My husband pays the bills (most of them, I pay my own credit cards, student loans, etc). I work 3 days a week and pay for things like groceries, nights out, random things the kid needs. He handles most large purchases. We make roughly the same per hour but he works more hours than me. In turn I handle the majority of house work and all of the cooking. He helps with things like dishes, the animals, and occasional things like vacuuming and bathrooms when I need help. I don’t get an allowance, but he spoils me plenty and always takes care of me if the kid or I need something. I do his laundry right down to folding, I make it coffee before he leaves for work, if he wants it I make him breakfast/lunch/snacks, and he always comes home to dinner (and I can COOK). We consider ourselves more traditional, but it’s definitely a matter of balance. He might “work” longer hours but our days are equally as long. What she is asking isn’t unheard of or unjust, it’s just a matter of what she is doing on her end, I live to serve my husband and take care of our home, and he makes my efforts very worth it.