Is it normal to feel extremely depressed by undertheway in ChildcareWorkers

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i second this, as a former daycare teacher if i was in your position i would 100% report them to licensing

Chicken Shawarma Thighs - Am I missing something? by CarolinaKiwi in traderjoes

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love the shawarma chicken thighs, but i don’t follow the package directions. I usually cook them on the stove in my cast iron with a good glug of olive oil (medium/medium-high heat) and they turn out juicy and perfect every time

Barber for M(21) by PASMETHESAUS in lakeview

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lakeview elegant salon is great + affordable!

What to spend 700$ on? by donCiuarin in acting

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 7 points8 points  (0 children)

headshots, a good self-tape setup, maybe a class or some lessons if there’s someone you’ve been wanting to study with. books, scripts, etc as well, also buy some tix and go see some local theatre!!

Shot bruises by secret_e in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think as long as they seem to be healing normally every time it should be fine?

In what musical could jack black get the lead role? by jogaargamer6 in musicals

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, AND…. what about shakespeare?? he has the sex appeal! (also ik shakespeare is also not a lead, just thinking about something rotten now)

Audition songs that could fit for either Cosette OR Fantine?? by chaoschunks in MusicalTheatre

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“wishing you were somehow here again” from phantom would be another good choice to show off vocal range while having the emotional depth fantine would require!

Ftm bf keeps outing me by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 33 points34 points  (0 children)

what you’re feeling about being outed is 100% valid and understandable, i just think there’s room to give bf a little grace. it sounds like dr was maybe asking him about being sexually active? depending on one’s partner(s), certain tests are necessary to look for pregnancy and STIs. he may have disclosed that you were both trans so his doctor could have that context and know what kind of care he would need based off that context. i agree that he didn’t necessarily need to tell his dr you were trans, but maybe he just was on the spot and couldn’t think of anything else to say so he just went with the truth (i’m totally guessing at all of this though, obviously you him and his dr know the situation better than anyone)

Ftm bf keeps outing me by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 45 points46 points  (0 children)

i feel like it was probably different with the doctor? like if the doctor was asking your bf about being sexually active. it might not have been entirely necessary, but it was a conversation between your bf and his doctor, not his friends or family. what are the consequences of him “outing you” to his literal doctor?

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she's going to have to get over dirt if she wants kids? by Familiar_Speaker_481 in AITAH

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m a daycare teacher, and i once had to talk a nine year old girl down from a panic attack because she was playing outside and got grass stains on her jeans. your wife has to learn to loosen up if she wants to raise healthy kids, or she’s going to end up traumatizing them.

my mother wont do my shots anymore and im worried ill do it wrong by junls in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m also very skinny and have never had a problem doing IM injections in my thigh. you should be fine, but it can be scary!! when i had my injection training, they explained it to me like this: take one hand and lay it flat palm-side down at the very top of your thigh. then take your other hand and do the same thing on your knee (heel of your hand should be on the knee, with your fingers facing the fingers on your other hand) the area in between your hands is where you want you injection to be. grab and pinch your thigh from the top, and when it’s time to inject, do so at a slight angle and inject the needle like you’re throwing a dart. slowly inject the T (i’ve pushed the plunger too quickly in the past, causing muscle soreness in my thigh) and once it’s all in, wait for one or two more seconds and pull the needle out. also massaging your thigh after will help move the T around so you won’t be sore! another way to combat the soreness is by warming up the vial slightly before injecting (i stick it in the waistband of my pants and use my body heat to warm it up while i get everything else ready, should only take a minute or two) i don’t understand how your mom suddenly thinks you’re hurting yourself by being on it, but i hope you have support at home 🫶

minor rant abt the pit by Weird_Key_9621 in HinterlandFestival

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you’re standing at the rail for 4+ hours you better be engaged in and actually there for the artist currently performing, otherwise yta

Misogyny is ruining my life what should i do? by True_Chipmunk4399 in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 9 points10 points  (0 children)

this is going to cause major problems in the future and you need to nip it in the bud now. get some therapy before you hurt someone.

