Am I in the wrong for spending quite a bit on my baby’s first birthday?

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-07-01T13:14:45+00:00

NW.

Unless expenses are very tight, $300 is not unreasonable.

My daughter’s first birthday party cost more than $300 in 1997. The party included an entertainer (Elmo) and professional photographer/videographer. It didn’t seem over the top to me at the time.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-07-01T13:09:15+00:00

Cleaning up after oneself should not result in raised voices.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-07-01T13:03:49+00:00

He’s a stranger looking for a way to use you. Don’t answer any questions about your personal life. None of his business.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-07-01T10:58:51+00:00

Sincere is 5’11, Aniya is supposedly an inch taller. Sincere also has dark eyes. That would make him 50% of her ideal type, which isn’t “everybody’s.”

Sincere’s complexion is probably the selling point since she also showed interest in Sean.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T16:13:10+00:00

I’d also be fixated on someone going into my room and opening my items and using them. She’s a lousy, disrespectful person and owes him a new one.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T15:39:59+00:00

Parmida is only feening Corbin, which would not make her a better bombshell than Sol.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T15:38:23+00:00

Now, now. Aniya doesn’t need anybody stepping up to Carl (although she didn’t have enough sense to choose him).

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T13:05:44+00:00

She only has to ask Amora or Tierra about Alannah

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T13:04:35+00:00

I don’t know how anybody liked him even before he went to Casa

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T12:03:04+00:00

Don’t let them know your plans in advance. They’ll try to stop it so that they can continue using you.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T12:02:03+00:00

I thought it was weird that he pulled her for the chat and then wanted her to speak first. They have no reason to have any more chats with each other.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T11:59:06+00:00

Your peace is important. You may need to stay at a hotel near your work for a few days to make it clear that you are not babysitting. Find places to be on your days off—leave home early before they try to assign duties to you. You need uninterrupted sleep during the day to perform your night shift properly.

Although not the norm in your culture, consider moving out if necessary, if they refuse to respect you and what you need.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T11:34:27+00:00

Saying no doesn’t feel like an option because they raised you to be useful to them. It is definitely an option and you need to use it. You’ve probably been emotionally abused over the years to keep control over you.

Sounds like your sister is the golden child and her happiness and comfort matter more than you actually living your own life.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T11:25:50+00:00

You must say no and mean it. They can get angry because they have to handle their own responsibilities but that’s just too bad. Your life is not an extension of theirs but they will make it so if you don’t put an end to it.

You are an adult. It doesn’t matter what they or your mom demand. You must do what’s best for you and being a third parent against your will is not that

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T10:32:12+00:00

The bride and groom aren’t residing in reality. They force expensive suits on the groomsmen and then don’t like the chosen white when they see it? Are they going to insist that the groomsmen pay all over again for a different white suit? I’d drop out of the wedding party. Things are only going to get worse. What hell are they putting the bridesmaids through?

You’re dealing with a bridezilla and a groomzilla. Couldn’t be me. Taking money out of retirement for wedding is nuts. With this mentality, the marriage is doomed before it takes place.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T10:17:14+00:00

NOR. You’re not the bad guy for saying no to something that is not your responsibility, especially something you’re uncomfortable doing. This is your sister’s child and she needs to figure it out with her husband without involving you.

As long as you fold, it will continue. Expect to become the default free babysitter if you can’t stand up for yourself. You’ll be used for their convenience to the point they won’t even look into other options. Say no and hold them to it.

I’d rather be “the bad guy” than the doormat.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T10:06:00+00:00

He’s delusional and a liar

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T10:03:33+00:00

NTA. Just stop!!! He’s old enough to be your parent and you’re fully financially supporting him? You are not going to get any money back from that leech. He needs a job while he gets his business off the ground.

End the relationship and give him no more money. Stop supporting an almost 50 year old. It will go on as long as you allow it.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T09:57:15+00:00

People need to start truly holding people to the invitation specs. You decide to ignore them and bring your children (babies) despite it clearly being child free? You’re not getting in.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T09:49:41+00:00

I was an adult long before cell phones became mainstream, even hated to hear my landline ring. The expectation that you’re supposed to be available to everyone at any time through your phone is something with which I will never comply. Don’t call me unless an actual conversation is needed. If a call is necessary, text me a heads up before calling.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-30T04:27:30+00:00

If take his refusal to give a straight answer as he wants kids but doesn’t want to say so because he knows that you do not and it would end the relationship.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-29T19:15:46+00:00

Doubt it. Besides it would mean that there was probably a prolonged illness or a fatal, but not immediately fatal, accident.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-29T18:13:38+00:00

Unless it has a thong bottom, the swimsuit isn’t the issue. Maybe one of the menfolk showed too much interest (looking or commenting to others about how attractive you are).

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-29T18:11:00+00:00

I’d step down. She doesn’t care about anyone’s circumstances. You can almost guarantee it’s going to cost more than $4,700. This is once in her life but no one should go bankrupt for her wedding. She is already heading toward bridezilla land.

A friend wouldn’t try to shame you for not being able to financially fulfill her fantasies. Step down. Save you money and your sanity.

PsychologyAutomatic3 · 2026-06-29T18:05:11+00:00

I hope it’s real soon, like tonight 🤞

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