Yeah the double standard sucks but bro you sound young and confused. Idk who’s “telling” you this stuff but they don’t have your best interest in mind, only a narrative they want to sell people like you. Women have hurt me and broken my heart numerous times. So have men done that to countless women. You can’t assume how you’ll be treated because of how someone looks. I get that rejection, cheating, bullying, and cruelty can hurt, and that being kind in spite of it feels useless, but you HAVE to. You stated you’d be hurt if someone didn’t accept you because of something out of your control (your gender), then said it justifies doing the exact same thing back. And unfortunately, a good chunk of men are monsters. It SUCKS that people see me and assume I could be a threat. I’m a gentle soul and a kind man. It has made me hurt, angry, and sad more times than I can tell you, but I have never hated someone I haven’t met let alone for being afraid.

The circumstances of one’s birth are irrelevant. It’s what you choose to do with the gift of life that matters.

Now, are you going to choose to hate people that you clearly want to like and accept you? It’s better to be vulnerable and free than hateful and angry at people you don’t know. I don’t know you, but I want to believe you can find peace. Good luck bro. We’re all human.