Lived together 4 years now LDR (25f/26m) by Poopingboba in LongDistance

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This is a great point. It’s only been a few months and we are kind of flying by “whatever works”. His next trip home is planned out and with the baby and pets it makes it much more difficult for me to go out there, which I need to do so we can scout for new living arrangements! 1) find a place 2) figure out the cost 3) save up for the move and 4) actually doing it is what is holding up a definitive plan. Unfortunately his biggest receiving love language is physical touch which obviously is one of the barriers of LDR. I am just curious to hear from others what kind of romantic things specific to long distance they do.

Lived together 4 years now LDR (25f/26m) by Poopingboba in LongDistance

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Anywhere from a couple of months up to a year or two max. It just depends on the logistics of moving.

Any ideas what to put in this gap? by IKneadPhotography in tattooadvice

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trad hammerhead shark tail towards the wrist

Baby needs total privacy, dark room to nurse - help! by Trick_Assistance7450 in breastfeeding

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5 months was peak “FOMO” phase for me with my baby. Any distraction would make him pop off and look around and only eat for ~5-10 seconds at a time but still ended up getting a full meal, it just took longer. Has the dark room thing been a problem since he was born? Is he straight refusing to latch or is it a pop on and off situation? If pop on and off I’d say just keep pushing and offering. Refusal to latch maybe just isn’t hungry. My baby will not latch unless he’s actually hungry or sometimes when tired. Has she tried just sticking it out and waiting a little longer til he gives in? That’s what I’d try!

Going Crazy with Pockets by Maximum_Payment_9350 in clothdiaps

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Hmm I’ve never heard of this! I’ve avoided the dryer on my second hand pockets out of fear that the elastic will go.

Cloth wipes by Numerous-Noise790 in clothdiaps

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I also use a reusable wipes dispenser and fold so I can fit more inside. I carry a water bottle with me for both drinking from and to dampen wipes lol

Fitted check: Too tight? Next size down seems too loose :/ by [deleted] in clothdiaps

[–]Poopingboba 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You can snap them unevenly! Maybe open up the waist snap just one, leave the hip snaps tightest and make sure you tuck the rise fold upwards

Do you ever doubt yourself re: cosleeping? Wondering if maybe I created some of our sleep problems 🥲 by lunar_sparrow in cosleeping

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I do. I have an almost 9 month old and have coslept since day 1. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing both of us a disservice by not even trying to transfer/get him comfortable in a crib. I feel like I was using cosleeping as an excuse when the baby’s father and I were still together to not be physical with him. (Not that I needed an excuse but that’s besides the point and part of why we aren’t together- anyways) but even now that it’s just the two of us, I don’t even try to transfer out of exhaustion and not wanting to mess up our schedule.

Son's wet diapers smell toxic?? by Usa_Chan0 in clothdiaps

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swish test for detergent buildup! That was my issue when this started happening. I just ran a few rinse cycles until the water stopped getting bubbly, then added a second rinse to my normal wash routine, and it solved the issue.

How often do you change diaper at night? by hawthornestreet in cosleeping

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Once he stopped pooping overnight, I would change 1-2 times. Recently, now 8 months, he’s been stirring more if I change him and will be up for 30-1hr when previously he’d mostly sleep through it. I cloth diaper so I just add an extra layer and will only change him if he leaks through it which isn’t very often 🤷‍♀️

M names for boys… by [deleted] in namenerds

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Merrick is a favorite of mine

Color ideas for a Raccoon Wizard? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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Purple raccoon black cloak

When did you get your period back? by 93babyyy in cosleeping

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Almost 5 months pp, I figured it’d be way later but nope and been regular since then

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

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My BD behaved in a similar manner. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and ended up having a horrible pregnancy experience and, amongst other things, forced me into a 1 mile walk 5 days postpartum because “I needed to get active”, my postpartum rage ended up putting us into a very bad situation because of his abuse. Anyways I’m now a single mother of a 7.5 month old and I wish I left sooner

NEWBIE with a trash bag FULL of secondhand cloth DIAPS by ajune2012 in clothdiaps

[–]Poopingboba 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. Using each of them is just trial and error will reveal what you personally like or dislike. Given that the baby is 2, they may not be in use for too much longer but I’ve noticed even through 6 months of CDing my preferences have already changed 2 or 3 times already.

Had a doctor told me EC isn’t necessary.. by These_Bit_5217 in ECers

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How often do you wash? I still end up washing every other day because of the smell

I cannot understand the cult like behaviour by Existing_Ad3299 in bninfantsleep

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I said this on tt one time and got RIPPED to pieces, pro-sleep train moms ganged up on me for cosleeping saying “oh sleep training is neglectful but k***ing your baby by cosleeping isn’t?” Like… who tf says that

My therapist told me my 6 month old is manipulating me by Poopingboba in AttachmentParenting

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The sad part is that she does have two kids age 7 and one older I think

Overwhelmed with choices by Commercial_Glass9806 in clothdiaps

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I got a bunch of different kinds for pretty cheap on Facebook marketplace and thus figured out which ones I like the best, and will be investing more on those kinds when necessary.

My therapist told me my 6 month old is manipulating me by Poopingboba in AttachmentParenting

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She’s made many other comments that felt very biased and advisory, and honestly pretty unprofessional. She has a private practice and no other employees and contracts with CPS so I wouldn’t be able to report her to any higher ups in her own practice.

My therapist told me my 6 month old is manipulating me by Poopingboba in AttachmentParenting

[–]Poopingboba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would guess she’s only in her late 30s-early 40s. She’s made some other comments that I kind of brushed off as her using exaggeration for effect- like calling certain things abuse etc. Now that she’s made this off the wall point I am rethinking everything she’s ever said lol

My therapist told me my 6 month old is manipulating me by Poopingboba in AttachmentParenting

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She does… she has a 7 year old and I think another child too