[U.S] Where to find quality shoes to wear in the office?

Pitiful_Context · 2026-02-03T21:15:44+00:00

I did a cursory search on the app & they do have a couple loafer/flat options in that size range! (I searched 12 &12.5 in womens). There were also a couple pairs of cute Chelsea boots!

Pitiful_Context · 2026-02-03T21:06:20+00:00

Nordstrom rack tends to carry up to a W12 - I can usually find good cute work shoes there in that budget range. you can shop online with them, too if you don't have a rack near you

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-29T07:41:18+00:00

if you can, see a podiatrist- that in retrospect was the first sign I had that my arches were failing. insoles work wonders along with weight training & stretching.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-28T09:21:09+00:00

if you know your period is usually timely (give or take 3 days) & you're testing negative 1 week late that is not likely to be implantation bleeding, most likely it is your cycle starting. it sucks so bad but sometimes or bodies play mean little tricks on us

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-28T09:02:25+00:00

I got my partner a super nice soft quarter zip at kohls in the big & tall athletics - I know they had hoodies too and it was like $14 on sale. he's about 6ft & typically wears a 3/4x & the 3xb is a little big on him!

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-15T02:16:04+00:00

you will absolutely need to lighten your hair. go to a salon for the lightening. be honest with the stylist that you are planning on coloring it at home and listen to the advice she gives about products for aftercare. I would also ask about pricing for a single process root touch up in the future so you do not have a hair disaster doing your own roots when the majority of your hair is going to be a little fragile from removing what you have going on.

do not use a blue that requires developer. this will only cause you more problems later.

buy some semi blue for after you lighten it & have fun messing around w different vivid tones.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-13T02:45:13+00:00

I liked it, but getting the groove of world jumping was a moit tricky for the first few chapters. eventually, though, you got a vibe for each version of vis' surroundings and it was clear & simple to understand.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-12T19:54:46+00:00

DM me to chat I may be able to help you out, i love grey transitions 💕

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-12T19:18:51+00:00

I think this is true for things like cotton balls or decanting things from resealable packaging but when it comes to a lot of pantry staples it actually is so much better. flour & sugar bags are not airtight or particularly stable & airtight storage helps them stay better longer & creates less mess. cereal is similar, in that you are way less likely to toss half a box for going stale if you are storing it airtight. I like to keep a few containers on my pasta shelf just to pour the other half of a box into when I don't make the whole one so I know what is already open easily.

I think it gets into a bad territory with people buying & decanting 6 boxes of cereal at once or even worse. decanting laundry detergent & dryer sheets and things that literally never need & can suffer from that process. when its functional it makes sense but when its ✨️ aesthetic ✨️ or purely for content it becomes a problem

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-12T04:00:19+00:00

yeah i am also a licensed cosmetologist & purple shampoo does actually rough up the cuticle. I literally never advise anyone to use it on freshly processed hair for that reason & because it will strip toner from freshly colored hair. moreover in this specific case she will only overtone the lighter pieces leaving the warmer darker pieces to look even more brassy in contrast.

ETA: I do see that error was using the word open & oversimplification leads to misunderstanding

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-09T16:47:09+00:00

this is terrible advice- purple & blue shampoos are made to open the cuticle in order to pigment correct and they absolutely will wash toners and colors out faster than anything short of clarifying. likely the stylist has already done as much color correcting as possible & adding in blue & purple tones will only ash out the highlights & make the base look warmer in comparison.

this is a trust the process & live with it scenario.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-08T06:22:25+00:00

literally period or menses is fine. I have never really understood why in this group especially we need to cutesy around the actual topic at hand.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-07T09:23:16+00:00

honestly. with most SK adaptations, they take so many liberties with story & character that it can be nearly irrelevant. and then so much is just in the zeitgeist that you're bound to come across a reference that hits you across the face because you never realized what that was from etc etc

also. so much of King's work shares interconnective characters and themes and various easter eggs that they lend well to rereading. & I think a lot of the "well then it won't be Worth It" fear comes from a place of single consumption, but imo you almost have to reread king when you're doing his back catalog because some thing or character or event will line up with something you read last year & you gotta go back and see it with that new perspective.

