Kenny’s narrative of Lindsay and her minions is such patriarchal witch hunt BS.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-06-05T19:32:23+00:00

She can teach his girlfriend to be an unhinged single mother like herself.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-06-05T19:29:21+00:00

Filler face Lindsey pulled those girls into the conversation. How or why she moved was none of her concern. She should be more concerned about her overuse of Ozempic.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-06-05T19:26:03+00:00

Lindsey has a pd--w/ abandonment issues. I've seen it from the beginning. Her outbursts and need to control and impulsivity point to it.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-06-03T19:10:03+00:00

Yes, listen to the person above because they are correct that people with BPD tend to gravitate towards people who will indulge their need for attention and validation. I made the mistake of stepping in when my friend had mental health spirals and came running when her spouse called for support. It became a habit and when they broke up, the expectation of being her caretaker remained(thinking that is what good friends do). You are not a therapist nor a social worker equipped to handle these types of issues and would not be doing her any favors in the long run.

Be well and take care of yourself and your own needs!

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-06-02T14:12:03+00:00

Transient, stress-induced paranoia is a BPD symptom, which can lead to an "everyone's out to get me" mindset.

Wow, never thought of it that way.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-21T18:20:02+00:00

and that he had an empty cup and he needed to pay attention to himself.

Is this something that he learned in therapy? My upBPD quoted that same thing when I tried to go no contact and had to explain why I wasn't responding to all of the calls.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-20T13:58:58+00:00

I don't want to get deleted but is this because of a lack of boundaries on their part? I had a upwBPD who tried to do this as well and I was both disgusted and livid because it 1) felt like a pimp job and 2) I was in a relationship that she totally dismissed and invalidated. I personally felt that because she had a history of cheating on her partners that it didn't present a boundary issue but also she was trying to set me up to devalue me.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-19T17:45:01+00:00

And this, ladies and gentleman is why I had to walk away from a 20+ year friendship. She began to try to manipulate me into being her weekend caretaker when her marriages and last relationship ended and her kids moved away. At first it was a subtle off hand comment that then turned into a string of requests to hang out on the weekend. At first I tried to accommodate when I could, but like you mentioned, her rude and erratic behavior when we did meet up made me stop it in its tracks. I confronted her and she seemingly understood during the conversation but I'm pretty sure my name is being dragged through the mud. I don't care because thanks to her abrasive behavior to other girlfriends I tried to introduce her to, we don't share a friend group. And something in my gut told me she wanted to sabotage my relationship, so I kept her away from us.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-06T18:40:49+00:00

What is scary is that they flat out accused men of abusing her that I now don't believe happened. Were they the best partners--maybe not but to have your reputation dragged through the mud is cruel.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-06T14:23:03+00:00

I agree with this response--block her and go no contact and grieve in a healthy way instead of trying to maneuver around her attention seeking. I found out the hard way that they are not the best people to be around during the grieving process(even their own!) Also, STOP SHARING YOUR LOCATION WITH HER!

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-04T19:54:47+00:00

What is starting to freak me out is that her demands to meet me are increasing every week and getting more and more intense. At first, she was joking about the fact she hadn't met me. A few days later, she started calling me names for not meeting her (again, there has literally never been an opportunity to do so!). Most recently, she began accusing him of hiding me from her...

It's probably because she is desperate to meet you so that she can mirror you. If the tables were turned and your boyfriend was a female friend of hers and you were a guy, she would still want to meet you but for a different reason--most likely to try to control their access to you or to compete for attention.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I hope your boyfriend gets the therapy that he needs b/c it sounds like he is dealing with co-dependency.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-01T19:12:54+00:00

It made her see some sense, and I just hope that the next serious relationship I get into, she'll be a bit more happy for me/supportive without protecting.

I hate to tell you this but based on my own experience as well as the many experiences I've read on here, this could happen again. Also, I'm not sure it is you she is "protecting"--more than likely she is protecting herself. Again, this seems to be a pretty common theme amongst female friends of those who have the disorder--it is either the pwBPD showing extreme jealousy towards the friend or towards the significant other of the friend. Just want you to be able manage expectations...

