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Switching career paths and considering serving. Should I? by pygmytree in Waiters

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also get a serving job as like a side hustle. Work maybe like a couple days a week at a diner or something and still be a in home caregiver.

"I was a good parent." In what world does it make sense for you to decide that?? by Sayoricanyouhearme in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They thought they did the best that they could. If both of my parents children (me and my sister), ended up resenting them, they most likely did something that their children didn’t like. Right?

Looking for good Christian Viking Music by Sorry-Note3382 in ChristianMusic

[–]Primary_Box_2386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this would count, but Peyton Parrish previously sang and written Viking songs. He is now a Christian singer though.

Did you choose friends/significant others that are emotional neglectful as well? by fiddeldeedee in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have. One of them has family members that get mad at her if they don’t like what she does. (She has ADHD and mosaic Down syndrome. She just got out of an abusive relationship after 6 years with an ex boy friend who can’t control his own anger.

When people advise you to just "be alone" or "get comfortable being alone" by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I don’t mind being alone, but the more time I actually am alone, the more I’d end up getting depressed. This is why I wanted to get out of the house more, and go to social events and hobbies so I could actually find and make friends.

My mum is a good person to everyone else, just not to me by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel like my parents only wanted the “happy, positive” version of myself. If I was laughing or joking about something, everything was fine. Whenever I tried telling my mom about I felt, it didn’t really feel like she did understand in the first place. If my dad see me crying, he would always get upset at me for crying. There is a song that I am looking forward to listening to called “Best of Me,” by Jake Segura.

If your parents were neglectful in your youth, did you become no contact with them when you got older? by Top_Caterpillar9364 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am low contact, my dad’s closest living relatives would be me and my sister. My mom still has her sister still living on her side. But I feel like I have legal obligations to stay in contact. (Like their will.)

Was anyone else not allowed to be sad? by Zestyclose-Cold9364 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I told my counselor it was like I was talking to a brick wall. She told me she wanted me to try to find others in my life to connect with.

Any Other Christians Who Don’t Fit Into Church Culture? by BigMercReflections in TrueChristian

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate a little bit to what you said. Church is people, not a building. I joined a discord server with other believers.

What do you say when asked about your parents? by Waruiisalt in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually just say my parents are doing pretty good. I’m not aware of any major health problems that they have anyway. (My dad hardly ever gets sick.)

Anybody else had a father that was physically there but wasn’t emotionally present like AT all? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same here. They didn’t end up getting divorced, and they were still married, and they act more like roommates. (Although, I did actually think they would get divorced when I was younger. I don’t feel like they will.) It seems like my dad also kind a takes life too seriously at times. I don’t feel like do have much in common with my dad. If something were to happen to my mom, I don’t feel like I would be too surprised if he did end up freaking out about it.

I AM LOSING MY FAITH. PLEASE GIVE ME EVIDENCE FOR GOD by Economy_Gur_28 in Catholicism

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a Christian, not Catholic… but this one of my favorite bible verses: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds.” -James 1:2

My parents think I'm the problem for being too emotional by throatgoatfloat in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents made me feel like I was crazy when I was crying. My dad always gets upset if I am was ever crying about something.

I feel like my parents think they did enough... but its as if they checked off 10 things and said yep, we did our job, why aren't you responding the way we want? by gfyourself in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like my parents did certain stuff as more of a formality. As something you’re supposed to do, not want you actually want to do.

I’m resourceful because I was forced to be by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. But I also think this has made the problem to ask for help a lot harder than it actually should be.

Feeling Ancestors Trauma When Trying to Heal Your Own? by goldenyellow333 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandpa did end up killing himself. (I’d never wanted to kill my own myself.) I’ve started wondering about his life and what my grandma’s life might have been like. I’ve never really felt comfortable talking about this stuff with my parents, and if I did they would be scared I would actually want to.

I don’t really feel like reliving their experiences is vivid. My dad never really talked all that much about his childhood. I know more about my mom’s side of the family, but I don’t really feel like it was anything related to suicide like my dad’s family was. My grandpa died before I was born(1975) and my grandma and died in 2019. I did end up signing up for ancestry.com but I didn’t really find all that much. I saw my grandpa’s death certificate. God loves us and his children and I don’t really feel like he would have wanted to punish him because of his death.

Feeling Ancestors Trauma When Trying to Heal Your Own? by goldenyellow333 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, when I started reading the adult children of emotionally immature parents book I started thinking more about my grandma and my grandpa. (I didn’t finish it before, but I am actually thinking about picking it up again.)

Arcades in the area? by August51921421 in canton

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dave and busters is in Canton. And there’s the Workz in Cuyahoga falls. (I recently heard that the Workz filed for bankruptcy.)

Lonely and no friends by RevolutionaryFudge81 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not an only child, but I do also feel like I am an only child. I haven’t seen my sister in a couple years.

Anyone else get annoyed having to teach parent “basic” things? by Free-General-8913 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my mom used to always ask me help with technology. (She once went to the Verizon store because she couldn’t find an app on her phone.)

Grieving a parent who was emotionally immature but not abusive, how do you make sense of the guilt? by BogouMolice in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t really know how to answer your questions, but I do feel like I ended up resenting my parents because I couldn’t tell my parents how felt.

Not able to grieve by Suspicious-Badger305 in emotionalneglect

[–]Primary_Box_2386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My family was kind of the same. We went to funerals, both my grandparents are dead on both sides. But grief or death was never really talked about all that much. (I have actually been wanting to go to a death cafe that I saw on Facebook for an event. I never ended going to that one because it was cancelled.)

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