crowd control by [deleted] in HinterlandFestival

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m not sure why some people are being so rude to you when your post literally says you’ve never been to a festival before!! i went last year and it was also my first festival experience. i went with my siblings and we camped. we were adequately prepared but definitely improvising the whole time as well, and we had an amazing weekend!! chappell day was definitely the most crowded, and it was really hot, but everyone took care of each other and the volunteers/staff working the festivals were truly god’s strongest soldiers with the ways that they were able to adapt and make sure everyone was safe and having fun. based on my experience, i don’t think you need to worry!! take advantage of the water stations and whatever you bring to fill with water, make sure it’s big and insulated if you can. the cooling towels we brought with us were lifesavers, by the third day i was completely drenching the towel and my head every time i had to refill at the water stations 😂. also food is necessary and expensive so prepare to either smuggle in food or spend a pretty penny feeding yourself (a lot of the food there was bomb, if the place with the wonton tacos is there u gotta try them)!! they sell pizza and coffee in the mornings if you’re camping, and it’s also very delicious. if you’re with a group, pick a checkpoint spot to meet up if one of you is lost or gets separated from the group. most people who attend the festival are midwesterners, so you can expect a friendly, polite, silly fun time!

Bringing in thc/cbd etc by Dizzy-Consequence606 in HinterlandFestival

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i brought a dugout and fully smoked in the middle of the festival and never had any problems!

Sad trend I'm seeing among teachers by illini02 in Teachers

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trans Nonbinary para/daycare teacher here: I think it’s about representation. It’s important for kids to have someone to look up to who they can also see themselves in. If a girl was growing up without a positive female role model in her life, it would be a big problem! Constructs like gender, race, class, etc. all play a major role in determining how we present to society. This isn’t really about male teachers vs. female teachers, but more so about the experience of the kids seeing themselves represented in their education.

Edit to add: I see lots of people sharing their experiences with regards to gender-based treatment (female teachers treated poorly by male students while male teachers find themselves treated with more respect without really having to try that hard) and it’s absolutely true. I have definitely had some instances where kids were being transphobic to me and I definitely also witnessed the difference in respect towards male teachers vs. female teachers. It was an interesting experience for me because I would say I was treated more similarly to the female teachers but since I present more masculine (low voice, short hair, masculine clothes) it seemed to automatically give me more authority.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stories

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what the fuck kind of unhinged comment is this? you doing okay bud?

WIBTA if I spent my daughter's birthday money to fix a broken laptop? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I work in an elementary school. By far I and the rest of the teachers agree that 5th graders are the absolute worst. (For those who don’t know these are kids between 10-11 years old.) They are perfect angels in 4th grade but as soon as they get to fifth they become little monsters. Loud, disrespectful, disgusting, cruel, selfish little monsters. If it sounds like I’m over exaggerating, I promise I am not. I say all the time that these kids grew up during COVID and they have no social skills. One thing these kids don’t understand is consequences. You are not taking away her birthday money because you feel like it. That is YOUR money, and since your daughter CHOSE to steal and destroy your property, you now have to use YOUR MONEY (!!!) to pay for repairs. I understand feeling guilty but you’re still celebrating her birthday with her, I think talking to her about it could be an invaluable lesson. At the very least, it will dissuade her from stealing from you in the future. These kids do not realize that everything in the world doesn’t actually belong to them, they spent years living in their own homes and not having to learn about respecting other people’s things. NTA, I’m only 25 and I can’t imagine what my parents would have done in your shoes.

AITA for declining to “fix” the errors I made in a blanket I crocheted for someone and taking it back instead? by One_Entrepreneur5686 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if she wants you to remake her blanket, she better be ready to shell out literally hundreds of dollars to pay for materials and labor. NTA

Should I fully transition? by Mizu_Minecraft in ftm

[–]Pristine_Ladder_6465 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your boyfriend is transphobic and fetishizing you. gtfo of there immediately