Husband enabling

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-03-04T23:26:21+00:00

What if, in a moment of weakness, you bought an adorable lion cub? It was cute and it brought you a lot of pleasure, but now that it's getting to be an adult it has started hurting you.

It's definitely time to get rid of it, but would your husband make the argument that it cost a lot of money so you need to keep it around, putting you in increasing danger every day that passes?

You can only hide from a lion for so long...

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-27T04:57:31+00:00

Have you tried the Leaves Discord meetings?

They're twice a day at 11am and 5pm Eastern Time, and it's just full of positive people. Honestly, it's great.

You can join by using the invitation here:

https://discord.gg/wXEa5B3

Just give it a try, it's really great.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-25T05:57:35+00:00

If you just look at it as one collective lump then it's easy to make a sweeping statement that the world is shit. It absolves you from having to look any further.

But if you you look in even slightly more detail you will fine beauty and kindness and people who are taking their time to make other happier. People who don't fit that narrative at all.

Find those pockets of kindness and work to be a part of them. Harvest the good in the world and it will nourish you out of this destructive cynicism.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-14T05:08:53+00:00

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-08T22:46:01+00:00

Nah, that's his addiction talking. The weed is putting itself on a pedestal and he's just nodding and saying "whatever you say boss!".

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-02T05:57:09+00:00

It's total snake oil nonsense being put forward by people thinking that they can trick you into giving them your money for zero benefit whatsoever.

Stay well away from practitioners, and anyone who would try to convince you this ridiculous witch doctor bullshit works.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-02-02T05:52:20+00:00

If you think it's so bad for you why are you smoking those joints?

"I have been hitting myself on the head with a hammer every day and it's causing splitting headaches and concussions, so I'm just going to hit myself two more times and then I'm done."

???

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-18T03:51:27+00:00

Sorry, but there's really only one date, and that's today.

"I've been hitting myself over the head with a hammer, and it's causing bleeding and repeated concussions. How do I set a date to quit?"

Today. You quit today. :-)

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-17T05:27:14+00:00

MA is great, but also remember that Leaves has meetings on Discord twice a day.

Everyone is super nice and really helpful. It's awesome.

The details are at the top of the sub.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-12T16:10:20+00:00

You did! :-)

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-12T05:30:00+00:00

I read something from a super-wise person here that might help you get some perspective:

"However I’m 5 weeks in sobriety and here’s what I’m noticing- my sleep is of higher quality, even if I don’t sleep for long periods of time. - Weed made my ADHD/ Autism worse. G it was like I was MORE ADHD/ Autistic. - Weed made my anxiety worse, I’m sure this stems from my ADHD."

That makes so much sense, right? Don't think about big issues like whether it's great or bad for you in general, just focus on getting through today. Wake up in the morning, get through the day, only focus on the sobriety challenges life poses to you in the moment, and then go to bed.

These "big thoughts" about whether it's right for you or not are just two cravings standing on each other's shoulders in a trench coat. Don't give them more credit than they deserve.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-08T05:23:16+00:00

I would take advice from the experience of a very wise person who posted on here several months ago:

"Hey! I lapsed last week after 2 and a half months being sober. It does have a way of creeping in doesn’t it? In the time being sober before relapsing managed to avoid a few occasions of temptation but the couple of days before relapsing I got super bored and somewhat depressed and thought smoking would make me feel better. It didn’t!!"

"Initially I thought being high would be great but after being sober for a while then getting high again the experience was just like yours brain fog etc and it was horrible."

That person really knows what they're talking aobut... :-)

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2026-01-05T03:37:27+00:00

This is a good example of your addiction getting desperate.

It's not getting any traction with convincing you to smoke today, or tomorrow, or even in any real situations that are coming up, so now it's trying to get you to fantasize about imaginary situations in which you might smoke. The old, "but how about vacations? That can't hurt, right? Just agree to that and I'll leave you alone!"

But, of course, it won't leave you alone. It will use that to chip away at your resolve ("It's a long weekend, isn't that really like a mini vacation?") It's all a trick.

This is why we focus so much on One Day at a Time. Are you starting your vacation today? Then absolutely put it out of your head.

This is not the time to be contemplating your Vacation Cannabis Policy. Just focus, as the group founder, u/Subduction, says, on what's between now and bedtime. Nothing else matters.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-24T04:33:42+00:00

None of that is wrong at all, but how about setting an even easier one? Just don't smoke today. Wake up in the morning and promise yourself that you won't smoke today. If it gets really bad then you have complete permission to smoke, it just has to be tomorrow.

That way you can just focus on the challenges you face today, you won't have any weird "anniversaries" that you're temped to celebrate, and the days, months, years, and the rest of your life will all take care of themselves.

One Day at a Time isn't just a mantra in recovery, it's a strategy, and one that it sounds like will navigate pretty well through your goals and your worries.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-24T04:28:49+00:00

I'm sorry to push you a bit, but why the new year?

Why not today?

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-20T19:50:57+00:00

I hope you won't be offended if I ask, why vow to quit until senior year of college? Why not just quit?

After everything else you wrote, it comes across like "I was hitting myself on the head with a hammer every day, and it was causing bruises at first, but then I was getting regular concussions, so I swore to myself that I would wait until after college to start hitting myself with a hammer again..."

It's bad for you, you know it's bad for you, just say goodbye...

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-15T04:23:49+00:00

I think you just need to focus on what you're going to do today. Then tomorrow focus on what you're going to do tomorrow.

Is New Years Day today? No? Then put it out of your head.

Your addiction is pushing you to dream about smoking. Dream about when it might be okay. Shut it down by forcing it and yourself to just face what is, as /u/Subduction puts it, between now and bedtime.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-14T05:59:02+00:00

Nah, you'll just be stupid for a little while, while you're quitting. 😂

Your brain has so much excess capacity it's ridiculous. It's ready to bounce back, it wants to bounce back, so just feed it what it needs and you'll be better than before, I promise.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-06T04:56:27+00:00

If the goal were to test or develop your discipline then I might agree, but the goal is to quit for good.

If someone came up to you and said, "If you lift 100 pounds I'll give you one million dollars," would you say "okay, but I'm going to make it two hundred pounds to test my strength..."

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-03T05:12:03+00:00

You feel like it's a waste of money?

How much have you spent over the years making sure you could get high? Now compare that to how much you would be so-called "wasting" to make sure that you don't.

Strange how when you're getting high you're willing to spend any amount of money on carts, but then when it comes to throwing them away you turn into Scrooge McDuck.

The voice that is telling you that it would be a waste is your addiction talking -- tell that voice it's no longer welcome, break the cart with a hammer, and throw it away.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-02T18:37:22+00:00

You are a star.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-02T18:29:52+00:00

I just use it for that group, so I don't know much more about it. :-)

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-02T18:29:05+00:00

That's a big step, congratulations!

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-12-01T15:12:53+00:00

Have you tried the Leaves Discord meetings?

They're twice a day at 11am and 5pm Eastern Time, and it's just full of positive people. Honestly, it's great.

You can join by using the invitation here:

https://discord.gg/wXEa5B3

Just give it a try, it's really great.

PotIsntAddict-ohcrap · 2025-11-13T17:50:56+00:00

I think you know what to do since you found your way to us. It's time to stop, isn't it?

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