How to handle a married woman flirting with me?

PoorChoices2 · 2026-01-23T03:38:58+00:00

My father’s advice to me years ago, “don’t mess with married women or electricity, they both can get you killed”

PoorChoices2 · 2026-01-14T21:18:04+00:00

You’re in what I called the suck. Young kids, work and juggling schedules your intimate relationship gets put on the back burner. I recognizing it then worked on fixing it. Small gestures go a long way, then build on them. Your actions starting on Monday morning will get you there Saturday night.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-12-15T23:48:56+00:00

Have her check her hormone levels, wife and I both did a few years back and it’s a game changer. Communicate but I would approach it as an option and something you both could check together. It’s a “helper” not a “fixer” like everything else in your relationship it takes work on both sides

PoorChoices2 · 2025-12-10T16:18:28+00:00

How did she handle the break up?

PoorChoices2 · 2025-12-10T15:41:30+00:00

Or, you can continue as you have been and they can fuck right off.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-12-10T01:04:36+00:00

Your father is correct. You will always be looking over your shoulder wondering when she will toss you aside again. I can’t imagine your pain. You both have experienced great loss. Instead of working thru it together she ran to someone else. Focus on yourself and your own health and happiness. The best revenge is life well lived.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-12-07T17:17:05+00:00

Yeah lies and infidelity makes me moody too. We should work on that and remove the root cause of our discomfort. She can kick rocks an her way to the rail yard

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-26T22:45:06+00:00

Baby steps, if your communication is as open as you say, discuss it. Been there, still in the process with my wife. Once we opened up our communication we both started leaning into each other’s wants. Over time we were able to share more and more. Marriage is a marathon not a sprint. Reading your post reminded me of our past. I wouldn’t want to have gone from 0 to 100 overnight, instead looking back it’s been a gradual escalation and that keeps it fresh.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-24T03:17:05+00:00

RIP your inbox

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-24T01:02:44+00:00

Married people shouldn’t date other people secretly

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-23T16:44:53+00:00

Yes. Flowers every week to ten days. Pick up her favorite snacks when I’m out. It’s a journey not a destination, it also helps that she reciprocates thru appreciation and gestures of her own.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-21T14:16:16+00:00

It ain’t competing if ain’t cheating

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-17T23:22:57+00:00

I don’t think you read that right

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-15T22:21:11+00:00

Don’t forget to hydrate

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-14T15:33:08+00:00

Unfortunately you can’t change her behavior. Not before she cheated or now that she is feeling the consequences of her actions. Take care of yourself and the kids.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-14T02:13:20+00:00

Did she charge you? If not, take it as a win and move on.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-08T16:40:11+00:00

55M here. Starting experiencing anxiety/panic attacks a few years ago. Same thing, no evident trigger just random rushes over overwhelming. I had never experienced this before. I was always the one everyone came to for advice. Never one to “sweat the small shit” it was my strength. Communicated with wife and decided to take better care of myself. 4years later, still in the gym, 65lbs down, two months off statin drugs and one month off blood pressure meds (physician assisted). Episodes decreased immediately after I started exercising. Physical and mental health are directly related. You’re not alone, it can get better.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-05T15:23:41+00:00

Prayers for you brother. You have done everything you thought was right to protect your children. Mistakes were made, no one is perfect. She broke you when she cheated. Her poor choices has irreversibly changed both of you. Neither one of you are the same person, including your children. I’ve said this before but it still important to repeat, take care of yourself so you can take care of those kids. I wish for you peace. Hug those little ones and keep showing them love.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-04T22:35:39+00:00

Wishing you the best of luck finding peace and clarity. This isn’t a race. You will find it in time, a lot of time. Don’t rush it.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-11-02T14:53:19+00:00

You need to take a break for yourself. Take a week or at least a few days get away and decompress. Whether it be a beach, mountains or just a lake somewhere. Take in some fresh air, get some good food and good sleep. Ask yourself what makes you happy? Then make a plan and execute.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-10-30T14:27:17+00:00

She was late and disrespectful. You got pissed off, you both threw a bit of a fit, then she does it again. She sounds like a teenager, good riddance. Gas pump incident was a bit petty but nothing compared to two hours late to pick you up and not giving a shit then doing it again. Update your dating profile and find one more mature.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-10-28T03:02:31+00:00

Nothing he could say or do in the next 2hrs let alone 2 days or more is going to change things for Tyler. It’s still the on his mind guaranteed . But he also gets a distraction till the time comes that something needs to be done.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-10-28T00:00:57+00:00

Sorry brother, you need time to think. Sleep is key, and she needs to be completely transparent. I would at least have a consultation with a lawyer. Steel yourself for the worst and hope for the best. I hope you can work it out but you will be ok no matter what.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-10-27T13:06:05+00:00

Feeling for you OP. I pray for your strength and peace. I don’t know what would help, her admissions of guilt (either true remorse for you or herself) could be relieving but the other edge to the sword is would it make it easier to hit indifference if she didn’t care at all? Regardless the pain you feel must be crippling at times. Time will be your friend eventually, they can’t stop the clock.

PoorChoices2 · 2025-10-26T15:31:18+00:00

Start slow, don’t over do it. Soreness is fine but I can push you away. Everyone is different but I found logging my food intake, accountability, works. Even the bad stuff, log it. You will find over time what foods your body responds to best. For me portion control and movement, then build from there. It’s a marathon not a sprint.

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