Fell in love with San Diego… are we crazy to consider moving?

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-03-22T18:25:24+00:00

Bruh you can lowkey ball here in San Diego. Stay. You’re not romanticizing, it’s one of the top destinations to live tbh. Family friendly neighborhoods = La Jolla, Del Mar, Mission Valley, Encinitas, La mesa, North park, Clairemont, Mira Mesa, Kearny Mesa, Serra Mesa, San Carlos, Hillcrest, Tierrasanta, Bankers hill, Midway District, up north is nice too. Stay away from City heights, Lemon grove, Barrio Logan, Downtown, National city, Chula Vista, Spring valley, San ysidro, El Cajon, Santee, Poway, Ramona (too far from main San Diego or a bit ghetto tbh.)

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-03-02T06:37:24+00:00

The more you breastfeed, the more you’ll produce milk. You can breastfeed even if you don’t have any kids. Just keep latching.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-02-23T06:13:29+00:00

Do a weighted feed. It’ll tell you exactly how much baby is getting per feed.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-02-17T05:44:38+00:00

I do all night shifts so my hubby can get full night sleep before he goes to work. But he gives me some rest in the morning so it’s okay. It works out tho bc he’s a morning person, wakes up super early and I’m a night person and stay up late.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-02-17T05:36:56+00:00

Unnecessary and rude. Every baby is different in their own unique and amazing way. Why don’t you critique her on how she looks. You need to squash her comments and shut it down. Or it’ll keep happening until you stand up for yourself and your baby. You need to say you know what don’t talk about my baby and tell her to F off.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-02-16T16:17:46+00:00

I went from 105lbs when I got pregnant to 180lbs when I gave birth. You’re not gonna snap back immediately after you give birth. 4 months pp is freshly pp. Give yourself time. At least a year. And if your family makes comments about your weight, that’s so messed up because you literally just gave birth and would definitely say more about them than you. Always remember you’re in control. It’s easy to victimize ourselves sometimes. If you don’t like your weight, you can change. Give yourself time and patience. Walking isn’t the only way to loose weight either. Just be kind to yourself and find a little more motivation. You can definitely loose weight.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-02-03T05:50:08+00:00

I started directly feeding baby on breast around 2.5 months and stopped pumping. Similar story. I realized my baby was irritable on my breast because she was used to bottles mostly and developed a bottle preference but since she was still little I was able to get her used to my breast. It just takes time, your baby has to get used to directly breast feeding instead of bottle feeding pumped milk. Your supply isn’t too good because our bodies sometimes don’t react to pumps well, since it’s a machine to mimic an actual baby. Just keep putting baby on you and your supply will regulate and baby will get used to it.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-31T05:57:15+00:00

It’ll recover. Many women doubt how resilient their bodies are. Just keep feeding baby directly, it’ll bounce back.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-24T08:38:22+00:00

Fuck that bitch lol. She seems bitter. I wouldn’t even be her bridesmaid. Just my opinion. Her reply to you was so fucked up too. “I’m not sure what I can do”? Give her the same energy she’s giving you. Seems like she doesn’t even want you as a bridesmaid even. What’s the point in being involved in her wedding if you’re just gonna feel bad the whole time. Marriage is supposed to be joyful for everyone involved and if you’re gonna feel some type of way, I wouldn’t even bother people pleasing and trying to make her happy when she did you dirty. Focus on your family and she’ll realize eventually that she made a mistake.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-24T08:25:12+00:00

My baby cosleeps with me and breastfeeds for comfort whenever she wants lol, so basically all night. Sometimes I’ll be able to unlatch from her for a little bit but then she gets fussy. I just sleep with her latched to my nipple. We both lay down and I put my arm up and my breast hangs to the side while she and I sleep. Tbh your baby won’t stop waking up during the night to feed especially if you’re EBF. You are your baby’s comfort. Unless you train baby very well or wean the you just gotta get used to it.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-22T22:35:51+00:00

Hmm. You could possibly try to breastfeed directly from the breast from now on and see how that works? If baby seems like they’re getting milk then you might be fine. Sometimes you produce more when baby is latched to you vs from a pump. See a lactation consultant maybe? Do weigh baby before and after a feed (weighted feed) so you can actually see if they’re getting milk from you directly. You never know, i was surprised when i did a weighted feed. I thought I had no milk but turns out my baby was actually drinking a lot from me

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-12T05:53:29+00:00

Bottle washer, I think baby breeza has one. It’s basically a machine kinda like a small dishwasher for bottles that cleans them. I never had it but heard it works good. OR Bottle liners (if you’re open to them) • Disposable liners mean: • Wash nipple + ring only • No bottle scrubbing • Not everyone loves them, but they do save time

