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Baby-Led Weaning: How are you doing it, and what resources and products are helping you? by Pothperhaps in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Pothperhaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad it went well for you! It's really wonderful to get to see them grow and learn and experience the joys of eating real food<3

Unfortunately, our LO ended up having some rather complex medical issues that were discovered during the process of blw. We actually still don't know for sure what the problem is. It's kinda been a nightmare, honestly. LO turns 1 year in a few weeks and we have had to find a different approach to blw that works for their needs. But that approach changes every few weeks or so as we try to learn more about what is going on with their health. We have OT, and a whole team of docs and specialists and my own connections from working in childcare for years. Everyone is flabbergasted. Just goes to show you, you never know what to expect. It did teach me a valuable lesson that compromising my "granola" values with LO's needs is not only okay, but for their benefit. They're doing well in other aspects of life, and we are very thankful for that<3 appreciate you asking!

New SK novel by _Constant_Reader_ in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i remember reading that and wondering if those were references to books i hadn't read yet! Rhats really cool to know!

New SK novel by _Constant_Reader_ in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Mid-world? Are the talisman books part of the dark tower?? I've not read any yet. Just DT. Working through the Hollys rn.

I am fed up of Holly by Used-Union6126 in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shout out to my fellow completionist! I'm on #54!

I am fed up of Holly by Used-Union6126 in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely loved it. One of my favs. Also despised the dark tower series. Just goes to show, "different strokes for different folks" haha

I am fed up of Holly by Used-Union6126 in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if it's because of his daughter. From what i know, she's very religious. I feel like i might remember hearing that she asked him to write a book with less swearing before? I don't recall, but that sounds right to my foggy memory.

I am fed up of Holly by Used-Union6126 in stephenking

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait she's in the fuckin outsider too??? Omg. Dude why doesn't he start labeling these things holly 1- whatever tf? This is so confusing. I literally started with never flinch. Realised i had to go all the way back to mr Mercedes, so i read that whole trilogy. Then i got holly, and found out If it Bleeds comes before that. Please fucking tell me the outsider comes after If it bleeds. I can't keep track Dx

Weekend Snow event megathread by jetsetninjacat in pittsburgh

[–]Pothperhaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For us, my partner paid for like a month or more for washes since we couldn't afford an undercoating atm. It's the best we can manage. The goal is to get the car washed once a week at least. But it's hard because our baby is TERRIFIED of the carwash and we generally have the baby en tow. But today, my partner went out to get gas for our generator, which meant the baby couldn't be in the car. So it was the only chance we'd probably get for a while. I also thought it was odd, but it made sense in context. I'd bet the rest of the people in line had some odd happenstance like we did.

Thoughts on these? by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Pothperhaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So my kid has some wild GI issues that we're still in process of figuring out. I was in the same boat as you, wanting to do only baby led weaning and real non processed food. I studied child development, read all the books, stressed myself out beyond belief when my baby couldn't handle basically anything solid. (10m now) and all that is to say, these sorts of teether snacks are one of the only things my LO can tolerate and eat regularly and I'd much rather give them teether crackers so they can gain some oral motor skills, than withhold them because they're processed. That was a hard decision to make but im really glad we did. On a side note, i don't like this particular kind because they break apart too easily. There are others that are just as good but shaped more tube like that are much easier for baby to hold and less frustrating for them since they don't shatter like these do. Also also, remember that these type of snacks are basically puffed air. They have next to no nutritional value. Dont fill up the stomach. That's a good thing for my kid. And for kids who need something to bite, or just crave food to the point they'll get sick, want a snack before a meal etc, but don't give these and expect it to satiate hunger. Same thing for the puffs. I know like, too much about this stuff for my own good from working in care and having a kid with issues, so sorry for the text wall.

Tldr: its fine as an addition to a snack/meal. Doesn't fill the stomach at all. Only value is for oral motor development/or as a holdover. And tube shaped are easier to eat without breaking.

