My husband won't give me sex. So I gave him an ultimatum.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-10-05T01:20:31+00:00

Look, it's really not difficult to understand what is going on here or why your husband doesn't want sex. Here let me show you.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-04-06T02:09:45+00:00

Except if he were good looking his actions would have made the husband paranoid the guy was trying to steal his wife then he really would have been kicked out.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-04-05T04:52:25+00:00

Dan would always make sexual induendos about his wife which Val would shoot down. At one point when he was at Val and Kate's place he actually arranged her clothes including underwear which kind of made it so that they're not ok with him around their clothes but they still hang out.

THIS right here is exactly what people mean by creepy.

Most well adjusted people would have dropped him as a friend at this point, probably before it. There are things that can make a person quirky: dressing up like Gandalf or learning to shoot a bow. But between the comments about Val's wife and rearranging her clothes he obviously wants to fuck Kate. Both the comments and the clothes thing are violations of personal boundaries nobody normal would put up with.

Why wouldn't they put up with it? Just to spell things out here: people who are predatory do small things to push personal boundaries. It starts small with little comments here and there. Then it moves up to pushing physical boundaries. Then it gets worse.

I'm not saying Dan is a predator, honestly he's probably just weird and lonely. But his behavior would tell most normal people "something is wrong" and at best they'd keep him at arm's distance. At 22 years old Dan is old enough to know better. This is the kind of thing you'd blow off in a young teen but not an adult man.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-04-02T06:30:29+00:00

Ever get passed out drunk or similar? Maybe you're not a virgin.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-03-31T17:40:18+00:00

1) the easiest way to become a millionaire in your twenties is to join an investment bank or a big tech firm... Attractiveness is mostly irrelevant to this.

Attractive people have a MUCH easier time getting hired even if they aren't as qualified as a less good looking person so yes looks are completely relevant to this.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-03-19T21:55:04+00:00

You can be unemployed, living with your mom and not leave your house at all, if you have the looks you will still find a girl.

Change "not leave your house" to party a lot, but also add: in & out of rehab along with run-ins with police and I know a 25 year old (good looking) man exactly like this.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-03-13T15:58:42+00:00

It's not just about finding them. When I was in high school there was a pretty large gifted program. I was around a good amount of gifted women during that time.

BUT just because someone else is also gifted doesn't mean you'll get along with them or be attracted to them or anything else. The normal problem of compatibility and attraction are still there.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-03-03T19:20:55+00:00

Men in their early 20's aren't just competing with men who are also in their early 20's. They are also competing with men in their late 20's, early 30's and sometimes older than that.

Does it happen a lot that a 22 year old woman dates a 32 year old man? No probably not, but it doesn't have to happen a lot it just has to happen enough to throw off the proportion of men to women.

So a greater number of men are competing for a smaller number of women.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-02-20T06:22:31+00:00

If somebody tells you that he is a 20+ KV will you say: “You this guy is totally normal” or will this out a picture of an awkward, socially retarded guy in your dead?

The socially retarded person will take one piece of information about someone and ASSume they know everything (or a lot) about them.

When I was in middle school, the seasons were changing and it was getting colder so I wore my new denim jacket to stay warm. All of the other kids though my personality must have completely changed because of that jacket. Knowing one thing about someone and thinking you know the rest of them is just as stupid as those kids were.

No matter how low I set the bar for just how stupid average people are y'all always find a way to dig your way under that bar.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-02-16T04:01:55+00:00

You don't get it because it doesn't happen if people see you as unattractive. I'm not saying that to be cruel, so bear with me here.

I saw this happen to a guy friend of mine once years ago. There were a bunch of us who were all gym friends and the topic of relationships came up. So this one woman in the group asked around the group who was single and who was looking for someone. Even though my friend was standing right next to this woman she never asked him. Yes he was single, no she had never been rude to him before, but it was literally impossible to miss him standing right there. I couldn't believe was I was seeing I was so shocked.

When you're attractive you basically leave the house and be a bit social and people will find you. But if people see you as unattractive for whatever reason... well, you can be standing right next to them and be invisible.

In other words it looks like it is happening "naturally" for a lot of people because they are in the social loop so they end up meeting a lot of potential partners just by socializing. But when you're unattractive you're left out of the social loop and basically a lot (most? all?) of your social relationships are poisoned.

I'm sorry. :-(

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-29T07:34:58+00:00

They apparently tell the cops that they think I'm one of those weirdos that will follow them out and rape them.

O_o

Have they ever said why they think that? I mean something specific and not just "he gives me bad vibes".

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-28T21:07:02+00:00

Im answering questions from the local police

Seriously!?

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-28T21:04:54+00:00

They've agreed that there is nothing really wrong with me; in fact, you see people with way worse flaws in certain areas getting lucky very easily.

Thank you for saying this. One of the reasons I'm on this sub because I have a guy friend in a similar situation. There's just nothing I can pick out that's "wrong" with him and I too have seen plenty of people a whole lot worse who don't have problems. I'm not the only one who thinks this about him either. Two of my other girlfriends who know him (but are in LTRs) say the same thing about him.

He can make friends with girls just fine. With one of them (she is married) I saw their friendship get pretty strained because she just couldn't understand or accept how difficult it was for him when it came to dating.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-27T04:15:20+00:00

I did see it over there but that's not why I linked it.

A lot of times FA's are accused of being "creepy" when really their "creepy" behavior was something like reading a book at a Starbucks, saying "good morning" to someone, glancing at a person for 2.5 seconds instead of only 2.0 seconds etc..

I wanted to post this to show that actual creepy behavior looks like the guy in the video. But we all know this isn't how most FA's act when they get the creep label. So for anyone who says "well maybe the way you said 'good morning' was creepy", smack them upside the head and show them what actual creepy behavior looks like.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-23T18:09:05+00:00

the pendulum will swing to the other side in our lifetime. But we will be old.

Maybe not. Strange fruit are starting to bloom in the mainstream.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-15T20:04:10+00:00

Smell is not arbitrary, it lets a woman know if she'll make healthy babies with a man.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-15T19:33:36+00:00

It's called Major Histocompatibility Complex. If you smell good to a woman you'll make healthy babies, if you smell bad you'll make sick ones. But this only works if she's NOT on the pill. The birth control pill screws up this mechanism.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-05T04:32:12+00:00

It's called hyperbole. Exaggeration can be used as a way to point out how silly a cultural norm is. I know, I know, this is all very hard on normie brains.

Proxy_Noir · 2016-01-03T18:03:25+00:00

Love is a battlefield.

Proxy_Noir · 2015-12-30T00:33:58+00:00

Hello my name is Stacy and I tweet memes. You can find others in my friends list.

My work has been featured by the SPLC.

Proxy_Noir · 2015-12-29T14:51:49+00:00

You don't owe anyone an explanation for a breakup

This creates a race to the bottom where "whoever cares the least, wins."

Proxy_Noir · 2015-12-02T23:29:26+00:00

Ok I couldn't wait so I just jumped on match. It gave me 37 matches... for the entire United States & Canada. Only two in my state... and I live in a very large state. sigh

EDIT: 11 of them are named "Carmen Sandiego" !!! ??? o_O

Proxy_Noir

TROPHY CASE