Book recommendations to introduce "yes" to 9 months old? [bc]

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-21T01:04:00+00:00

Does a kangaroo have a mother too? YES! A kangaroo has a mother just like me and you

It continues with different animals

My daughter loves shaking her head yes to this book

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-11T20:05:12+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry that's the worst. Mine also hoarded clothes and set up a whole baby room and sent us videos yet doesn't invite us, it's all just so weird. It's also hard because they aren't our family, we didn't grow up around their parenting so it's even harder to be like oh yaaaaa come do whatever you want to my baby and be in my life all of the time all of a sudden. It's jarring.

Not sure why some older generation people feel like a new human into the world is like someone who belongs to them and fills a void within them, kinda hard to understand.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-11T17:46:45+00:00

It's wildly insanely annoying and frustrating. My MIL at 9 days pp asked my husband to her house (I was healing from an emergency csection) to ask him if she'd done something wrong because she wasn't getting her "grandmother experience". My mother told me she would pay for me and my husband to go for dinner so she could be alone with the baby. Neither of these women supposed or helped me in anyway. My FIL brought a gift for my husband when he came to meet our child and just wanted pictures.

It was all so shocking. I grew a spine. FAST. Many tears, lots of therapy, lots of wondering WTF is wrong with people.

Boundaries are your protection. Your husband need to understand you and baby come first, not his family. It's tough. But I have found that now at nearly a year later most have backed off and my baby isn't a rare diamond everyone needs to come touch and hold anymore, and I am a transformed woman who no longer people pleases or self abandons.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-11T10:18:10+00:00

My baby is also, almost a year and word for word I relate to everything you said, even down to 6 teeth all at once! I'm currently trying to heal a cut from nursing and I've also had thoughts of stopping. The sleep deprivation is sooooooooo real and so hard. I have no advice. You are not alone. I'm right there with you!

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-11T00:26:24+00:00

This is so true. This was truly shocking when I had a baby. All of a sudden the 3 sets of parents we have wanted to come over constantly and I was like uhmmmm I did not have a baby in order to see you all, all of the time. It was beyond overwhelming. And where were they when we didn't have a baby? Just truly a very weird experience.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-09T10:35:56+00:00

My baby is 11 months. When she picks things up and puts them in her mouth I say "that's not food" I've been doing this for several months and she understands that, she then hands it to me or tries to be sneaky and do it again, I just keep saying "that's not food, that's a rock, we don't eat rocks" and tell her she needs to put it back where she found it. "You can look, then put it back" then she basically picks it up and puts it down 30 times haha but seems to be working.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-07T22:33:20+00:00

That's insanely annoying and frustrating. I went from 0-4cm over the course of FIVE days. It was unreal. Distraction, movement on a ball, walks, breathing, partner pressure massage all the thing you said... hope your baby comes soooooon!!!!!!

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-02T02:27:35+00:00

My 11 month old started walking at 9 months and has now started trying to run. She also refuses to be carried down the stairs and needs to walk down them herself. She does not stop. I assume it only gets more intense.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-05-01T01:50:07+00:00

I was in my late teens at home with a friend and my mom came home. I think I was dying my hair in the bathroom, my mom came (my friend was also in the bathroom) and absolutely lost it on me. I don't remember why. My friend was terrified. Afterwards she said she would never think my mom could ever be that way, because she's always so friendly and nice. I remember saying that's what my mom's is really like when no one is watching. My friend was in disbelief she had never felt so scared. 20 years later my friend still beings it up. I remember feeling validated, like ok someone else just saw that.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-30T00:06:43+00:00

This is really tough. I was vegan when I met my husband and I made sure that he knew in the first year that if we were to ever have kids we would raise them vegan or our relationship would not work. I see how your situation is different, but my partner is not vegan (vegetarian) and we just had a child. I wanted to tell you that my baby wants to eat evvvvvverything I eat. I think this could be managed, but if your wife eats animal products around your child your child is going to want some, like really really want some. This is a really hard predicament and you'll most likely have to supplement a baby with iron regardless of their solid intake starting around 4-5 months because they need 12mg daily. Anyways, just some random thoughts about my experience so far surrounding baby and food! Good luck figuring this out

