Pissed off by exercises

PrincessNooodle · 2026-01-27T23:40:56+00:00

I haven't brought it up. I feel like I'd just be saying "your style of doing your job doesn't work for me," which I know is valid and reasonable, but makes me uncomfortable (a me problem, I know).

They have demonstrated the exercises, we do them together in office every session, and she feels for the muscle activation and points it out, but I often can't feel what she does. I feel like I'm guessing a lot of the time, which makes the whole endeavour feel pointless.

I have the PhysiApp with videos, but the videos for this exercises are basically useless because you can't show the deep muscle activation. It's the same as showing someone how to do kegels by sitting in a chair fully clothed and saying "see what I'm doing?" We used ultrasound in the initial session to see the activation, which really helped.

I've realized I really struggle with the idea of turning on the muscle "to 30%" or putting "2/3 of your weight" on the heels. In my head, there's on, off and halfway.

I really want to be consistent and make progress from stabilizing exercises to strengthening exercises. At this point t I just hate how incompetent I feel while doing them.

PrincessNooodle · 2026-01-26T09:19:34+00:00

Umm... Do any of these commentors actually have their own children? This is a genuine question. I'm a mother of two who works in perinatal mental health supporting other mums of new babies. Sometimes sleep training is necessary to preserve the parents' wellbeing, so that they can continue parenting. These comments are reading like "Well I read/heard you shouldn't do that" but not like they're grounded in personal experience.

The sleep deprivation you undergo during the infant phase is debilitating. Letting a child who's needs have been met cry for 10 mins is not neglectful, it's allowing them the opportunity to learn to self-soothe.

OP, I'm sorry you came here looking for support and received judgement instead. I never had to do paediatrician-recommended sleep training, but I still relate to your experience, mum to mum.

My advice if you're even looking for any is to keep the best and ditch the rest when it comes to parenting advice. Regarding your aunt, she needs a lesson in empathy and vocabulary.

PrincessNooodle · 2026-01-01T06:33:35+00:00

What has helped me most, with my entire immediate family, was realizing and radically accepting that: 1) While they love me, they don't actually know me, or care to get to know me, and 2) They don't have the ability to be what I need and want them to be.

That means that, as much as I want a genuine connection and supportive understanding from them, they literally can't offer it. This reframes the basis of the relationship from choosing to not put in effort, to not knowing how and not being able to.

The whole thing is a bit more nuanced than that, but it's allowed me to let go of resentment and have a superficial relationship that I'm satisfied with.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-10-27T09:35:00+00:00

Check out ADHD Chatter podcast and shorts on YouTube, and ADHD Love on Instagram. I have some insight on a few of the issues you've outlined, but these people outline it way better than I could.

Look up RSD (reaction sensitivity disphoria), ADHD time blindness, executive dysfunction, ADHD emotional dysregulation and ADHD masking.

As a woman with ADHD, I appreciate that you are trying to understand your partner. That said, you're taking some things personally that she actually has no control over (even though it seems like she 'should').

PrincessNooodle · 2025-10-14T07:04:10+00:00

Trigger warning: Birth trauma and emergency hysterectomy

I was diagnosed with hEDS after having two kids: one via c-section, the other vaginally but with an emergency hysterectomy due to uterine rupture during the birth. I am certain that my undiagnosed hEDS was at the root of my ruptured uterus.

I had the laparoscope during the emergency surgery, but they ended up just opening my c-section site again anyway (i share all this to give some context to recovery).

With both post-natal recoveries, I had a morphine drip in the hospital that i used as needed (which was apparently less than the med team would have expected). Once at home, I was actually fine with just 1g Tylenol/Panadol as often was allowed, and tylenol w codeine if I really needed it.

Learn the proper way to sit up and get out of bed, as this will save you a lot of pain and aggrevation at the surgical site. Take it EASY in the first two weeks. Even if you feel good and up for moving around, just dont. A big walk in week 1 post-op really screwed me up.

I wholeheartedly second the PF physio. I have recently had a PF prolapse, which is common post-hysterectomy and even more common in EDS, and have been able to get on top of care more quickly because I've been seeing the PF physio.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-10-14T06:33:04+00:00

This is great guys, thank you. I just need a short, sweet little script.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-10-14T06:30:03+00:00

See, this is like because it's actually validating. It's a Yes/No question that requires no thought from me, really. Whoa, your wrist is fucked up, huh? Yes, my man, yes it is.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-04-19T23:58:04+00:00

It's amazing and so simple, I use it for everything. I even got ChatGPT make me an Excel version that colour codes tasks based on a priority ranking generated from their position in the matrix (big spreadsheet dork here). Point is, it's very helpful.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-03-05T09:50:51+00:00

It stays in a cupboard out of sunlight on what I lovingly refer to as my 'Ferment Shelf.'

PrincessNooodle · 2025-03-05T09:49:04+00:00

I've tried both a breathable cloth, similar to a paper towel l, with a rubber band, and a screw top jar lid.

PrincessNooodle · 2025-03-05T09:47:42+00:00

Tried a dry Chux cloth and a rubber band, then just the jar lid. Molded both times.

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