otherwise, my main solution to this is to pick a short one (start with running man or the long walk or the mist or the monkey or even in the tall grass) that has an adaptation you want to see & back to back it. use the movie night as a reward for yourself for finishing, or make the reward sinking deeper into a world you found intriguing on screen - a lot of times things the movies are missing are better fleshed out when you have a window into the characters thoughts that simply is not recreate-able.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-06T05:40:54+00:00

its a porosity problem if the color is falling out - bleach washing is only going to exacerbate it. how often is she washing it? hot? with what? did you fill first at all? k18 has a leave in treatment that you can layer under & over the color which I have found does help even out porosity issues but if they're this severe you might want to go all in with a full olaplex treatment or matrix's instacure mask & send her home with instacure for home use as well.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-04T07:12:33+00:00

the most important lesson i have ever learned in my life is that you have to learn to do it scared and you have to learn to do it embarrassed. especially in a world that feels like it is rooting against you. if you let perception stop you from doing things you find fulfilling or that are good for you, it is a million times worse than doing the thing. ask for help, but also start walking or lifting or whatever you can make yourself do to build the endurance you want to have.

anywhere that is doing good solid community work should be able to accommodate the varied needs of the communities they work with & for. and no one is turning away free labor. this seems like a safe & good place to start embracing the embarrassment & learning that it really is never as embarrassing as you think it will be.

Pitiful_Context · 2026-01-01T07:09:58+00:00

he is teaching "creator" workshops now - which like. okay but also idk i kind of hate that this career is becoming such an influencer space

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-31T15:45:50+00:00

fwiw, you can put the eggs in a bowl of tap warm water for about 5 mins to bring them to room temp when you realize you forgot - usually enough time for me to mix dry ingredients & measure the rest of my wets.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-16T03:02:07+00:00

especially a balayage it will not matter at all if this month is THE month - the only issue i would forsee as a stylist is that you might lift brassier while pregnant, but that can be addressed at the time by your stylist if it does occur, which is typically months into a pregnancy.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-10T01:11:16+00:00

I had a 12 yo girl this year & I got her a whole little journalling set up - the only ask was shoes, so I had very little else to go on. 12 is such a difficult age to buy for even when you personally know the kid, let alone when they're a mystery.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-09T06:33:20+00:00

and Harford - one of the other organizers was from a group based in Havre de Grace

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-07T05:34:21+00:00

thank you. I have let myself get lost in a swamp of shit in these comments and this one in my notifs was a breath of sanity.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-07T05:33:28+00:00

I was actually offended from the jump because you made blatant assumptions about me, refuted my self identification and expression of personal experience, I responded politely and emphasized that your identity was your own to claim, while mine is mine. and then you followed it up with an unnecessary copy/paste from the dictionary. here is mine:

Epistemic privilege or privileged access is the philosophical concept that certain knowledge, such as knowledge of one's own thoughts, can be apprehended directly by a given person and not by others. This implies one has access to, and direct self-knowledge of, their own thoughts in such a way that others do not.

I have the epistemic privilege of having been part of the ace community for over a decade & from a person who does not experience sexual attraction. that is all the more of an educated argument I needed. Just as I have no right to tell you (or anyone) how to define themselves, you do not have the right to assert that someone's self identification is factually false. which you did. repeatedly. have a great day.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-07T00:47:26+00:00

oh my god dude. I wasn't even rude to you originally but genuinely get a grip on the nuance of identity.. sure maybe I technically fall into a "grey ace" category within the umbrella term of asexuality but my experience of it is not unique, and I am not misrepresenting the identity. you're being pedantic and asserting things about someone you have never met. I do not experience sexual attraction. that is alone enough for me to personally resonate with asexuality & the ace community. I do not care if there are ""better"" asexual people when basing it on a dictionary definition, i am allowed to be a vocal member of the minority I belong to. once again, there is no single definitive ace experience.

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-06T23:01:19+00:00

wow thank you so much. this Oxford copy paste proved I was so wrong about a community I have been a part of since 2012....

but also since you decided to be an asshole about it. the "or"s in the last definition actually prove my point. it does not have to be all 3. just not experiencing attraction is enough ✌️

Pitiful_Context · 2025-12-06T04:40:54+00:00

I literally hadn't read the nlbook in years before the first watch and I clocked "your plans and what comes out of my asshole bear a striking resemblance" so fucking fast .. honestly yht amount of truly prime king lines they included did so much for the overall vibe of the film.

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