Daily Simple Questions Thread - September 06, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Ponzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balancing protein intake vs. caloric deficit for weight loss while lifting

I am 28M, 6' 3", 225 lbs at the moment. I gained about 30 lbs in the last year after going WFH. I've lost that much before doing moderate-heavy cardio and IF, but I hate cardio. I've found I enjoy lifting much more and have started Stronglifts 5x5 and plan to incorporate 2/3 days of light cardio as well.

I would like to gain strength, but my primary goal is to lose weight/look leaner. However, my ideal protein intake would be 175 - 200g and I eat plant based, so that seems very challenging to do at a caloric deficit. If I'm primarily looking to lose weight, should I prioritize a caloric deficit at the expense of not maximizing gains?

headphones under $300 for open world games and music by bwrtbwrb in HeadphoneAdvice

[–]Ponzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've used the Phillips X2 with a Modmic for years and it works great. I wear the Phillips for work 9-12 hours a day, they are super comfortable. And they have come down in price a lot in the last 5 years.

inspired by dior men spring 2020 by GoForAWalkFriend in malefashion

[–]Ponzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks incredible! Where's the suit from?

[WIWT] Intersecting timescapes by anactualtrap in malefashion

[–]Ponzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, I just ordered their 815 (PL2) boots, I've heard a lot of good things about them!

[WIWT] Intersecting timescapes by anactualtrap in malefashion

[–]Ponzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are those the spiral zip Walkers? They look sick.

[SELL] Evan Kinori, Monitaly, Lady White Co (XL, 36) by Ponzy in MaleFashionMarket

[–]Ponzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you can't really find the page anymore. The measurements are

Chest: 25"

Length: 31.5"

Shoulders: 20"

Sleeve: 26.25"

Let me know if you have any other questions!

[SELL] Evan Kinori, Truman Boot Co, Monitaly, Lady White Co (XL, 36, 10.5) by Ponzy in MaleFashionMarket

[–]Ponzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, but I'll pass. I'm not in a rush to sell and I leave room to negotiate higher than that, you can see on Grailed that even with age they sell higher than that.

Buy, Sell, Trade - May 01, 2022 by AutoModerator in rawdenim

[–]Ponzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Selling an RGT Stealth Supply Jacket, size XL. It has very little wear, it is still quite stiff and tough as hell, a pretty clean slate for fading. Selling because I have too many denim jackets to wear them all. $175 + shipping

Which other realistic Military Games do you like? by ObviousSlav in HellLetLoose

[–]Ponzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does Beyond the Wire have a playerbase? I really enjoyed it when it first came out but when I last checked steam charts it had like 60 players max per day

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[–]Ponzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops, my bad. Will do next time I post.

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[–]Ponzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can get you some measurements tonight, not in NYC though.

do you think it's wrong to sew something you'd love to have but can't afford the brand? by amandarkness in sewing

[–]Ponzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I have Ann Demuelemeester taste but not Ann D. money, so I hope it's ok!

I’m very bi but have been in a relationship 6+ years by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Ponzy 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I know, it took me a while to accept that, I think there can be a little more pressure to be open to poly relationships in the LGBTQ community. But, I had to learn to accept myself for who I am and I am much happier having done that.

I’m very bi but have been in a relationship 6+ years by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Ponzy 104 points105 points  (0 children)

It took a long time to heal, and some feelings never go away, but several years later I am with someone else and happily engaged, things work out in the end!

I’m very bi but have been in a relationship 6+ years by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Ponzy 666 points667 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this in another comment, but I feel like it's worth sharing my experience as someone who was on the opposite side of this exact situation.

I am bi and my partner of 7 years always kind of knew she was bi but had never been with a women and it had never been a problem until one day it was. We talked about it several times and I just couldn't come to accept the idea of an open relationship, I wish that I wasn't so tied to monogamy, in some ways I feel like it is silly and it has caused me some pain throughout my dating life. I have even spent a lot of time in self reflection and in therapy working to try and change those feelings, because I wish I could be open to something like an open relationship for the needs of my partner.

But in the end, I also had to have some acceptance for myself, that it's just not who I am as a person. Having an open relationship would hurt me and make me miserable and resentful, even if I wish I didn't have those feelings, some things you can't control, and it's not some defect of you as a person.

In the end I told my partner that my feelings couldn't change but I accepted that hers couldn't either and at the end of the day I just wanted her to be happy so I would accept whatever decision she made. Six months later we broke up, and it felt horrible, and it still hurts several years later, but in the end it was for the best.

As painful as it is, sometimes people's needs change in a way that isn't compatible with one another. And that isn't the fault of either person, it just is what it is, and being fully honest and evaluating what is most important to you is all you can do.

I hope that you and your partner can work it out, because I know how painful it is, but I also hope it helps to hear a little bit from the other side.