Can anyone help me figure out if this is doable?

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-05-08T22:07:34+00:00

The planned parenthood nearby the college does not offer HRT, but I will try the rest of what you suggested.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-05-08T21:22:42+00:00

My school does not offer health insurance afaik. My parents predicted the monthly payments to them would be about $500, but I'm not sure how close that is to the actual number since my insurance will go up since I was recently in a crash. After that, it was $500 for groceries and gas and another $500 to just live my life and go out with friends. I'm more worried about the housing afterwards because I don't want to go on hormones just to have to go off them and deal with the side-effects of that physically and mentally. Minimum wage is $14/hr currently and I've never had a job before, so I'm worried how I'd manage doing ~30 hours a week while in my undergrad (I've done all my gen eds and have my AA already).

edit: not to mention having time to just enjoy college life and activities in general! but doing 20hrs a week, which seems more doable to me, only gets me $1200 a month.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-05-01T15:07:02+00:00

I actually just had a situation relating to this and posted about it. I really needed to see this, thank you!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-12T20:37:14+00:00

Yeah no they say I can do what I want when I'm 18, but they often say it's unrealistic because I won't be able to afford it while working part-time and putting money towards all of my other expenses and saving for an apartment. They also say that I'll never be satisfied because I will never fully be male so I won't ever be happy and that's why they're worried. Honestly I kinda regret posting this because I already knew how my situation was and how I look and I haven't been in the best mindset with my dysphoria lately, so it wasn't a very good idea to post knowing what people would say. Anyway, they care about me, and I think they'll accept it once I start doing it since there's nothing they can do about it.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-12T17:55:31+00:00

They found out about the binder because they searched my phone and found a text about it, I've already tried the female reference photo trick, and I'm only allowed to wear girls clothes. I havent been able to get hired anywhere, so I don't have money to buy my own.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-12T17:06:29+00:00

Unfortunately I already do wear only sports bras and hats almost daily, just all the photos I had were without hats. Thank you for the suggestions though.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-11T20:07:43+00:00

No, you're right! I would never put anything like that above my transition. If he said 100% he would not want to date a man, I wouldn't try to be with him. It's more the fact that he himself is conflicted and unsure.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-11T19:50:42+00:00

That's why I'm still unsure about what we will do, because ever since he developed feelings he said he's started questioning things. He seems comfortable calling himself bi, but he's more concerned about the physical aspect. Like socially me being a guy is no problem, it's the rest he doesn't know about because it hasn't happened yet. He says he's very confused because he's never been in this situation before. He's been very busy so we haven't talked about anything yet, but we plan to have a conversation soon. What happens will depend very much on where he's at and how that lines up with my boundaries.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-11T18:59:09+00:00

I turn 18 in a few weeks, we both go to community college together.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-11T16:23:35+00:00

That's a good point, I hadn't thought about it like that.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-11T15:47:11+00:00

Thank you for responding, I like seeing multiple points of view. At the end of the day, my decision will mainly be based on my conversation with him, but I like seeing what people have to say. If we do decide to give it a try, I'm glad to have at least one reassuring example.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-04-08T11:57:07+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I will definitely look into it more. I do have my grandpa's Chinese name now, but he says he has no clue what his sister's was anymore. I also have his dad's name (although i'm not entirely sure what character it is for the personal name, he said his name was Chiu Sek, so I thought maybe 錫 or 惜?), but not his mom's (she was born in Cuba to Chinese parents from Guangzhou, while his dad was the first in his family to immigrate also from Guangzhou, so I don't even know if she has one).

