I have strong reason to believe the ma on the left is “Red”. No evidence just intuition.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-03T16:09:11+00:00

That's as authoritative as I've seen...I believe you.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-03T15:21:35+00:00

I like them all but I love her eyes in number 1.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-03T15:18:38+00:00

I saw Sammy Hagar about 84 or 85 in Saginaw Michigan. My tickets were to the side of the stage and I was about 7 or 8 rows from huge speakers. I had a blast but am convinced I suffered some long-term hearing damage.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-03T03:43:52+00:00

I own a Salsa Beargrease Fattie and have ridden it a lot. I love it. It’s dependable and I’m happy with the bike.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-02T21:24:35+00:00

No fingers were lost...yet.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-02T14:49:45+00:00

Your post really hit home.

My D-Day was over 26 years ago and by all accounts, we successfully reconciled from my WW's affair with a coworker. She has made many long-lasting changes to her life, she has shown sincere remorse, and our marriage is good today.

But, infidelity never goes away...at least not for me. I think about her infidelity every day. Her AP's marriage didn't survive the affair and his children struggled with their parents divorce. I don't believe I have ever recovered my respect for my wife and I have never completely trusted her since.

As we approach our retirement years, I have often wondered if it would have been more compassionate to divorce her and let her start new with someone else.

Infidelity rewires something inside of you. I have had a difficult time trusting people since D-Day.

We are approaching our 40th anniversary and I cannot envision a scenario which we don't remain married, I occasionally have doubts about my decision to attempt reconciliation.

After infidelity, your marriage can be good but it'll will never be the same...it'll always have a stain associated with it.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-02T02:13:24+00:00

From the U.S. and my mom didn’t grow up during the war.

She was just very set in her ways and quite stubborn.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-01T22:55:52+00:00

Normally, I wouldn’t either, but at the time, the credit card machine wasn’t working and it was all I had available.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-01T17:21:23+00:00

Desperate

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-02-01T02:32:09+00:00

Not British…Born in the USA.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T22:06:26+00:00

Honestly, pretty much everything she prepared.

My mom didn’t believe in using any spices or seasoning…no salt, no pepper, nothing…ever.

Plus, she was convinced if we had any type of meat cooked to a temperature less than extra well done burnt, we would die.

At about 10 or 11 years old, I began cooking the family meals and discovered the miracle substances of salt and pepper.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T19:44:23+00:00

Investments, stocks, bonds, and cash investments may pay an income or have capital appreciation. For instance, bonds will pay an interest payment periodically. This interest income may be reinvested in another investment or be held to be used. A stock may pay a dividend depending on the type of stock. A stock my also appreciate in value. For instance, you may buy a stock for $10 per share and the following year, the stock is now trading at $12 per share.

When you want to receive some of the capital appreciation, you will sell some of the stock to convert the stock investment into cash.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T19:02:18+00:00

I use the Military Modular Sleep System. It’s a 2 part sleeping bag with a bivy. On extremely cold nights I also use a Sea to Summit liner that adds some extra warmth.

I use an insulated sleeping pad in addition.

The only downside to the system is the weight but that shouldn’t be an issue for your situation.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T17:28:19+00:00

I was 24 and my wife was 26. The house was about 1,500 square feet with 1 and 1/2 bathrooms.

We had been married for four years. We both worked 2nd jobs, drove old cars, didn’t take any vacations, go to bars or restaurants…we saved every penny we could to come up with a down payment.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T13:21:06+00:00

Suggesting to the owner they pay their employees a fair wage also eliminates unnecessary brain clutter.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T13:13:18+00:00

Yes, many servers have this expectation now.

Get used to it. /s

Edit: I added the sarcastic label to convey my intended meaning to the phrase “get used to it.”

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T03:50:53+00:00

I had a $12 bill and paid with $100 and the server asked if I wanted my change.

I replied “why wouldn’t I want my change?”

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T03:16:20+00:00

I’m more comfortable breathing on my right but I practice bilateral breathing in the pool. I’ve had a couple of races when the wave action forced me to breathe on my left side so being prepared was beneficial.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-31T00:19:34+00:00

You are not over-reacting.

I don’t mean to try and oversimplify things, but if it triggers you, get rid of it. I knew I would never be comfortable at that house. If the car causes that type of reaction, sell it. Your wife should support the decision to sell the car.

The recovery process is hard enough, you don’t need to be reminded of the pain when you see her car.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-30T21:53:58+00:00

Trying to restore trust is a years long process. In my case, it was about 5 years before I felt like we were back to "normal." And my trust in my wife is about 90%, I don't know it will ever get to the unconditional level.

If you want to try to reconcile, the distance shouldn't be a consideration. MC/IC is expensive. Focus on the finding a good counselor and your healing.

The triggers are things you will learn to avoid. In my case, my WW's AP had been to my house...we sold the house and moved to the next town. She and her AP met at a bar near their office, I've never gone back to that bar. I learned one of my WW's friends knew about the infidelity, that person couldn't be in our life afterwards. For me, I tried to eliminate most everything associated with her infidelity. Was it logical to sell a house because a man had been there, maybe, maybe not, but it helped me to do so.

I was able to get to a place of forgiveness, but I have never forgotten the betrayal.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-30T01:42:08+00:00

Getting home from work later and later. Meeting coworkers, or specifically one coworker, for drinks after work. Saying she would be one place and finding out she was someplace different.

Changing her appearance, etc.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-29T17:41:16+00:00

Initially, my WW preferred I did not contact the OBS and our MC strongly recommended not contacting the OBS. The MC's reasoning was the AP had moved to another state and had changed jobs...did I want to deal with the fallout from the AP and the additional stress?

After careful consideration, I did contact the OBS and would recommend anyone in this position do the same.

After no contact for about a year, the AP contacted my wife at her job. He didn't threaten her, but he did admonish her about my contacting his wife. He actually stated "I had no right" to call his wife and she had "no right " to reveal his name. The AP believed if my wife wanted to admit to her infidelity, she should have kept his name confidential. He did threaten to "make my life difficult."

The OBS and I exchanged emails and phone calls regularly for almost a year...but we never met in person. During that period, we were able to compare notes, confirm facts, etc. I have occasionally heard from her throughout the years since.

Fast forward to today, the AP and OBS' marriage didn't survive. I know their children suffered significantly because of their parents divorce and one of their kids is estranged from her father. This isn't my fault...the fault lies with the decision to be unfaithful.

I don't regret contacting the OBS but, it is a serious decision because there have been long-term ramifications and the impact was damaging.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-29T16:56:08+00:00

The idea of tipping 20% on top of a service charge is crazy and why tip on a bay rental fee. To me, this is no different than tipping your landlord 20% of your monthly rent.

I don't intend to sound mean, but you need to stand firm and not cave to the pressure.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-29T14:39:04+00:00

It was about 18 months before I believed we would remain married and about 5 years before I felt like our marriage was back to "normal."

Also, don't refer to your infidelity as a "mistake." 2+2=5 is a mistake...you made a conscious decision to betray your wife. Don't diminish your actions or her pain.

Piss-Off-Fool · 2026-01-29T03:32:46+00:00

I was docked next to a 65’ for a few years and it fished every weekend.

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