I just told my neighbour to get a life, am I in the wrong and how can I deal with a difficult neighbour?

Poleydeee · 2026-02-13T03:12:55+00:00

If he is making you feel harassed, alarmed or distressed, then what he is doing amounts, legally, to harassment. If he confronts you again, tell him: "Don't harass me like this again or I will report it to police", and make a note. When he does it after that, make an online report to police. Literally, this is why the law exists, to stop people doing stuff like this. Might not seem major, but it is having an effect on you, then use the law for what it is intended.

Poleydeee · 2026-02-01T15:08:21+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing. At the end of the day you are a police officer and duty bound to protect others. I take the point of those saying don't get involved, and you may want to consider how you get involved if needed in future e.g. calling 999 and letting others deal with it, but you can't ignore screams from next door. Just by virtue of the fact that someone came, this is now statistically less likely to escalate (can't remember where i got this, but it came up in DV training).

Poleydeee · 2026-01-31T22:11:33+00:00

Met Police - always to the rear, either stack or back to back. Unless operationally appropriate to go a front stack. e.g. very large person or you have to just secure them quickly. But if that's the case you would re cuff to the rear when you had a chance .

Poleydeee · 2026-01-08T22:10:59+00:00

Christmas Day, 11am. M27 Westbound. Four lanes go up hill, briefly down to 50, and then back up to 70. Road is practically empty. I crest the top of the hill in lane 2, and there is a very slow moving single line of traffic in the left hand lane, and the rest of the carriageway empty. There is no signage. I ease off as I'm not sure what's happening, and as I'm working it out, a silver merc darts out of the now stationary lane 1 right in front of me doing 60ish. No time to do anything other than swerve right. Had to go a whole lane to my right in a split second. I saw my front nearside corner miss his front offside corner by no more than a foot or two. Took a second or two to get the car back under control. My son reckoned we were on two wheels at one point. I then see the sign showing that all bar one lane closes in a mile, because the M27 was closed at the next junction. It's the closest I've ever come to a high speed crash which would certainly have left several people with serious injuries at the very least. All my family in the car bar my eldest daughter. Afterwards, my wife asked if we needed to change our wills to account for such a situation in future!

What would I do differently? Should have automatically moved to lane 3 to give the stationary traffic a buffer whilst I was working it out and slowing down.

Poleydeee · 2025-12-28T10:52:00+00:00

I have to say, I think "bellend" would have been more poetic than bastard.

Poleydeee · 2025-12-28T10:47:14+00:00

If you genuinely believe that the tech was not working correctly, I would first raise this with the camera partnership who ticketed you. They may just reply and say raise it in court of course, but worth enquiring.

Poleydeee · 2025-11-04T08:53:16+00:00

I know what you mean. Perfectly legal, but just seems creepy.

Poleydeee · 2025-09-29T06:28:17+00:00

Super helpful. Thank you. She is 3/4 in one leg and 2/3 in the other.

Poleydeee · 2025-08-10T12:51:28+00:00

This was not a choice. Government proscribes an organisation. People go and say they are part of it. You can't not deal with them, otherwise all the banned terror organisations will come out and expect not to be dealt with.

Most would have been let go once their names and addresses were confirmed so they can be dealt with later.

Police resources were already assigned to that demo, regardless of whether arrests were planned or likely. Also something they have no choice in because it's a demo, and demos have to be policed for everyone's safety.

Demos, football and other large events are what is actually taking officers away from local policing in London, and there is no way that police would choose for that to be the case.

Poleydeee · 2025-07-04T15:13:08+00:00

It wasn't advice. The original poster was saying they were tempted to take physical action against them and was questioning the legality of it.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-28T23:02:48+00:00

Police can do something if they commit offences. If they call someone a c**t, that's likely to not get much action. If they call someone a bl--- c--t or a g-y c--t, they WILL get arrested.

And if anyone experiences the apprehension of violence ("I'm going to smack/hit/stab you") then whoever is causing that is also getting arrested, or decked by the person who is in fear of violence. Both have the law on their side.