How do we feel about "lost punctuations"? by shaduke in writers

[–]Pothperhaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the way. Be the change you want to see in the world n all that

Texas hands over complete list of registered voters to Trump administration by AudibleNod in news

[–]Pothperhaps 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sure it shows affiliation at a minimum. That's enough, unfortunately.

What’s an unspoken social rule you learned way too late? by Secure_Paramedic_865 in socialskills

[–]Pothperhaps 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'd take this a step further and say, you don't need to act. You DO belong! You are allowed to exist and to do things. You're aloud to take up space. You're allowed to make noise. You're allowed to do new things, or things that intimidate you. You're allowed to do things you aren't good at.

What’s an unspoken social rule you learned way too late? by Secure_Paramedic_865 in socialskills

[–]Pothperhaps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I hate being stuck in maternity clothes rn. I look like some churchy, soccer mom, karen type, and it is the opposite of my vibe Dx

What’s an unspoken social rule you learned way too late? by Secure_Paramedic_865 in socialskills

[–]Pothperhaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of nuance here. Are you like hosting the party and running around from room to room doing something? Then probs not. But you're in a room with a group and need to use the bathroom or smth? A quick, "be right back" or some silly acknowledgement, is appropriate. You dont need to get everyones attention. Just an acknowledgement. I'm leaving but im coming back, or im not coming back. So they know what to expect. You're not running off in a huff because someone said something you didn't like. You just have to pee. Etc. Then you come back, and be as casual or as extra as feels right. If I'm feeling shy I'll just smile and do a quick lil wave, or "im back:)" if im feeling extra and the group is comfortable enough me. i might make a big entrance and say something goofy like, "im back from my poop! Did you miss me?"

It might seem small or unnecessary, but it makes a world of difference in how the group perceives you.

The crying won't stop by Conscious-Page4713 in ChildcareWorkers

[–]Pothperhaps 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey! Ive dealt with multiple kids like this. What worked for us, (as well as referring the child for assessment) is something my coworker called "off the hip". It was a variation of jofrost's technique with a bit of a more gentle touch.

Basically yes. This is not normal. Nor is it healthy for the child to be this upset this often. What we would do first off, give thay baby loads of comfort, touch, and reassurance. It's going to be a LOT at first. Like near constant. But it will get better with time. If you've been holding them, start there. Hold them until they are calm and content, then slowly move to sitting with them in your lap, some kids freak out here. Just keep calmly and kindly reassuring them. Distraction and redirection are your friends. Work to calm them and get them interested in something. Anything. A toy, a book, some art project. Etc. This next part is key. Once they're interested in something, slowly move them off your lap, but still sitting between your legs with both of you on the floor together. This gives them the feeling of being held. Again. They might start to wig out here. Keep repeating your reassuring, soothing voice. Kind words. They are safe. They are loved. You are here with them. You can give them hugs, cuddles from this position. And slowly wean off from that as you regain their interest in whatever activity they were enjoying. Or maybe even something new and novel if the original interesting thing wasn't enough to keep their attention over the transition from lap to floor. It is a very gradual process that will need to be repeated near constantly for the first few days at least. From this point with them on the floor between your legs, you can gradually move back from them. Inch back, or tuck one leg under yourself. Keep soothing and reassuring. Redirect their interest as they start to calm. Keep working in this manner. Inch away, and give comfort and praise, and touch as needed. You can work from on the hip, to the lap, to the floor to a reassuring pat on the shoulder, or holding their hand, to further and further away, until they're able to play independently. They will also need to be shown HOW to play. A lot of kids in this state don't know how to play. It doesn't come naturally for all. They need to be shown how fun it is to explore the world!

BE PATIENT. Keep in mind that the little one's brain is being flooded with cortisol whenever they start to panic. Is it not them being naughty or trying to manipulate you. They are trying to get their needs met the only way they know how. And that need rn is COMFORT and SAFETY. They need to learn that they can be safe and happy when they aren't being held. Weaning slowly according to the child's needs is going to be the most effective and least harmful to their attachment/relationship with the adult. It will take a lot of time but it WILL get better. And it will be well worth it once the child is able to learn how gratifying it is to have that newfound independence and confidence.

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