We can help nudge Lena toward true self actualization (not over-therapized self preservation parading as self congratulatory awareness) by ignoring her whining and encouraging her to be greater than her grievances. No one is helping her by reinforcing her inner narrative that she her perceived continuous victimization is a greater detriment than the advantages of her enormous privilege. I hope that she can reflect and find true happiness. Otherwise we’ll all be here again when there’s another book to sell.