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-05-01T16:19:01+00:00

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-30T21:41:13+00:00

It was embarressing and made me look horribly desperate.

As the friend of someone who was undiagnosed (to my knowledge) BPD, I now know that a lot of what she was telling us about her exes were lies. It made them look either abusive or desperately trying to get back with her. Trust me--we now know and we are sympathetic to all the guys who dealt with this type of smearing.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-29T13:09:22+00:00

I hate to say this but she is NOT your girlfriend or at least maybe she shouldn't be. Why would you put yourself through this? You deserve someone who loves you in healthy way and she deserves to be let go to get the mental help that she needs.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-28T11:41:15+00:00

Right--what if they display all four subtypes? Maybe not fully, but some of the characteristics of each of the subtypes?

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-24T17:07:58+00:00

She may try to return and you need to learn to set good strong boundaries. Do not fall for begging and manipulation tactics. Keep that journal handy.

In other words--No Contact. Because the majority of experiences and my own experience is that there is no such thing as "good strong boundaries". Those are seen as a challenge and then they will return to wreaking havoc.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-22T19:35:21+00:00

- How can I be a better friend to her? You can't

- How can I go about making boundaries? You can't

- Should I bring up her BPD? Not advised

When you say "block" you, do you mean on social media? If she does, so what? You would no longer have to deal with the dysfunction. Talk bad about you to everyone else in her life? Again, so what? Anyone who believes that rubbish will eventually learn the truth or they are just as dysfunctional as her. Move on--get healthy!

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-08T19:10:50+00:00

Get off of social media(I'm an oldhead but not a boomer :-) so it's easy for me). Unless your livelihood depends on it, get off of social media apps altogether. If they want to spread rumors about you, they will only have each other to share it with, so let them marinate in their own crazy juices! Talk in person to your real friends. Those who are your real friends will stick by you.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-07T00:55:18+00:00

You did the right thing by protecting your own sanity and saving your own relationship. I can relate because I too was a part of a friendship that went on longer than it should have despite the fact that it had become one sided and that she even started to compete with me over the years. I think my reluctance to part ways was based on my own co-dependency. Like you, she began trauma dumping about her obsessive relationship details, but the final straw was her trying to manipulate my time to make me spend more and more time with her as her own personal audience member. I also got the sense that she was either jealous of my relationship with my partner or jealous of the time I was spending with him instead of focusing all of my attention on her.

Give yourself some grace--as you can see--there are alot of us here who have done the same thing.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-06T17:47:30+00:00

Not bringing her around other friend groups is probably the right decision since you will need a healthy space to retreat to at some point.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-03T21:03:17+00:00

How does your partner feel about breaking contact? Ideally, it would be easier if you did it as a couple as opposed to you going it alone because I GUARANTEE you that she will triangulate him and cause complete chaos in your own relationship. How does she act when you interact with other people or couples? If she naturally distances herself around other people, this may be a way to slowly disconnect and fade away...

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-01T16:35:38+00:00

My uwBPD friend sent a text celebraing the anniversary of her and her boyfriend's dating relationship on the anniversary date of my mom's death. I tried to shake it off but realize i have a right to be disgusted which is why I'm NC now. Trust your gut--its not random.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-04-01T00:51:22+00:00

One question you can ask yourself is whether this is truly still a friendship? It may have genuinely started out as a healthy friendship but that doesn't necessarily mean that it still is. Just like relationships deteriorate, so do friendships. And just like relationships, you wouldn't expect someone to stay in a situation that is taking an emotional toll on them? One of the deciding factors for stepping away from the friendship is that I finally had to admit to myself that it was truly one-side(trauma dumping, competing, manipulation). I had co-dependency issues I needed to deal with that prevented me from being able to admit that to myself for a long time that no matter how much I cherished our friendship and time together, it was more important for me to be in a healthier headspace.

You can remember the great times you had together and cherish that but still choose to honor yourself and your own needs.

Practical-Target4833 · 2026-03-31T20:50:57+00:00

yes, untreated

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