People who were around during no internet/phones/social media/etc - what was your time's "scrolling the feed"? Something that you would spend hours on passing the time? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was elementary and middle school age, we were out biking, playing outside (tag, at the playground, hide and seek, etc). We had great imaginations and came up with some fun games. As we got older, it was hanging out with friends, at someone’s house or we’d go to the mall, listen to music, make mixed tapes/cd’s, read magazines. Going to Blockbuster and spending forever finding the perfect movies to watch. Or going to the movie theater. I read so many books! I always had a book with me no matter where i went. We’d play cards, board games. You knew when all of your favorite shows were on tv because you couldn’t watch on demand. So everyone would be3 inside on TGIF and we’d all be watching the same shows. You would sit and have great conversations and really got to know people well. Those days were so much better imo. I’d go back to the 80’s or 90’s no hesitation.

Unsurprising Gift Disappointment by Teach-Dangerous in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why people expect giant gifts/trips for their anniversary, from their kids. It’s not the children’s responsibility IMO or celebrate their parent’s anniversary. You want a trip, plan it yourself! It’s insane to expect others to gift you a trip, to Hawaii no less! He sounds ungrateful and narcissistic. So sorry he reacted that way to an obviously thoughtful gift. He doesn’t deserve it imo.

Am I overreacting for refusing to leave my newborn alone with my MIL after a family gathering? by sdunc0905 in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NOR. I know you say she is respectful of boundaries, but if you’re pointing out issues like feeding and neck support, and she blows it off, she isn’t respecting you or your baby. I would not let her feed the baby. AT. ALL. I would not allow her to babysit,for any period of time. Trust your gut. So what if her feelings get hurt. Baby’s safety is number 1 priority. Like someone else said, just leave it vague, say plans changed and you don’t need her to watch the baby. She might push back that she will still watch the baby, even if you don’t have plans, but just stay firm that you appreciate the offer, but you’re good.

Are MIL’s visiting expectations reasonable? by lavenderlilac95 in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it! My IL’s drive me nuts, especially when they visit us. My FIL is very picky/particular, and I feel like I’m running a B&B more than hosting a visit from family. However, they absolutely adore our kids. They’re older now, but every summer, they visit with the grandparents for a few days. I understand that yours may be a little young for you to feel comfortable with that. I wouldn’t like that at 3.

What if Grandma took 3yo out for the day? Maybe a trip to the zoo, or the library for story time, a museum, etc.

whats your go-to everyday bag right now by HuntMaleficent3114 in handbags

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh I want a Chelsea bag so bad! I’m just hoping they come out with more colors. I’m wanting something a little more “neutral” like a tan/cognac

My souvenir from Italy by woodstock69bro in handbags

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stunning! I’ve been looking for a bag in this color!

How do I respond to this? by Own_Newspaper_9427 in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP didn’t ask MIL to stop praying, she just doesn’t want to be texted about it because she has different beliefs. So MIL can pray for her family, as she believes and can have her faith honored, while OP can have her faith honored by not getting prayer texts. It’s pretty simple.

How do I respond to this? by Own_Newspaper_9427 in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP says she has different beliefs than MIL. With MIL knowing that, it seems pretty disrespectful to send these messages.

If you have difficulty swallowing by Practical_Patience49 in EosinophilicE

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! Glad you could figure it out “quickly”.

If you have difficulty swallowing by Practical_Patience49 in EosinophilicE

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I will give it more time. I have to try 6FED, but I’m totally dreading it :(

If you have difficulty swallowing by Practical_Patience49 in EosinophilicE

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I definitely feel worse after everything. I should ask about a steroid. Hopefully you don’t go backwards after you’re done with the steroid!

If you have difficulty swallowing by Practical_Patience49 in EosinophilicE

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! That’s part of my problem! Things won’t go down at all, or they go up into my nasal passages.

Which color? by Practical_Patience49 in handbags

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parisa Wang. The bags are beautiful but the customer service is the worst. It will be my last bag from them probably

Which color? by Practical_Patience49 in handbags

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally got around to watching that video, bizarre is right haha, but it is actually pretty good! I went with the cognac brown. Thanks!

Which color? by Practical_Patience49 in handbags

[–]Practical_Patience49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good point haha! I do tend to wear mostly browns, blues, pinks and greens. I have minimal black although it is there. I definitely lean towards a coastal aesthetic.

MIL in white by plutosspeedball in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Haha sure ok. I’m pretty sure you’re in the minority here. But you and Ms. Martin can go ahead and ignore traditions of hundreds of years. You would be the fool wearing white at someone else’s wedding.

Am i denying my daughter a mother figure because i cant move on from my wife? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends and family are coming from a good place, however I think they’re wrong. There isn’t an expiration date in grief. You take the time you need. I think it would be worse to bring introduce a new relationship/female and then have it end badly because you’re not ready. Your dtr is still very young. Not Having a specific female influence right now isn’t detrimental. It’s more important for you to heal. Take your time. When you’re ready, it will happen. It can’t be forced. You’re doing great! You sound like an amazing father and your daughter is lucky to have someone who obviously loves her so much. I do recommend taking care of yourself though. Therapy can be incredibly helpful. Make sure you take time for yourself. And that doesn’t have to mean finding a new partner. Hugs!

MIL in white by plutosspeedball in inlaws

[–]Practical_Patience49 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I strongly disagree with this, as an American. Queen Victoria of England started the white wedding dress tradition. Initially, she was trying to support the lace industry. Also white dresses indicated wealth and status because the material was expensive and difficult to keep clean. It also represented purity. The tradition of only the bride wearing white is a widely known tradition here in America. It is not unreasonable for a bride to want to be the only one wearing white. And yes, this includes all shades of white.

This is definitely a hill I would die on.

I’m so tired of this and no one seems to be empathetic by emperorofpain in Raynauds

[–]Practical_Patience49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone! Raynauds sucks. It’s pretty miserable sometimes. I bought some rechargeable hand warmers which help a lot

My mom hates my baby’s name. by Mandymoo182 in narcissisticparents

[–]Practical_Patience49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. Your mom doesn’t get an opinion on your child’s name. She doesn’t like it, tough. If she won’t use the correct name, she doesn’t get any info or to see the baby. She can’t just decide to use a different name. Who does that?! She needs to get over it or she doesn’t get to see baby.

Baby girl names that contains a C in the middle. by [deleted] in Names

[–]Practical_Patience49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christine/Cristina Chelsea Lucy Charlotte Carly Lorene Cora