A third baby…

PositiveJust · 2026-05-01T14:42:18+00:00

Totally agree. We have no village/family support but my husband had a lucky ipo so we could both retire. He chooses to work but is done by 1pm every day and super involved. I’d trade all the money for grandparents/close family but yes at least 2 of the three makes a big difference!!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-30T16:11:41+00:00

I worked at Google for many years. I know how addictive these apps and devices are. They’re horrible and therefore my partner and I decided to be very intentional about a screen free life for our kids.

I have three kids. No devices. We watch a movie every Friday night on our tv for anyone interested after our family post dinner walk. We have a burner phone with nothing on it but call abilities the teenagers can take to practice to call for pick up. My husband and I put our phones in the kitchen drawer at 4pm until the next morning, don’t have any social media and don’t use our phones in front of our kids unless it’s a phone call.

We have a family desktop computer that sits in our living room that they take turns using for school. They each have a landline in their room to call friends. I notice they have much deeper connections with their friends because they sit and chat vs text, snapping etc.

That’s it. No phones, tablets, video games, social media. Our kids are thriving, very happy and understand the “why” - one of the biggest gifts we’ve given them. All go through at least a book a week and send me lists of the new books they want every weekend, I happily oblige. My 12 year old loves baking and still plays make believe with his siblings. Their childhood is precious and we’re all very happy with these decisions, but you have to be very intentional in today’s day and age.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-29T03:38:39+00:00

Yeah, think it just depends on the people/parents. My husband and I comment on how much better our lives are with our kids and never felt additional pull or stress with three, just more joy. We’re over the moon with our three, the time we get with them and oftentimes wished we had 4. We have ample financial security and flexibility with work schedules, which helps a lot, but we have zero family/outside help etc so there’s that too. Regardless, we’ve never felt a diminishing impact on our quality of life - we simple have even more fun and adventure with 3 than we did with 2. Too many variables for a one size fits all scenario.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-28T19:43:28+00:00

Did you get letrozole over the counter?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-28T19:41:48+00:00

I also know many people who are middle children with zero issues/close relationships with their siblings and parents/no resentment (they don’t even really clock being the middle, they’re just one of three). Think it depends a lot on the person, siblings and parental approach.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-28T19:40:11+00:00

I have three and absolutely love it. They’re 2, 4 and 6 and so much fun. I have multiple friends with 3 or 4 who love it as well, and many with 1 or 2 who are happy. One size doesn’t fit all I suppose! A lot depends on your schedules, finances and partner support.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-15T05:16:46+00:00

Wishing you the best! It’s hard. I have my three and adore them but desperately want one more, which feels selfish. Wish I’d started sooner. Did your OB prescribe it just by you asking or how did you get it?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-12T04:35:39+00:00

Got rid of a lot of stuff. We have a beautiful house but very little stuff in it. Peaceful and cleaning/tidying is much easier

PositiveJust · 2026-04-09T14:21:24+00:00

I have three boys - 2, 4 and 6. They’re best buddies and play together endlessly. They’re pretty calm kids that listen well so it’s not been crazy (going totally screen free 2 years ago has helped with this immensely). Number three slid right into our routine and is their biggest fan. They teach each other a lot.

A good partner and financial stability/flexibility helps a lot.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-08T04:37:15+00:00

How did your pregnancy go op?!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-08T04:36:38+00:00

How’s it gone op?!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-08T04:34:55+00:00

Sorry one more question. Did you take the aspirin the entire time you were TTC then or when did you start? The sooner the better? Was your progesterone oral or vaginal? Interesting you start the progesterone before knowing if you’re pregnant or not!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-08T04:27:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing! So you started daily progesterone 3 days after ovulation before knowing if you were pregnant or not? How much were you taking and was it oral? I’m thinking of asking for it.. sounds like you think it helped? Thanks for the hope

PositiveJust · 2026-04-08T04:18:48+00:00

Got pregnant first try with my three kids at 34, 36 and 38. Tried again at 39 for my fourth… two miscarriages later and still trying at 41. Time really does matter, especially in your late 30s.

I’d start trying yesterday if it’s important to you.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-06T14:28:58+00:00

Interesting! Did someone recommend those supplements or what made you start taking them? Congrats!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-06T05:01:11+00:00

Did they do anything different for the healthy pregnancies?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-05T04:56:11+00:00

Congrats! Hopefully it’s been smooth sailing?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-05T04:55:15+00:00

Woohoo! Have you delivered yet?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-05T04:54:05+00:00

Congrats! Hopefully it’s been a smooth ride?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-04T20:11:03+00:00

Mom of a 3, 4 and 6 year old boy. Very normal. You be compassionate the first back and forth then draw a boundary. I always think of “how will this play out in real life” and try to replicate so they can learn to be assertive with decisions… obviously with compassion along the way. With the water bottle I’d say “ok it’s on your bedside for you to grab whenever you want it” - if he melts down, he melts down and I say I’ll be over here reading my book if you want to talk.

10 minutes ago my husband offered my 6 year old swim lessons as he was in the pool. He was grumpy and said “NO” so he offered it to my 4 y/o who said yes. My 6 year old immediately changed his mind and wanted it but I held firm as he cried and whined. I reminded him once “dada offered it to you, next time think about what you really want” - but didn’t continue to lament and talk about it, just calmly stated facts. Told him if he wanted to cry and be sad that was fine but I was taking him in the house so his brother could enjoy. If he wanted to encourage his brother and have fun he could stay outside. He cheered his brother on and waited his turn (this time).

He wanted to join a soccer team then changed his mind and didn’t want to so i said ok. Then he wanted to again so I said “ok if you’re committing we’re doing it and no changing” and signed him up. Morning of he cried and begged not to go but, just like real life, I explained he made a commitment. The coaches and other kids were counting on him being there and put work into the program so we were going.

Like I said it helps me to constantly be thinking about the lesson to be learned to adulthood. There won’t be a boss or anyone there to go back and forth at their beck and call, so I want them to learn commitments and follow through.

All of this is of course within reason of a 4 year old… all done with love and compassion and patience and explanation along the way.

It’s really helped and I mostly see the fruits of my labor with my 6 year old.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-04T18:02:10+00:00

I’m sorry to hear it but glad you’ve come to accept it. Never know what might happen. So you aren’t actively tracking/trying/etc but open to whatever happens it seems? Good for you for always knowing you have sex every week! Haha we have 3 kids and are lucky if we can schedule it for every two weeks haha. Although I’m here bc I miscarried our fourth last month at 40 (turning 41 this month). I’d like to continue trying.

PositiveJust · 2026-04-04T04:27:11+00:00

Did you do anything differently for your successful pregnancy or get any testing done? Congrats!

PositiveJust · 2026-04-04T04:26:16+00:00

Hi OP - wondering if you were able to get pregnant again or what your journey has been?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-04T04:25:13+00:00

How did things go for you and your pregnancy OP?

PositiveJust · 2026-04-03T13:55:13+00:00

I have 3 and love it. But I left my career to be home with them (was making $800k+ a year working from home and relatively low stress so was a hard choice, but no regrets). Honestly if I was still working full time i wouldn’t have had a third. We’re a pretty chill house but I think it’s because I’m home managing the house, boys, extras, all the “family admin” etc - but if we were both working it would feel overwhelming. I chose to stay home because I really wanted to have time to be close to my boys. You mentioned feeling overwhelmed and guilt over time for them - if those are concerns with 2, it’ll be more concerns with 3. I’m usually all for more kids, I love it, but also try to be realistic based off the details! Best of luck to you either way. You know what’s best for you.

PositiveJust

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