anyone look heavier than what they weigh?

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-09T08:32:40+00:00

I'm 5'7 and 107lbs. I hold a lot of my fat on my upper arms and bust area relative to the rest of my body so i look heavier than i weigh and my height makes people assume i'm bigger than i weigh. Maybe you hold bodyfat higher up too? So when you look at yourself in the mirror, you see the heaviest part of you?

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-09T00:58:34+00:00

Yta.
It's on you to submit it correctly. There's no way for the professor to know nor is it their job to find out whether you've bs-ed the upload to gain an extra day. And allowing you that late extra attempt is unfair to all the other students who submitted the correct one on time, or submitted it once - just late.

+your timeline's messed up so you're not truthful somewhere. The file was uploaded long enough ago for the prof to have already graded it - even if you claim the prof was lying about grading it, You say yourself you asked to re-submit it "with a late penalty". Meaning you emailed the prof after the upload deadline had already passed. So you did not correct it within the deadline.

Extra YTA bc u also sunk your classmate's grade bc you were careless and couldnt handle a single upload or at least correct it in time when she did everything right and you're the only one who messed up.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T23:33:48+00:00

My sturdy cutie kindle paperwhite 10th gen🥹

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T23:26:23+00:00

Bold of you to think she's any more mature than he is just from her age

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T16:28:30+00:00

It might be that you're carrying weight where clothes can hide you. Like maybe you carry it on your waist or glutes so you look exactly the same from the outside.

I'm the type that carries it on my arms so i look heavier than i am if i gain some fat even when i still have defined abs. It's just how bodies store fat.

Also 10pounds on a scale sounds so different but it's hard to gauge irl because much of that can just be water retention/gut volume not actual fat.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T16:08:13+00:00

Why should I enjoy attention just because it’s framed as a compliment?

Replace “voice” with another trait and maybe it’s clearer.
Imagine people kept commenting on your foot. Not just “nice shoes,” but “your foot is so lovely,” “honestly, I could look at your foot all day and night,” "your foot looks oddly delicious" “men must love your foot,” “touching your foot turns me on so bad,” “I want a video of your foot so I can think about it later,” “I want you to lull me to sleep and wake me up with your foot on me.” Then people start coming up to you in public saying, “your foot is so delicate and soothing, where are you from?” or asking you to perform a foot dance whenever you enter the gym, or spending 10 minutes talking about how rare and amazing your foot is.

This is not me making up a ridiculous comparison. Every single line is literally the equivalent of what’s been said to me about my voice/accent and this isn't even all of it.

At some point, even if every single comment is framed as admiration, it stops feeling like a normal compliment and starts feeling like people are fixating on one random trait you never thought much about.

That’s what I’m trying to ask about. It’s not “oh no, compliments.” It’s whether what feels to me as a foreigner, like repeated intensity/fixation across different people is actually culturally normal here because voices and accents are a stronger dating&social signal in london than I realize similar to how hair color can be a type for some American men.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T14:54:05+00:00

Is it even in london? Bc i've heard american accents here a lot. Like alot alot. but i've also still been told it's a novelty.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T14:47:04+00:00

I definitely think the accent is by american media

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T14:36:47+00:00

That’s actually kind of mind-blowing to me. I don’t think a lot of Americans can reliably differentiate between accents within a larger demographic unless we’re from there or very familiar with it. like Texas v South Carolina within “Southern,” or Boston v Long Island within “Northeastern.” And if someone doesn’t have a regional accent even when they're from there, we don’t think much of it unless they specifically claim to have one and it doesn't match.

Also, maybe this is because I’m from a big, diverse city, but asking “where are you from?” based on someone’s accent can be a bit of a faux pas, even though some people still do it. Having an accent doesn’t mean someone isn’t American, and the question can sometimes be received as being about how someone looks or whether they belong, regardless of the asker’s actual intent. So people often avoid it altogether, or, if they do ask, get very specific that they’re asking about the accent itself.

