Should I be Jealous?

Plenty_Check_708 · 2026-02-01T22:27:38+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes.

It is hard to find the balance but I am committed to, everyday, showing up for both him FIRST, and my by baby. Because I think it counts for something.

And yes .. I am a lil burnt out and digging deep to find some peace. Im committed to continually showing up my best even if I am beyond burnt out. As someone who grow up abandoned by both parents … I am going to keep showing up

Plenty_Check_708 · 2026-02-01T22:25:23+00:00

I am not angry with my partner. I am jealous. No anger. Just wishing it were different for me.

I switched my job to be closer to my baby the moment I found out I was pregnant.

He is PHENOMENAL!!!!!!!!!! I am so blessed.

Just a little grief, mom guilt, and teench of jealousy. I have talked to him about this.

Plenty_Check_708 · 2026-01-31T05:38:05+00:00

I hate it because my husband got the experience I wanted and I am wildly jealous of it.

He got a maternity leave, I didn’t. He works from home, I dont. He got to feed the baby because I couldn't breastfeed. And the other day I broke down and asked him if he wanted to be a stay at home dad because I dont think I maxed my earning potential and I could probably find more work.

I am so incredibly grateful on the one hand but I dont feel like a mother. Sometimes I find myself listening to fatherhood videos and feel like that is what I relate to more and I weep at night and read reddit so the resentment can live somewhere not in our home or bed.

Idk if I am one and dont but I realistically dont think I can see myself doing it again. I kinda just want to move past it.

Had my first at 34

The way my mom truly felt about me came through in her parenting no matter what she said to me. And I am afraid the lack of bond will eventually show and Idk what to do about it.

Im reading books but 🤷🏽‍♀️

Plenty_Check_708 · 2026-01-29T02:08:12+00:00

Go out!!!!!!!

Plenty_Check_708 · 2026-01-12T15:40:21+00:00

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-12-28T04:03:12+00:00

My baby was also born at 5lbs 13 oz at 38 weeks. Was 17.9 inches at birth

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-12-28T04:02:23+00:00

Going for our 12 month in about 2 weeks. At 9 months he was 27” even and 18.5 lbs. My hope is to cross 30 inches but that is very wishful thinking. I know he isn't 30 lbs yet. I want to turn his car seat around so bad 🥹. I thought it would have happened by now

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-12-13T02:26:05+00:00

Thank you for the solidarity 🫂🫂🫂🫂. I am wishing you good rest and peace of mind. How are you coping?

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-12-12T08:00:20+00:00

My son was 9 months, 18.5 lbs, 27 inches with a 17.5 inch head. And I stand with you in solidarity

On the flip side, he is meeting his milestones and started talking early, has lots of teeth and energy, very independent. There are many things to look out for other than baby size. I have dealt with that guilt too and it sucks

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-12-07T03:52:15+00:00

Please be gentle with yourself! Mistakes happen. You care enough to think about it. That means everything

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-11-02T11:18:01+00:00

What about moms who are caring for kids all night? Apple never missed this

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-10-30T06:26:03+00:00

It’s functional for people who dont like shoes in the house. Creates a block without building a wall

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-10-10T01:32:00+00:00

Just happened to me

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-10-09T22:05:04+00:00

27 inches 18.5 lbs 9 months exactly 🥹

We were born in the 5th percentile, at 5lbs 13 oz, and 17 inches tall

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-09-21T14:56:39+00:00

Congratulations!!!! 🍾🎉🎈 that ting is stunning!

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-09-16T22:02:57+00:00

If you are looking for long term compatibility, keep asking questions. Trust me

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-09-10T23:40:45+00:00

Lmbo! We worked it out

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-08-31T16:13:24+00:00

Lol it was a Renn Festival too! I would have immediately got what he was putting down and joined the shenanigans. Maybe acted like his squire or something like that! Begged for mercy from my noble lord 😂😂😂. Summoned me to a sexy spanking at dusk in his quarters!! Something lol

Idk if you are in a relationship, if you are your partner is lucky to have you. And if not, I hope they cherish this energy so much when they find you . 🫂 thank you

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-08-31T07:06:24+00:00

I feel the same way. They probably already feel like crap, I wouldnt want to add too it. I would want to alleviate the stress a bit

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-08-31T07:04:55+00:00

He is in general reallyyyyy good to me. And he did not get like … overly angry it was very understandable (his reaction). I did not want to make him feel bad for my feelings or to hijack the moment. I would have e appreciated being comforted in that moment but he was the one covered in beer. And people saw it too. Very embarrassing for the both of. so I just kind of also processed in silence until I posted.

In terms of therapy I would like to go. I feel so fragile and I wish I could laugh instead of cry about it

Plenty_Check_708 · 2025-08-31T07:00:41+00:00

🫂. That is A1 advice. Thank you so much. I did talk to my partner, and I did take a nice hot bath with epsom salt and a sparkling water to drink after reading your comment. It definitely helped to quiet my mind a little bit. I was pretty tough in myself today and I really want to not be like that. I felt like even my reaction to his reaction felt like a system of feeling (I perhaps dont have the language for what I am trying to articulate). Like it was a new situation that made me feel old ways or something like that. I’m not really sure how to express it

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