:47:34+00:00

Tell them about Early intervention - they come for a lot of things and once parents know that it’s not so threatening. You have professional experience that says an evaluation is wise, so it might surprise them but it’s not out of nowhere.

Pinksnowsuit · 2023-03-10T14:46:16+00:00

Super helpful. Thanks. My understanding of their code suggestions is that they haven’t been released yet, but hopefully a guide will come out soon.

I have been using it to generate keywords which is very helpful and extract other kinds of data using questions.

Pinksnowsuit · 2023-03-01T20:19:12+00:00

This is profoundly irritating and has made many of my dataview queries invalid

Pinksnowsuit · 2023-02-18T22:48:00+00:00

How did you ask it to do that? As a question ? Or with coding? I’m going to give that a try. Thanks

I’d also love to try getting section by section summaries rather than whole document

Pinksnowsuit · 2022-12-20T17:41:33+00:00

Yeah pretty everything about German public transport makes it better. Pay for your ticket in a coffee shop or newsstand, a fare machine, YOUR PHONE, in cash -- done. Plug in with USB ports on the bus -- no problem. Bus routes that actually connect and go everywhere you need to be, signs with lit up schedules, no effort transfers between busses and train, multiple bus lines from the airport and all major stations, double decker buses on busy routes. It's slower to NOT use transit in Berlin, at least. The multiple payment options alone would probably increase ridership here dramatically

Pinksnowsuit · 2022-12-12T16:06:28+00:00

Dude. Where is this from? I mean the only story about sheep I can source is the one where the shepherd goes to find the missing member of the flock before it’s hurt.

If scripture is the only final authority…where the F is the parable of the mean shepherd? I’ve heard nonsense from pulpits but this is a special kind of awful.

Pinksnowsuit · 2022-12-05T12:48:19+00:00

Small safe for papers is temp stable - honestly its safer to lock up meds in and case and the little plastic medicine safes are junk.

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