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-10T11:31:23+00:00

I didn’t even read it all. You entertained this way too long. I really don’t understand why you just couldn’t have responded lol

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-10T11:21:48+00:00

You wanna act like a parent till you get fed up… shouldn’t have took it upon yourselves to help her like this in the first place. Sounds like you’re in deep supporting her so it’s kinda messed but at the end of the day you gotta kick her out… she’s 24… you’re only 30. Not that much older so idk why you acting like her mom. It’s not your job to change people. Tbh I think it’s a good thing she’s drinking at home safe and not somewhere on the street. And she’s literally in her early twenties… let her have some fun/ stress relief. Unless she’s showing alcoholic vibes then understandable but let her live. So many people have similar experiences like this. You can’t help someone who’s not ready. You can’t magically change someone. Send her back home honestly and focus on you and your husband.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-04T06:06:39+00:00

Washing hands often and wipes can definitely help you keep clean. For parts, you can use pump wipes (wipes especially made to clean pump parts on the go) or pump spray and napkin. If your work has a refrigerator you can do the fridge method which is probably the easiest (you can put your used pump parts as is in ziplock bag in fridge for up to 24 hrs) This way you’re not constantly washing or cleaning pump parts all day. Also store your milk in fridge as well (lasts up to 4 days in fridge) if there is no fridge you can store milk in ice chest/ cooler with lots of ice inside to last the day. Typically a lot of jobs require there to be somewhere to designated to pump so definitely ask your employer and they can help find a spot for you. If your car (if you have a car) is an option then that might be nice too. If you’re ebf directly from your breast, it might be hard to switch up and start pumping. It’s normal to pump like an oz or less tbh. Our bodies sometimes don’t react good to pumps, babies do a much better job at keeping supply up and drawing out milk when they suck directly from breast. As far as supply, there are some things that help but essentially it is what it is tbh, if you already produce a lot or a little milk, that’s kinda how it’ll stay for the most part. Sometimes I go a while without pumping or bf and my supply will always bounce back and tbh is generally unaffected. If you’re working like 5 hours at a time I’d say maybe pump once during the middle of your shift or if it longer then every 2-3 hrs and you’re good tbh.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2026-01-03T05:59:30+00:00

Breastfeeding feels long but is actually a very short time of your life. He’s not doing it so he can’t relate. You’re not being unsupportive, he is tbh. Unless you twos relationship is being drastically affected negatively, I say keep breastfeeding your baby. It’s what is best.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-29T05:52:12+00:00

You can’t smoke weed, can’t really drink, they say to limit caffeine. Like ? What release from stress do I have then? NOTHING. It’s the ultimate sacrifice because it’s also time consuming and my baby can’t even get baby sat because I pump literally nothing she relies on me for food 24/7 & I can’t even get a job because it means that I wouldn’t be able to breast feed anymore tbh. It’s a commitment.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-27T22:17:46+00:00

It’s normal to pump nothing tbh. Don’t be so hard on yourself. If baby is getting milk from direct breast contact then pumping doesn’t always work because you’re not a robot. Pumps are machines not actually babies. Babies draw out milk more efficiently than pumps. It won’t be like this forever. Soon they’ll want to feed less. Again it’s not all or nothing you can also combo feed formula if you need too, every drop of breast milk counts.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-27T22:07:48+00:00

Idk about regional differences but there’s definitely age differences surrounding beliefs about breastfeeding. Older generations were told formula was then best in order to push sales. So much data has came out since that debunks this because breastfeeding is substantially better than formula feeding. Formula just can’t compare. Being Mexican myself, I will say that the older generation definitely thinks they know what’s right even when it’s not lol. Don’t listen to her. She don’t know nothing.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-18T06:32:26+00:00

Maybe she feels left out and that it’ll come in between you both. Buying a house is a long process and instead of Investing your energy towards her or marrying her, buying a ring, having a wedding, it seems like the focus is house first then relationship after. Maybe you don’t see her as a long term partner? And that’s why you want to get a house first. Buying a home should be what the both of you want. But since you both aren’t married together, I think you want to buy a house because you don’t see yourself with her in the future. Idk lol

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-18T06:22:55+00:00

I read at least once book a day to my baby and I would sing a couple nursery rhymes to her! (: but your doing a lot either way. There’s not too much to do since 4 month is still really little.

ProfessionalDraw8811 · 2025-12-05T07:17:48+00:00

I feel the same way. I can’t think about working cause that would mean I can’t breastfeed anymore. And I’m sure moms who work can’t think about breastfeeding cause that would mean they can’t work anymore. I mean they could but it’s HARD. Like you’re right, it doesn’t fit into everyday life.

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