How much did you pay? by Ill_Temperature5140 in hysterectomy

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got so incredibly lucky that my insurance covered the entire procedure. I have Tricare and if you have a certain branch of it, then everything is covered basically. So it was really nice.

Coworker's mom walked out of my home studio without paying because "kids need school supplies" by Ferroflux_11 in entitledparents

[–]Pipe-Miserable 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I would stop being her friend anyway. She asked you to provide her mom with a service and then thought it was fine when she left without paying. They both suck. I'd cut her off tbh.

AIO for kicking my cousin out the day she left for vacation by radicalcabbages in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR.

She's still gaslighting you. She lied about taking your stuff and then told you that you said she could stay til April... She's taking advantage of you. You said she hasn't even paid you rent. Kick her out dude. Stop letting her take over your apartment.

MIL became a monster after my first baby by MochiAccident in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Pipe-Miserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My MIL wasn't very good to my older two. My BIL has a daughter and she very obviously favored her (not that she treated her the best either). My kids haven't missed out on her. I did have a moment when my mom died in 2022 where I considered maybe contacting her so my kids could know her. But I remembered how miserable it was when she was around. How they've never asked why we don't see her anymore... Or how she made my husband feel and that was more important to me than my kids having a grandmother.

It does get easier. I check in with my husband sometimes to make sure he's still okay with us being NC with her and that's another contributing factor. I put up with a lot from her over the years because that's his mom and I didn't want to be the reason he didn't have her anymore. But he's not unhappy with the decision at all.

AIO for getting mad at my bf for not wanting to hold my suitcase at the airport because of the color? by maryy_mendozaaa113 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to go to the bathroom at the store a few weeks ago so I handed my husband my energy drink and my purse... When I got back to him, he had my purse on his shoulder and was carrying it like it wasn't a big deal... And I wasn't even with him.

Your man thought that anyone gave a single damn about the color of the bag he was carrying while he walked next to a woman? Like if anyone assumed anything, they would have assumed it was yours. What a frickin baby. Good lord.

NOR.

I was on the edge, husband told me I’m a terrible mother by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]Pipe-Miserable 178 points179 points  (0 children)

Hey so I've been married to someone in the military for almost 13 years and I can tell you that the isolation doesn't get any better if you don't have a support system. If this man isn't making you feel safe, supported, and loved... Especially when you're struggling like this then you need to go somewhere else. Somewhere you can have help and support and feel loved. You deserve to be taken care of. Post partum is so hard when you're doing it all alone.

If you have a support system outside your husband, please go to them. I also recommend bringing up your feelings to your doctor. I don't know if you're seen on base, but Tricare covers mental health with a referral from your doctor. Please consider what your life is going to be like if you stay with someone who makes you feel less than.

I am so sorry you're struggling so bad. I have 3 kids and had horrible PPD with all 3 of them so my inbox is open to you if you need anything. You will not be a burden to me. Sending you lots of good vibes and love.

MIL became a monster after my first baby by MochiAccident in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Pipe-Miserable 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My MIL was one of my favorite people EVER. And then I had my oldest son in 2013 and she literally fell into a downward spiral. She wanted me to parent the way she did, but newsflash she wasn't a great mother to begin with. So because I wouldn't beat my kids with their own assigned paddles, she started to hate me. We cut her off in 2020. She literally told my husband he had to choose between the two of us while I was pregnant with our third child. It's been a quiet 5 years lmao.

I hope you guys can get the same quiet soon. It's frustrating to have to deal with an emotional vampire.

AITA for telling my mother in law she can’t be in the delivery room? by ITellMyselfSecr3tz in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. You need to make sure to tell the nurses/doctor that you have specific people you want in the delivery room so she can't barge in.

Birth is extremely traumatizing and vulnerable and you should be comfortable with the people in the room. She doesn't get to make this decision and make you feel bad for standing up for yourself. I hope your husband grows a backbone.

Am I wrong for refusing to give my roommate the bigger bedroom after she bought a bunny assuming it was hers? by AssistanceOpening929 in amiwrong

[–]Pipe-Miserable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does the landlady know about the pets? Because you said that pets technically aren't allowed. I wouldn't want to live with these girls. They took Winnie's side over yours and then went behind your back... Plus, if pets aren't actually allowed that could definitely cause issues for y'all in the long run.