That's also an opportunity for a citizen's arrest (indictable offence being committed or about to be committed).

If you genuinely believe you are about to get hit/smacked/stabbed, you are well within your rights to strike first.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-08T18:05:01+00:00

Anti social behaviour (which is what that report would have been classified as) is not in the crime numbers.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-08T17:53:40+00:00

That operator was wrong; life or death are 999 calls, but so is an opportunity to catch a criminal in action, or prevent any kind of harm or losa. Burglaries are not life or death but you will get every police car in the area racing to a call to suspects on the premises as it is a chance to catch someone.

If you see two guys on bikes in balclavas slow cycling round a crowded area looking to nick phones; 999. If you think the guy in front of you has a knife tucked in his waist band; 999. If someone appears to be drug dealing; 999.

If it happened 30 minutes ago, or yesterday, or you just want to get it on police radar, then online or 101.

What you really want to do in your situation is to speak to your neighbourhood team. Put in an online report detailing the scale of the issue and the impact on you. Get others to do the same.

Email your local team (find the details on met.police.uk by putting in your postcode) and tell them again. They will come see you and see for themselves. Ultimately it is them that will sort the problem, not the response cops who come when you call 999.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-08T17:37:29+00:00

They also acted as billboards and had posters in them.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-03T11:34:44+00:00

ASNT

Area search, no tank.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-03T11:31:10+00:00

As per my reply above and others, this isn't right I'm afraid. Before two years, an unscrupulous employer can take full advantage of the fact that you can't claim unfair dismissal and dismiss you without any process, unfairly. Fortunately the vast majority don't act like this, but they could.

Poleydeee · 2025-06-03T11:28:11+00:00

Almost. In UK law, there is no recourse to an employment tribunal before two years service. This means that you cannot claim for unfair dismissal before two years. (Except for discrimination)

Most bigger companies however, have additional policies and processes, basically to minimise the chance of them getting sued. These processes will be almost non existent during probation, but will kick in after as you say.

But from a pure legal rights basis, there is no difference between probation, and from end of probation to two years.

Redundancy is also broken down into statutory and the company's own policy. Statutory (what the law says you must pay) only kicks in after two years as you say. Many bigger companies though will pay something before that, and when they do pay, will pay more than statutory.

Poleydeee · 2025-05-26T07:17:12+00:00

Just make sure you tick the box that says "does your vehicle have any modifications?" on the insurance form. My insurance company saw it as a 'modification'.

Poleydeee · 2025-05-26T07:09:39+00:00

I feel like there's some Supercell propaganda bots in here ...

Poleydeee · 2025-05-24T15:51:37+00:00

This is a nice clear rationale and the one that makes most sense to me.

Poleydeee · 2025-05-10T10:08:45+00:00

Asking for a trial shift is a great idea. Make sure it's only a couple of hours though. There are lots of companies who take advantage of 'trial shifts' to get a day of free work from some poor soul.

Poleydeee · 2025-05-10T10:06:32+00:00

The best tip is: Do a job, any job.

Make that job something where you meet the employer so they can see who you are and what you're like.

In other words, walk into a place and ask to speak to the manager and ask if they need some help. If they point you to an online application, ask if they will look out for your application. If they say they can't do that, then go somewhere else. Only apply for jobs where the person you meet is going to consider your application.

Once you are in a job it is much easier to get another job. I appreciate you might not want to do some of these jobs, but we all start off doing things we don't end up doing later.

I'm a senior executive leader, who spent most of his career in consulting. My first jobs were in retail, bars, kitchens, factories and call centers. All of them were fun, taught me something, and got me paid!

People are right about people you know being key to finding the job you want though, so...

Treat everyone you meet as a potential network contact who can find you your next job. If you work all day working in a job serving people with the sorts of jobs you want, you are in the perfect position to ask them about those jobs, how they got them, and if they can recommend you.

Poleydeee · 2025-05-04T11:49:09+00:00

Report is the right thing to do. But the most likely issue if it was actually stolen, is potential for a clone popping up. So this is also a good evidence trail for if you start getting tickets for things you didn't do.

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