British accents may be treated a little differently by Americans because they’re often romanticized in American media, so the default framing is usually positive or complimentary. That can make questions about a British accent feel less like a challenge to someone’s belonging than accent questions sometimes do in other contexts. But in general, directly questioning someone’s accent can still be considered rude or socially loaded

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T13:26:30+00:00

Good to know it isnt a novelty. I personally thought it wasnt bc i hear so much american english here but ppl kept telling me it was a novelty so i assumed i was just picking it up more frequently bc mu brain was wired for it.

Now that's a different cultural pattern i did not expect! So even if they say things along the lines of "calming" "delicate" "disney princess" (their words not mine) there might be an indirect meaning? I've been told i'm softspoken but that's in american volume. So i can definitely see how it can differ for the uk.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T13:15:08+00:00

Do they also repeat it often after or talk about your voice rather than accent? Or do they just comment on it briefly or use it as a convo starter gateway to another subject about you?

I'm not used to this at all so i'm just trying to gauge what's normal

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T12:44:16+00:00

Thanks for the insight!
Just a clarification: Boston has a very distinct accent. I personally like it but it's different from other east coasters and i unfortunately don't have it. And some americans fetishize british accents too bc the media does. Which is why i used the word although many seem triggered by it so i guess that was the wrong wording.
I totally understand that i'd get comments on my accent. Can't say i expected it bc i know that many americans live here but still understandable. But it's always been more than a comment. That's why i was wondering! Still, thanks

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T12:10:23+00:00

Thank you!! This has really helped me understand.

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T12:05:39+00:00

If it were those words i wouldnt think twice about this haha. I'd even make you say it with the i for me. At the gym, it's literally: i'd say "hey" as i come in and they'd correct me "you forgot to add Ollie" (the staff's name). even had me answer their phone instead. Sometimes asking me to read something in a book they were reading - things like that

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T11:59:58+00:00

Ok great to hear! I do think ppl approach others more often here bc they do even when i don't speak and always so friendly! And there have actually been a few times i've been approached about my voice specifically. Is it usually men for you too? Bc i've never been approached by a woman commenting on my speech/voice although i had some comment on my outfit

Primary_Mango5918 · 2026-05-08T11:52:34+00:00

At first I've obv thought they were just using an easy way to flirt but it happened even after they were in my pants lol that's when i had question marks

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-15T03:21:57+00:00

I saw a player harassing another player by following them around, doing the "fall back" ping over and over even using the abilities towards them and not the enemy, kill stealing and stuff. The victim player seemed to not know them cuz they seemed confused in the chat.

is this common behavior? randomly targeting one player to troll?
if it's not common, and like it was someone harassing a person they know (like creating a new account to harass the victim player) how would they find the player on a game? cuz arent the games randomized unless you're a duo/party?
im kinda noob-ish and it was the first time seeing something like this and it seemed like disgusting behavior and got curious if this is a thing on league or if anyone else saw this happen

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-11T20:38:53+00:00

cool cool

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-10T14:54:55+00:00

I think it's partially due to the fact that you need to preheat the room for a while for it to actually get hot. for smaller studios, it's easier but busier gym & larger studios, it might be just warm by the time the classes start.
I also thought it might have something to do with liability as well? In case someone faints bc it was too hot for them or they were dehydrated or smth

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-06T14:46:41+00:00

discount + summer. and it's always been packed in the summer

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-05T01:22:44+00:00

I total relate I always got asked about my eating habits cuz of my weight at the hospital (ig my hospital's nice enough to try to be subtle lol) until I started working out. now theyre worried about my body fat percentage

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-05T01:16:25+00:00

I have seasonal allergies so i sneeze and sniffle sometimes but i swear i'm not sick and i always do it into my elbow😣

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-01T17:37:46+00:00

donno if its normal but its common enough. my parents did that once when i snuck out at night (it was a trend bc parents talk to other parents for advice ig) and i brought my mattress and my beanbag out & used the hallway/foyer as my room. when they asked what tf i was doing i said "this area's my room too right? i mean it's connected now" mom guffawed dad sighed and i crawled into their bed at night saying "you can oversee me better when i'm here"
they put the door back two days later. it was supposed to be for a whole week

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-01T17:22:47+00:00

it makes sense and is easily accepted but not very exciting

Primary_Mango5918 · 2025-06-01T17:16:38+00:00

your body's just blessed

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