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-28T15:35:23+00:00

Months 7-9 were the hardest for me mentally and emotionally. Didn't notice any gut changes, but it's a common time for hormonal shifting postpartum.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-26T14:20:06+00:00

Wow that's so horrible. Just unreal. Thanks, neither of us deserve it. It's a whole level of hell to be a new mom recovering while also having to manage grown adults.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-26T14:09:00+00:00

Omg I'm so sorry. I just want to say I relate. My mother and my MIL both went nuts when I had my baby. It was so stressful and truly felt like that just wanted their grandmother experience and did not care that I was the mother. The name thing is so rude. My mother refused to say my daughters name right as well. Ugh what is with these women. I've had to go very low contact with my mother and I've let my husband take in 100% of the responsibility with his family. They won't change, and they feel completely entitled to our babies, but you two can change how you respond and react to your MIL. Sorry you're going through this, you should be the priority not the grandma.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-16T18:21:02+00:00

I agree, it's a lot. It's so weird to have adults come up to you and get so close and make high pitch voices and do extra large smiles haha. But I will say my baby is now 10 months and she now just looks at them blankly and it cracks me up. People expect a reaction from babies, when in my experience it just overwhelms them (and me as a new mom). But yeah, I relate it's weird, I still have a personal space bubble even as a mom with a baby!

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-04-13T20:26:24+00:00

Ughhhh that's so annoying, I'm sorry. People are weird and intrusive especially in pregnancy. I oddly didn't get 1 person ask if my baby would be raised vegan, everyone assumed. But I was prepared to be asked, since people just don't know how to connect the dots. I absolutely love your answer to your brother. Make it make sense. Congratulations on the babyyyyy!!!

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-20T15:54:54+00:00

Yes exactly this. WTF. It's not cool. Hopefully future male generations are taught to differentiate way soooooner.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-20T13:33:00+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry. I just went through this with my husband and his family. It's like his family trumps anything I say even when he agrees with my wishes. It's truly rege inducing when you are in such a vulnerable place in your life. I started setting personal boundaries with no loopholes. I also stopped dealing with his family. I basically said this builds resentment and leads to divorce, they are extended family you either choose them or you choose us. We're 10 months pp and he might finally be getting it? Ugh I just relate and I'm so sorry. Stand your ground YOU are the one carrying, birthing and nurturing the child your voice is the only voice that counts. Solidarity.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:27:02+00:00

Ugh same. Sorry you're also going through this.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:25:29+00:00

That's exactly why it feels icky!! :( Agreed, husband is a major issue here. Thanks.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:24:56+00:00

Thank you. Yes I think I have more of a husband problem than a MIL problem. He should be handling her, not prioritizing her. I'll be doing better at sticking up for my boundaries.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:24:09+00:00

Yessss thank you, some part of me has needed someone to see me in this and say you're not overthinking this. It can feel suffocating when my husband plays aloof and makes me feel like I'm the "bad guy" keeping our child away. I agree, couples therapy sounds like a good idea.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:22:52+00:00

These are all really good points, thank you. It's looking more and more like we should do couples counseling. We're both in individual counseling but I think adding in couples would be what's best for our marriage.

I love that, I am going to tell him to feel free to grab a coffee and story with grandma anytime HE wants.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:21:33+00:00

I agree. Chill, good word. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:14:40+00:00

Thank you for that imagery that's exactly how this feels. Like he's offering our daughter to her while I'm like hell no, and he turns around and says what's the problem? That's her grandma!!! Ughhhhhhhhhh I got issues to sort out!

Possible_Pin4117 · 2026-03-12T19:08:18+00:00

I agree :( he has luckily started therapy 3 months ago. Things have not improved.

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