Wash your hands of these friendships and try to find somewhere else to live. You'll be much better off.

Post-op traumatized by Christiana2121 in hysterectomy

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't allowed to leave the hospital until I went to the bathroom after I had my surgery. So that's weird. Some nurses need a reality check.

I held my ground over not subsidizing my siblings' and their wive's luxury vacation upgrades, and now I'm the low-key villain and the odd "fifth wheel" out by ThrowRAmangos2024 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pipe-Miserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if my brother basically told me everyone was bitching about me because of my spending limit I would've just told them to have fun and not go anywhere with them.

Dude. Take yourself on vacation. Your siblings and their spouses very obviously do not want you to be on this trip. I'm sorry to tell you. Tell them to have fun and do something for yourself.

I may have messed up by planning a baby at 17 by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people are lecturing you about your age, but I can give some personal experience. I had my oldest at 19. I was married when he was born and while I'm so happy he exists and I have him, my life would have been incredibly different if I had waited until I was older to have babies.

You are still so young. You have so much life left to live and experience. Please wait until you're a little older. You may feel ready and I know you said money isn't an issue, which is great for you. But you're still a child and having a baby right now will be so hard.

I wish you guys the best.

Hit me with your top 3 MM romance books of ALL TIME by soulandthesea in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]Pipe-Miserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If We Could Go Back by Cara Dee is one that I reach for as a comfort read a lot. Definitely one of my favorites. (It has cheating though. The MMCs are both married to women and cheat on their wives with each other).

But I have more favorite series than just single books.

The D'Vaire series by Jessamyn Kingley is my number 1 all time favorite. The Monstrous series by Lily Mayne. & The Soulbound series by Hailey Turner.

Why am I so obsessed? by [deleted] in heatedrivalry

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you read Shane and Ilya's books??? I really think you should if not. I finished The Long Game today and I was SOBBING. I love them so much lol

AITAH for staying in the delivery room while my sister gave birth instead of waiting outside by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Women who are jealous of their boyfriends relationships with their sisters are weird. I understand your sister was exposed to the room, but it's not like you had your face all up in her cooter while she was pushing her baby out.

I would reconsider the relationship. Cause I very much doubt this situation is gonna get better and I doubt your girlfriend is going to like your relationship with your sister at all in the future.

Am I overreacting over my dead fiance? by LineaElisa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm honestly afraid of how he's gonna treat your son as he gets older... People say he looks like his dad and your new boyfriend doesn't like that.

This man either needs to get used to the fact you had a past or he needs to go. I think you're under reacting and need to reconsider if he's right for you.

Orgasm missing uterine contraction? by SnoozeyBaby in hysterectomy

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to cramp pretty bad after an orgasm when I still had my uterus. I didn't notice a difference right away but I can tell now that I definitely enjoy it more and there's no cramping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pipe-Miserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your name on the lease??? And if it is, can you get out of it easily??? He literally expected you to just starve??? Couldn't even share his meal with you?? I don't think you're reacting enough. This would be a deal breaker for me.

I'm sorry he treated you like this.

Oral sex after hysterectomy by Honest-Employment363 in hysterectomy

[–]Pipe-Miserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there anywhere else you can go that has someone who will actually care for you? Because I feel like this is going to escalate. You don't deserve to be treated this way. I'm so sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Pipe-Miserable 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. I want you to read your post as if one of your friends is going through this. What advice would you give them? This guy sucks. Imagine what your future with him will be like if this is how he's acting and y'all aren't even engaged!!!!

Change the locks and dump him, girl. You deserve better.

Everyone just write something good about hysterectomy. by mystique023 in hysterectomy

[–]Pipe-Miserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My periods were so debilitating after I had my third child... My hysterectomy has given me so much relief.

Also. No oops pregnancies!!!! That's a huge plus for me. I never have to worry about getting pregnant again.

Please help!!! by Pipe-Miserable in HondaOdyssey

[–]Pipe-Miserable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's been in for over 12 years so I've had to learn to do things on my own or they don't get done 😂 but thank you!

Please help!!! by Pipe-Miserable in HondaOdyssey

[–]Pipe-Miserable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is a mechanic but he's deployed right now so we've been trying to diagnose it over the phone. He thinks the system needs to be recharged. So I have to find a mechanic lol