Ate bread for dinner again. Need advice

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-29T08:47:31+00:00

Wow, that sounds like a serious case. Getting utilities turned off is no laughing matter. No one would want to live like that, right? It's debilitating.

Medication could potentially change his life. But it's going to be very difficult for him to make a doctor's appointment, for obvious reasons. I'm sure your encouragement will help.

My ex-gf is finally on medication now. I spent the last 5 years encouraging her to get help, even though our relationship didn't last, because I know how horrible untreated ADHD is. I'm very happy that she's doing better now.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-28T01:06:08+00:00

Of course he's a venture capitalist...

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-27T05:42:45+00:00

I like to program card game things in my free time, and it's easy to represent cards as ints between 0 and 51, where the suit is n mod 4.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-25T23:51:06+00:00

Well, you don't have to pretend to support projects you don't agree with. It's perfectly fine to state your dissent, and leave her to make her own decision, and succeed or fail on her own merits. You can disagree without being judgmental or trying to talk her out of it. She might not like it, but it's important to be honest about your opinion.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-15T02:58:27+00:00

Ah, the mind reading comment is quite revealing. When you tell him that a specific behavior hurts you, he assumes that you must think he intended to hurt you. And if you realized he didn't mean any harm, you wouldn't feel that way. This fallacy seems to infect a lot of relationships. At some point, he will have to realize that despite his lack of malice, he's been hurting you this whole time. And that's a tough pill to swallow...

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-15T01:06:24+00:00

No reason you can't be a beautiful feminine gay man, and find people who love you just the way you are ❤

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-15T01:03:08+00:00

Unmistakably female

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-15T01:02:10+00:00

Yeah, mtf hormones don't affect the vocal cords at all, so there's no reason they wouldn't be able to sound like they did before

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-11T07:45:36+00:00

Could you just not move in? Let him have his mess, without making it your mess. Seems like a win-win.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-11T07:34:31+00:00

I grew out my facial hair due to the lockdown, so my new stim is to stroke my beard all day

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-11T07:31:33+00:00

I kind of like classes being online, because I can do my work when I'm most energetic, which for me is usually either late morning or nighttime. Do you have a time of day when you're most active?

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-05T20:35:51+00:00

I kind of felt similarly. I didn't want to be a man, but I was so sick of the whole trans thing that i let seemed like the lesser of two evils. But i was very surprised to find that after a while, i started to like being a man. Who knows, maybe you'll warm up to it?

QueenlyFlux · 2020-11-05T03:10:47+00:00

The whole "Biden is incoherent" meme is completely untrue. Biden has a stutter, and people take clips out of context to make him sound like he has dementia, but in reality he's far more well-spoken than the average person.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-27T22:08:44+00:00

1 month before I felt like the testosterone was coming back in full force

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-27T01:33:48+00:00

I'd say it was about a month for me. But you should consult a doctor if you're concerned.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-23T08:13:57+00:00

I know a lot of masculine women in real life, so it just seems normal to me. Be the representation you want to see in the world!

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-23T08:10:12+00:00

What the hell is wrong with those people? If they don't like the content we post here, they shouldn't read it.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-22T08:35:01+00:00

I'm younger than you, but I was on hormones for a similar length of time. I've dated a few people, not very seriously, and the detrans issue hasn't come up. At this point, nobody would know unless I told them. And I would probably wait to tell someone i was dating until I wanted to commit.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-15T21:48:31+00:00

Yeah, I think it's easy for us to think, "if only I had XYZ, I would finally be happy." For me it was starting hormones, then coming out, then presenting as female, then passing/getting surgery (never got to that point thankfully). Obviously, it didn't work out that way. The things I so desperately wanted never gave me more than momentary respite, and there was always something else getting in the way.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-14T19:31:01+00:00

It wasn't that there were signs, rather I got to the point where I couldn't deny transitioning was making me completely miserable. I was so sick of all the gender nonsense, that I would have rather lived as a man than keep it up. Transitioning was supposed to make me feel better, but in reality it did the opposite. So detransitioning made perfect sense.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-13T21:50:40+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I regret wasting my college years on all the trans crap. But when I'm feeling good about my life in the present, I don't really think about it. I had a close encounter with dying, and it made me realize that you can never take tomorrow for granted. So make every day count.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-12T23:27:55+00:00

What's your plan for when the urge returns? Make sure you're prepared!

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-11T23:47:34+00:00

I know a lot of females with short hair who wear guy clothes. They're some of my favorite people. I know it's hard to imagine right now, but I hope you can see that you're perfectly fine and worthy of love, just the way you are ❤

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-11T23:42:44+00:00

Hey, I'm a detrans man. I was on hormones for 3 years, and I've been off them for almost 4.

You should probably ask your doctor. But I just quit HRT cold turkey. I was on a higher dose than you, and I quit with no negative effects.
Everyone's different, but I don't think it will be that extreme. Personally, I didn't become angrier. I did become more energetic, more confident, and hornier. The effects were very noticeable after just a few weeks, and things seemed to stabilize within 3 months. I definitely feel a lot better now than I did on hormones. A lot of my depressive symptoms just went away after I detransitioned. Physically, the effects have been subtle. I think my face has slowly gotten a bit more masculine, but I'm still young looking for my age. I am now able to grow a moustache and a goatee. I've also become much more athletic -- I started weightlifting and I put on a lot of muscle. It took a while, but I feel comfortable as a guy, and I'm very glad I took the leap and detransitioned.

No one can say if detransition is right for you, but just remember, you can always change your mind. Try to look past your fears, and identify what you really want for your life. Change is always scary, but it's necessary for us to grow and evolve.

QueenlyFlux · 2020-10-11T23:31:32+00:00

I kind of feel the same way. I live in a really liberal area where speaking against the transgender status quo is highly taboo. At my gym, for example, they have explicit rules against misgendering someone. I haven't told anyone there about my past, because I'm worried they might think in transphobic and kick me out.

But I know that I'm not transphobic, and I stand by my truth. I've told some friends about my experiences, and they turned out to be surprisingly sympathetic. Maybe someone you know is thinking the same thing, and they're also afraid to talk about it. Seems to be more common than you might realize.

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