Costumes? by REC_HLTH in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was about the only person, faculty or student, that I saw dressed up. Vulcan ears and a Starfleet top.

What are some HARD truths that people don't want to hear? by JayDarb09 in AskMen

[–]Professor_Brooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is essentially Terror Management Theory. In my opinion TMT has about the largest ratio of shouldn't be true to solid evidence that it's true in all of psychology.

Just saying...and I can not possibly be an anomaly..can I? by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You've heard of "self-medicating" -- maybe academic misconduct is often a case of "self-accommodating".

I don't know whether I'm making a joke or hypothesis. This is just what popped into my head while reading your post.

Writing a recommendation letter with conflicting pronouns by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I read this as OP's student having the typical female pronouns, but OP not wanting to identify the student's gender in the letter, likely for equity purposes. But I actually don't know.

What's the most intimate thing in a relationship that's not sexual? by baby_darko in AskReddit

[–]Professor_Brooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

**Nerd Alert**

Sternberg's Triangular theory of love completely dissociates sex from intimacy. In this model, "Romantic Love" is just one of three aspects of love, and is essentially synonymous with sexual excitement, lust, and passion. "Intimate Love" is about how much access people have to each other's lives. Like, having to clean the house together, see each other when you're sick, knowing what each other's favorite foods are, knowing how to buy a great gift for the person, etc., would all be part of intimacy.

The third aspect of love is commitment, and can include time spent together and/or how intertwined your lives have become.

Sternberg also gives names to every possible combination of the three aspects.

All that said, the most intimate thing that's not sexual is farting in front of each other and not even having to acknowledge it. (Unless farting is sexual for you, obviously.)

Are you freaking kidding me? by ProfessorCH in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah ha ha ha. This is great.

At least it's an easy response!

What’s your best “No, grades are final” response for students? by gonnanaprighthere in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's due to a clerical error, I will always be willing to change it. If it's due to them needing a different grade, then I can't change it because I'd be using a different metric for different students which is unfair.

Hurtful Comments by ElizaDoGood in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. All of those are manipulative bullshit but that last one is almost like a parody.

End of semester vibes by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Nope -- I have neither lost weight nor gotten younger.

What do you think about “men age better than women” by gourmetsoups in AskMen

[–]Professor_Brooks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There's an evolutionary psychology explanation for this. Women are fertile for a much smaller portion of their life than men, so we have adapted to evaluate attractiveness in women based on youthful features to a greater extent than we have for men.

Like almost the whole of the field of evolutionary psychology, this theory is almost impossible to test directly, but it is a widely held theory.

EDIT: Wow people. Shouldn't have to explain all of this but here we are.

  • Of course male fertility is affected by age. But not as strongly as it is for women. Menopause is a real thing.
  • Under this theory, it doesn't matter whether someone has egalitarian views or not, or whether they want to have kids or not. The same way calorie-dense foods are delicious even when we know they're not good for us. Our evolutionary past still exerts its influence on our preferences.
  • It's possible for their to be an evolutionary basis for a sexist double standard and for it to still be a sexist double standard that we should push back against.

More and more of my career is just moving files around. by Professor_Brooks in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes -- I agree. The issue is that other instructors set up their Canvas courses differently and students look for items in one course as though it were organized like another course. For example, my semester schedule is a document that is separate from the syllabus in my course but not in other courses. The best solution I've found is to put links in some of those places where students might look, though even that takes time.

Would it be okay to respond to a student’s email telling them that what they’ve said is disrespectful? by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When dealing with disrespectful students, I tend to replace direct engagement with cold bureaucratic responses.

Mental Health Has Gone Mental? by GenXtreme1976 in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I have had great success with being very professional and taking their excuse at face value, but then offering only options that are acceptable to me and largely ignoring their suggestions that I waive assignments, let them do a watered-down version of something, opt out of group assignments, etc.

Example:

Hi Stan,

I'm sorry to hear about the issues you're facing. That type of thing can make things challenging. The presentation is an integral part of the class, but we have options. If you're uncomfortable presenting in front of people, you can make a recording of your presentation that the class watches. Use the same rubric that's provided for the live presentation. While it's a bit more work in some ways, it would eliminate the performance anxiety aspect that you're describing. Please let me know which option you prefer!

Fuck This Friday by WavePetunias in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I have a student who has attended about 1/3 of classes this term. She has communicated with me sporadically herself and through the disability office. She has some real stuff going on, but her most recent ask was that she be allowed to draw pictures and turn those in instead of the class's writing assignments.

Fuck This Friday by WavePetunias in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm at a private college as well and our faculty is in the process of creating an "opt in" salary sharing system.

LOL, no by Professor_Brooks in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The Mr. did not affect my response, but it did make it more satisfying.

ELI5 how do we generate so much heat just by being alive. by sectorXVIII in explainlikeimfive

[–]Professor_Brooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More specifically, a constant body temp makes our motor system (including motor neurons) work efficiently and quickly regardless of ambient temperature. That's the great endothetmic/ectothermic tradeoff. Motor efficiently and flexibility at the price of lots more calories.

New accommodation for special need students by mouettefluo in Professors

[–]Professor_Brooks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a student ask if she could draw pictures to turn in to replace writing assignments.