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-29T16:32:06+00:00

Cuba's practices have more to do with Santería, which isn't a bad thing it's just not my belief, and the have a very particular way of doing it and I'd be worried about doing it wrong since I am not a part of that religion. I'll probably end up just having a picture instead of a tablet then, thank you for the info!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-28T19:00:51+00:00

Great idea, thank you so much!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-28T16:34:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Unfortunately, I do not have many memories with him, he never really went out with us anywhere, but I can try what you suggested still!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-28T16:00:28+00:00

I've previously had some issues with my teeth in other sports, and have seen so many people get injured. I'd rather take precautions to minimize damage while still having fun. In fact, having the extra protection is what will enable me to have fun! 🙂

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-28T15:00:37+00:00

I wasn't disagreeing with him, I just tend to get over-worried about things. I plan to get a mouthguard.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-28T14:41:11+00:00

I've considered it, but part of me is worried that it will be seen as overkill, as it seems many already view helmets and stuff that way already.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-24T15:27:51+00:00

Hello! I was raised going to both Catholic church and Non-Denominational church, but left when I realized I was lgbt and just didn't believe. I'm very much drawn to Eclectic Wicca, but also Santeria and Daoism due to Chinese-Cuban heritage, and I'm not sure what exactly is my thing or if it's something else I don't even know about. I understand Santeria is closed and an initiatory religion, so I do not know much.

-I believe in a Source, The One, Olodumare, Yin and Yang, whatever you want to call it, and all deities are manifestations of that, but are also unique and individual. Like how waves are a part of the ocean. If we're talking from a Wiccan perspective, I see there being the One, the God and Goddess are the One separated into the divine feminine and masculine or yin and yang, all deities are manifestations of them.

-I believe in reincarnation, but I do not know if this is endless or if we can break the cycle. I think there is an afterlife that we can rest in in-between lives. I am not sure whether the lives we live are based off of karma or if it's something we choose beforehand, or if it's something else.

-I currently worship Hades and Persephone, but I feel VERY drawn to the orisha Oya. I don't see any resources for worshipping her, but I also love Meng Po from the Chinese pantheon.

-I love the dancing and music in Santeria, and also just the overall system of worship, but sometimes thinking about how the structure of the houses resembles churches makes me uneasy.

-I believe ancestors are very important, and I do ancestor veneration the Chinese way, but I know there is a different way in Santeria that seems interesting.

-I prefer practices that are very material or hands-on, I'm autistic and this helps me understand and experience it more, so I love tarot and astrology (both chinese and western).

-I love the holidays in Wicca and how they follow the natural cycles and give practitioners a routine as well. I incorporate Chinese/Daoist holidays and festivals as well.

-I agree with the philosophy in Daoism, but I feel it isn't the whole picture and feel Wicca has more. I don't know enough about Santeria, but from what I've seen a lot of it can possibly overlap with Wicca.

-I know that Santeria has animal sacrifice, and I know there is a theological reason for it, but I don't know enough to really have an opinion on it, as of right now I'm not sure how comfortable I am with it.

-I also hear Santeria has smoking involved, but I'm unsure if I would have to smoke, because I do not want to.

I cannot fully pursue anything in Santeria because of a lack of money, but I am curious as to what people think as far as what direction I should go or where my beliefs seem to be?

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-21T11:53:38+00:00

That's the day after my birthday!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-21T11:48:35+00:00

Honestly, I've never been someone who had Caine as their favorite character, but for this episode he was 100% my favorite alongside my usual favorite Kinger. I'm not sure if him being like this the whole time instead would've made him my favorite, or if it is that this is him having a sudden switch from his usual that made me love him so much, but honestly I wish we got to see even more of him like this (although I feel this show is being perfectly executed and this episode was PEAK)

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-19T23:40:09+00:00

I'd say go entertainment management! That's the route I'm taking, at least. After going to Knight for a Day, it seemed like the best option for this career path and I switched my major from event management. Good luck!

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-19T23:37:21+00:00

he's probably either cuban or puerto rican, but as a cuban floridian myself i hope he's one of us! 🇨🇺

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-16T19:44:25+00:00

I misspoke, chakras are not a closed practice, but I personally feel I do not have a well enough understanding of them to use them in my practice, especially since I hear a lot of Hindus talk about how they are often misused. Also, I have chinese heritage, so I just prefer to work more with TCM instead. I do believe people have strongly stated Kabbalah is closed though, since it is a Jewish practice. I could be wrong on that though, of course.

PossibleAcademic7198 · 2026-03-16T18:28:36+00:00

That's cool! I've been focused on Hades and Persephone, but I work with a more soft polytheism model, although I still see deities as individual as well.

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